Help with an ex?

Question

I know this is in a different section but I was hoping for a bit more.. how to say.. grown up response to the question that may be more helpful

There is a lot of background that no one will really want to read, so here are the cliff's notes.. My ex from, oh 5 years ago, and I have been talking off and on the last few years. We started to get back together but she ended up going back to her ex. She really didnt know what she wanted I think.

So now there has been more time. We started talking again and we're both single but kind of seeing other people on the side here and there. I stopped seeing other people because I'm completely in love with her. There isn't another girl I would rather be with.

She thinks i'm still clingy, which i'll admit i was in the past. Right now I been letting her come to me and such. Now, I know she is starting to talk with this other guy and now i'm feeling i should fight for her but kind of hard if she thinks i'm being clingy.

Any suggestions?

Answer 1

if she was in love with u the way u are her, nothing could keep her away from u. she might learn to value u more if u would play harder to get and not be so available all of the time. your way too eager so she may be one of these women that sees no value in that. its only when u make yourself distant, and harder to get will she want u. clingy men and men who are too eager loose out respect wise. if your too eager she may think theres something wrong with u, and that will cause her to back off. but seriously i would not stop seeing others unless she makes a commitment to u, or u are engaged. why put your life on hold for someone who is not showing u she even wants u.

Answer 2

This will be hard to accept, but she's using you like a spare tire, only when needed. Tell her how you feel and then back off (as far as calling her, etc). If you matter to her, she'll make the overture. There's the chance you are so good at hiding your feelings that she is afraid to tell you how she feels. Incidently, after you tell her how you feel, if she has to think about it, then write her off. This is one time where you need a quick answer and if you really do matter to her, she'll be able to give you a quick answer. Also consider that some women are absolutely stupid. Their "man" can beat the crap out of them and they'll keep going back for more, believing that he's going to change. If she's that type of person, you sure don't need to get involved with her (and him). Good luck.

Answer 3

In my opinion it just seems like she comes to you on the re-bound. If you truly love her then tell her and don't let her go again. Tell her that your feelings are too strong just to settle being a ex with benefits. Good luck to you.