do u think i should get married at the age of 19?

Answer 1

NO!!!! I am a firm believer that no one should be allowed to marry that's under 30. (goofy, I know, but true! - and obviously, I am over 30!). It is just so hard for you to believe right now, but 19 is SO young - you have so much ahead of you. I am definitely NOT saying that you don't love the person that you're with, but if that love is meant to last, then it will last until you are 23, at least. I have seen so many people change - especially once they hit 21 - I just wish that you at least think long and hard about it. There are definitely those rare souls that know it's meant to be, and last for another 50 years or more, but nowadays, give it a littlle extra time! (no, you really don't have to wait until you're 30!)
Best wishes to you, and your truly one-true-love.

Answer 2

Each person is different. Some people get married right out of high school and stay married forever. But then there are others that marry and realize that, at 23, they are completely different than when they were 18. Everyone changes throughout their lives... but until you get out of college, or around that age anyway, you adjust and mature so greatly that you share no interests with the person you were with at 18 or 19. You can do whatever you like, be sure you are making the best decision for yourself. Marriage takes a lot of heart, soul and work... no matter what age you are.

Answer 3

I got married at 21 and I would say that if you KNOW you love him and want to be with him FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE, then get married if you feel it is for you. However, if you get married that young, I would wait to have children until much later. I had twins when we were married for 2 years (age 23) and although I love my children with all my heart and do not regret them at all, at the same time I realize that I have missed out on a lot of things that I could have done (either single or with my husband). What you want to do doesn't make any difference once you have children, providing for and taking care of them becomes the only important thing.

I know you asked about marriage and I probably jumped the gun, but that's my two cents. By the way, my husband and I are about to have our 6 year anniversary.

Wanted to add....you should def. live on your own for a while first. You gain a whole new perspective.

Answer 4

I would say No. My son did and his wife is pregnant and only 17 ... broke my heart...but I do hope that they make it. My own parents got married when my Mom was 17 and my father was 19 ... and they are still together to this day .... 6 kids, 6 grandchildren and 4 great-grandchildren later. It can work. Myself, I got married at 24 and it ended in divorce. I just wasn't ready. It depends on the individual's maturity, life experience, etc. Are your parents still together? Are his? My first husband came from a broken home and I think it had a lot to do with our divorce .. although I had a hand in it too .. I don't blame him for everything. I say, if you both go for pre-marriage counseling to help you understand what you are getting into, if you both have good jobs and are financially okay .. then go for it. Otherwise, think about it a while. If you ask him to wait and he is willing, that is a great sign. If he has to get married NOW .. then he's not thinking about your needs. Good luck!

Answer 5

Only if you are absolutely sure that it is what you want. You have a lot of time ahead of you to really think about your decision and make certain that you are making the right choice. You also have to consider the financial implications of marrying so young, as you may have to give up any education stream that you are currently on, and it is very difficult to get back into education once you have left (it took me over 20 years).

There is no doubt that you love your fella, or else you would not be contemplating such a huge step at such a young age, but marriage can wait. Speak to him and see how much patience you can both exercise, as I am sure you would both benefit from a couple of years steady growth and planning. Best of luck in whatever decision you make.

Answer 6

The downfall of marrying so early is, a person goes through major changes from 19 to 29. Sometimes a couple marrying so young means having children early too, which means education/school stops, limiting yourself to income, and you have to do what you have to in order to provide. In the long run this causes major stress in most marriages and end in divorce. A marriage does need more than Love to survive. If you both remember to grow together, allow/accept each other to grow and give each other the space for individual growth, then I wish you all the luck in the world that love brings.

Answer 7

Disclaimer: It's your life, you can do whatever you want...

That being said, I think getting married is the LAST thing you should do at 19. You can't even legally drink yet, how do you expect to handle the pressure and responsibility? You're young, live life - date a lot of amazing people, and even some jerks so you learn what you like and to appreciate what you have. I'm not saying this is always the case 100% of the time, but most "young marriages" fail, and divorce is expensive, long, and not very fun.

Answer 8

NO. I know it seems like it may be right, and you may be in love... But, you are 19... you have many years ahead of you, and people do the most changing between 20-30. There is no rush to get married, especially if you want to be sure it is a permanent marriage. Be young, and enjoy being young because you won't be forever:) ....At the very least, give it a good 4-5yrs. before you take on that commitment.

Answer 9

That is up to you and how you feel about this person..are you willing to give up a lot for this person or not..i got married when i was 19 and now 21 we are still married..happily married that is and we have a 4 month old son and another on the way..dont listen to anybody but your gut feeling and heart..because it is up to you whether or not you are ready for this big commitment and how he treats you...honestly i dont think it really matters how long you guys have been dating i met my husband in jan of 05 moved in march of 05 and moved to utah with him in nov of 05 and got married in dec 05 just had first baby in july of 07..and we are very happy..ive known peeople who have dated for years and years then get married and it doesnt last...so follow your heart if you wanna wait then wait if not then dont for me i just knew right away and if you decide to get married then just remember it is not easy!! nothing ever is..just make sure you listen to each other and work things out people fight so it wont be perfect just look at your fights like this "if it isnt going to affect you in a week or a month let it go" learn to pick your battles..good luck and congrats if you decide too...

Answer 10

I have seen it work....once. Then I look at the number of friends that got married at the age of 19-21 that are not married, never finished college, had kids, got a dead end job.......need I go on....

People change a lot as a young adult. Most are still trying to figure out who they are what they want in life.

Go to college! Get a degree. Date! if you are still together after graduation.....you are made for each other!

Best of luck!