it made me feel bad. but i did like beg him to be honest (im an idiot) and he told me that. we eventualy broke up and its been about 8 months. i havent even kissed a guy sence. but i do want to feel better about myself for the next time i want to have sex. that will be a long time because i waight a long time before i have sex with a boyfriend. any tightening suggestions and personal experiance advice? i know of kagals...do the actualy tighten or just help the bladder? how long will they take to work?
2007-11-30 11:30:06 · 18 answers · asked by Goddess of the Seashells 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
kegels exercises do help. It takes about 2-4 weeks for you to acctually feel the results. You have to do it several times a day. Look it up on different ways to do them (like any exercise, it does get boring over time so you need different ways to do it to keep it interesting). Good luck.
As for the guy, just think of him as being "small". He is a jerk for saying that to you.
2007-11-30 11:37:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Men who are interested in that are more than a little incompetent and weird. Exercise, like Kegels, helps, but so does regular sex. You can get exercise aids, just for Kegelling, at the sex shop, if it's a good one and has a variety. Doctors prescribe them sometimes if a person has had an injury or operation or something that has made them lose muscle tone down there. But really, if you're healthy and young, you would be just like nature intended you to be. Sure we come indifferent shapes and sizes. Like the Kama Sutra says, there are deer (small people), horses (medium sized people) and elephants (the really big ones). These are all normal things. But your guy may have been a "deer" and tried to blame it on you. Or, worse thought, he was a closet case who had discovered that anal sex was tighter and preferred that. Don't let a pervert like that talk you into that. That's a one-way exit. The worse problem with it is that sperm contains something to shut down the immune system a little bit where it goes, so the sperm will not be killed before they reach an egg. To the vagina this is normal and will not hurt it.That's how it's supposed to be. But to the anus, that's the worst thing because the lining of your intestines is where YOUR immune system lives, and it could break your immune system down, real bad. Why do you think AIDS hits anal sex people more than others? Their immune systems get this attack. So if your ex bf was that kind of freak, be glad you got away from the selfish perv. A nice guy would never say, or think, such crap. A nice guy would help you exercise your way to a power squeeze. What fun. Go find a nice man and don't play around, get a real one. Or just say no, until you find the one YOU want. Then make him wait a while, too. You're worth it. Anybody who cheapens sex, cheapens you. Nuh-uh. Don't let them playas play that on you.
2007-11-30 12:21:11 · answer #2 · answered by skier_80302 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your mother in law and her boyfriend should not tell you what you should do or ask for during YOUR delivery. I did not have an epidural but I can tell you that when they asked me about options months before hand they told me that an epidural does not harm the mom or the baby in any way. Everyone's delivery experience is different. In my case I had no epidural. The contractions felt like the veins on my back and my spine were being injected with freezing cold metal. The actual pushing and everything after that didn't hurt one bit. There is no guarantee that an epidural will take away most or all the pain. But as long as you discussed this entirely with your doctor, then there should be no reason for you to be swayed by someone who will not be going through the tough experience. When your mother in law said that real women don't get epidurals, she was being rude and insensitive. So what if you don't want to deal with pain. Epidurals were invented as a way to bring a more comfortable experience to women who are already going through the most painful thing in their lives. All you are doing is taking advantage of available help. The only bad thing I have heard is that some women get awful back pains around the winter months when they've had epidurals. Happened to my aunt, mom, sister, and my husband's ex wife. BUT, don't let that or ANYTHING anyone says to you get in the way of YOUR health care and what you choose for your delivery. Good luck and stand up for your rights, choices, and decisions!!! You are not hurting yourself and you are most certainly NOT hurting your baby!!!
2016-04-06 21:44:58 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly now, he probably said that out of meaness just to make you feel bad. if he had any indication you guys would be breaking up it would put that thought in your head and you wouldnt want to have sex with anyone else. did it work? i bet it did. disregard what he said and never ask that question again. he also may have had a smallie and was embarrassed. if you were truly "bigger" down there he could point it to the side of your wall while you were intimate.
2007-11-30 11:37:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Kegals tighten the muscles of the vaginal floor. They are a good practice to get into.
That being said, don't let this bother you. You broke up with him for a reason.
2007-11-30 11:34:26 · answer #5 · answered by doodlebuttus 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kegals work well to strengthen the muscles of the vagina, they don't actually do anything for the bladder, just the muscles surrounding the bladder.
2007-11-30 12:05:38 · answer #6 · answered by paganmom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's a jerk. What makes him an expert? Any real guy isn't going to have a problem with you. Be more selective about the guy you sleep with and if they care about you it won't be a problem.
2007-11-30 11:39:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He was probably a needle D-ck canary raper...kagal exercising does assist with your problem.
2007-11-30 12:26:47 · answer #8 · answered by Joel H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your ex boyfriend is a D--K HEAD. your a perfectly normal person. TIGHTEST. whats in on about. when you love a person. and he loves you. those things don't enter you head. take it from me. when you meet a guy who loves you. and you love him. it so sweet. and unbelievable. good luck for the future.
2007-11-30 12:18:11 · answer #9 · answered by willy wom bat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
kegel does help- it makes muscles stronger
when you have sex flex those muscles (just like doing exercise) and it will give him the best feeling ever
2007-11-30 22:48:22 · answer #10 · answered by supergirl 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋