I'm 18. I'm really curious about this, as I'd like to marry and have a committed relationship somtime in the future. I've heard quotes like...
"Marriage is the best way to ruin a beautiful relationship"
"Marriage is a grounds for divorce"
"One should always be in love - that's why one should never get married"
What's more, I hear so many middle-aged married men complaining about their wives and their lack of freedom. But I've always thought that marriage would be ideal, a perfect bond that should last for life.
As far as I can remember, 2/3 families divorce. How **** is that? All opinions and responses appreciated.
2007-11-30 11:34:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey Owen, I really like your answer. I feel that way about a girl. Now, just to persuade her about me... Lol (joking).
2007-11-30 11:49:12 · update #1
It comes down to one important thing choosing wisely before popping the big question.
Meaning if the person you are dating you feel like you would die if anything happened to her or you could just not live without her in your life that si a keeper.
If you look at her and can't see yourself wanting to spend eternity with her then well she ain't the one move on and keep looking.
Remember love finds you faster when you ain't looking. It is quite possible you may have alot of flings before you marry unless you are smart and save yourself for the one you commit your life too.
2007-11-30 11:45:35 · answer #1 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you marry the right person, marriage is good. Also, married people (the men especially) tend to live longer than singles.
For a marriage to be good, you can not be selfish. Selfishness has no place inside the bounds of marriage. Our needs should be met by our spouses, and in turn, we are to meet their needs. Love, committment, emotional togetherness, communication, honesty, fidelity, and a healthy sense of give and take, combined with the ability to argue effectively, all make for a good marriage. So many people have lost touch with what it takes to make a beautiful marriage, hence the reason for the high divorce rate.
Oh, having a good sex life is great too!
2007-11-30 19:45:48 · answer #2 · answered by Shayna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a terrible marriage and I can tell you why looking back. I didn't know him long enough.
I listened to others tell me I'll never find anyone as nice and ignored my instincts.
I was young and didn't know myself as much as I should have.
The worst mistake I made was bringing my daughter into a less than perfect situation. Now her life will never be as good as it would have been if I'd been more responsible and just known him longer. Date for at least a year and don't live together first. Statistically you're better off that way.
2007-11-30 21:23:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From experience I can tell you that a good marriage is the best thing that can happen to you and a bad one is the worst thing. Everyone has their own wants, needs, goals, likes and dislikes and to have a good marriage, it needs to be a two way street. Both should be able to give and take at times. When it's all one way, resentment builds no matter how much you love them. Most important is being able to communicate truthfully. Most men are poor liers because women are very good at reading body language. Women are much better liers because us guys miss a lot of the visual cues. So if thruthfulness isn't a priority, the guy's going to lose every time.
2007-11-30 19:53:39 · answer #4 · answered by bikinkawboy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me marriage is a great thing. But I didn't go into marriage lightly. I talked with my soon to be spouse and made sure that we wanted much of the same things. Like kids and how we would raise and discipline them, where we wanted to be in ten years from now. So I knew we were compatable and we both are very much in love. I even got married at a young age(19) and I don't regret my decision or think I should have waited.
2007-11-30 20:12:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends.... you wanna get married for all the right reasons. Don't just do it for the hell of it or because she's prego (u know what i mean). The time will come when u know u're ready. But ur still young and marriage should be the last thing u think about.
2007-11-30 19:47:39 · answer #6 · answered by G@Nj@Kw3eN**** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on who you marry and the goals in your marriage a marriage with no goals is down fall
2007-11-30 19:40:12 · answer #7 · answered by LivingMyLife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a marriage is what you make of it if you want that happy everhappy life you will make the best years of our life
2007-11-30 21:58:02 · answer #8 · answered by broboon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good
2007-11-30 21:10:36 · answer #9 · answered by ONHOUA_CHETEK8E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋