Sorry for asking more of the same, but in asking about marriage, people highlighted the importance of sex. Is it possible to make a marriage work without full-on sex?
2007-11-30 11:52:51 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm glad that some answers are positive. It's just that any marriage I have will probably be like that unfortunately.
2007-11-30 12:04:40 · update #1
I suppose the question really is, "Do you still find a person who loves you for who you are, if you aren't able to have sex?"
2007-11-30 12:07:33 · update #2
If it was mutal. If emotional needs were being met. Not everyone sex mad.
Sure (although there are 'active' couples) plenty of elderly people have no sex lives :p
2007-11-30 12:03:41 · answer #1 · answered by Help Me 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is, but why would I do that? Besides, I think that just because your married, doesn't mean you can't make agreements to sleep with other people. My partner and I have decided that if it just so happened that sex was impossible between us, for example a horrific accident that left the other paralyzed, sex with a third party is acceptable.
If you're in a sexless marriage, either work on that issue or work on finding a lover. Stay committed to your marriage of course, some will say that's impossible to be committed yet sleep with another! I say marriage isn't about sex unless your a dog. Sex is sex and a long way off from love.
2007-11-30 19:59:01 · answer #2 · answered by some female 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yes. Its possible, if you love that person. Is sex so important to you that you will leave the person you love just because you don't have sex that much.
Try a more intimate approach. Hugging, cuddlying, rubbing - that will be sure to stimulate them and motivate them to have more sex with you.
You can work through this - would you rather have good sex with someone who don't love you. Or would you like to be with the love of your life, the person who loves you unconditionally, who will take care of you and be there for you when you need them. Who will help support you and stick with you through the good and the bad.
Think about all the positive things in the relationships that weighs more than sex.
Hey, there is always masterbation. Just kidding.
2007-11-30 20:01:36 · answer #3 · answered by Tyonka 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Again speaking from experience, if you truely love someone but you desire sex and they don't, the chances of a "good" marriage are very slim. As Susan said, yes many people (usually women) use sex (or lack if it) as a tool to punish the other person. It's not always because that person did any thing wrong, but because they aren't satisfied with their life and the first impulse is to take it out on the person closest to you. Sounds stupid, but it's true. When the person you love continually rejects you, resentment grows. You're not always conscious of it, but it comes out one way or another. There's nothing worse than physically being inches away from someone you deeply love but emotionally, you know they're miles away.
2007-11-30 20:11:54 · answer #4 · answered by bikinkawboy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So many things are far more important than sex. Love and support for two things. It could work. Being open and honest with your partner is far more rewarding anyway. Sex is supposed to be an expression of that love not the other way around. While it is enjoyable to be with someone you love in that way, it is not the most important thing. Besides, there are other ways to be sexual with someone other than the 'conventional' way. A disability in that area can lead to more imaginative and creative ways to be intimate.
2007-11-30 20:18:19 · answer #5 · answered by countrygirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can a marriage work without sex? Sure, if both partners choose it and are comfortable with that arrangement and base their marriage on other things like shared values, friendship, mutual respect, trust, commitment.
Would I stay with my husband if it were a sexless marriage? NO NO NO absolutely not, unless there were some medical reason that he couldn't perform, but if he simply chose not to then I'd have to say, "sorry, see ya."
2007-11-30 20:04:31 · answer #6 · answered by kyeri y 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry, but once committed to a relationship /marriage...you take it for the good the bad and the ugly.
Even if one person is injured/ paralyzed... that does not give the other the right to go out and fornicate with a stranger!
God made us take those vows for a reason.
"To love, honor and cherish...until death do us part."
Where in there does it say until one is incapable of having sex / intimate relationship? NOWHERE!
Besides, there are other ways to enjoy intimacy
2007-11-30 20:05:28 · answer #7 · answered by Midnight Winter WOLF 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on what you mean by "full-on sex". If you mean "intercourse", then I think that it's possible. There are a lot of creative things you can do other than intercourse. I do think, however, that physical intimacy is a must. Or at the very least, it would be very difficult to maintain a marriage without any physical intimacy. Especially if other "opportunities" enter your life. The temptation could easily be overwhelming.
2007-11-30 20:00:12 · answer #8 · answered by plungeroo 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible, if it's a decision made by both partners.
Sometimes illness or injury don't permit partners to have sex.
Sex is important in marriages and shouldn't ever be used as a leverage tool, or a punishment,,,,,but it happens.
2007-11-30 20:01:16 · answer #9 · answered by Susan M 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, assuming sex isn't that important to both of you. Sex is nice, but I honestly think if something happened to my husband and I couldn't have sex anymore, it really wouldn't bother me that much. I did vow to love, honour and cherish, in sickness and in health, til death us do part. And I take that very seriously.
I think emotional intimacy is more important than physical anyway.
2007-11-30 20:01:21 · answer #10 · answered by Shayna 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋