I have a new co-worker. She is having an affair with one of the married associates at our firm. Allthough she is good at her job, she got the position because of him, as she wasn't previously qualified. This guy's wife just found out she has cancer, and that it is terminal. Instead of being there for her, he continues in this blatant affair. Here is my problem. We have a very tight-knit office, and are all very friendly with each other. We all go out to lunch, etc., and socialize with each other, but I can't bring myself to accept this person. Everytime I look at her, I think about what she is doing (she knows.) How can I get past this to have a working relationship with her, that is necessarily close in nature because of our small office?
2007-11-30 11:22:52 · 10 answers · asked by HooliganGrrl 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
work is work, just dont hang out with her outside officer... during lunch time, just try not to talk to her, if she does talk to you just smile and be polite, its not your battle to fight for.
2007-11-30 20:04:59 · answer #1 · answered by Kristine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's your opinion to feel about her the way you do as I would also. Don't let their affair overwhelm you. This man and woman are obviously too wrapped up with each other and don't care who gets hurt. Try just putting it out of your mind while your at lunch... why let her consume your thoughts. Good luck and I'm so sorry for that poor man's wife.
2007-11-30 19:29:14 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be civil and pretend until you can learn to be mature enough to truly mind your own business. Do not gossip or confront her like a bitter old hen. Be friendly as you would with any co-worker. You don't have to develop a relationship with this woman that goes beyond the office, so shut your mouth and go on about your work.
2007-11-30 19:30:47 · answer #3 · answered by some female 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to like her. I think if this was me I'd be looking for another job by now.
I feel for the wife. There is nothing more heartwrenching than going through a very stressful point in your life and not having your partner there for support, and especially for a reason such as this. That hussy has no respect for herself or for anyone around her. She'll probably sleep with someone higher up if it means another promotion or a raise.
2007-11-30 19:35:47 · answer #4 · answered by Shayna 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I honestly would tell her my thoughts. I would tell her I find what she is allowing to happen a little .. depressing, sad, wrong..etc. I would tell her also, although the office space is small, I can't associate with her as long as she continues with this behavior. You have a right to be comfortable in your place of work. Feel free to say the same thing to this man, the one cheating on his sick wife!
Good luck and have a great night.
2007-11-30 19:30:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
You can't make yourself like her. Her ideals and moral convictions are not even close to yours so liking her is not an option or necessity. Just only deal with her out on a NEED TO basis. Don't go out of your way to avoid her and jeopardize your job but do your best to stay out of their drama.
Liking her was not and is not part of your job description but being civil is the best thing to do.
2007-11-30 19:32:06 · answer #6 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
While she is a no good huzzy, its not your place to judge her, with that being said, you don't have to like her, I wouldn't like her an dI wouldn't pretend. I would keep it cordial just because that is the type of person that I am.
2007-11-30 19:27:25 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs.G-unit 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So don't like her. Nobody ever said you have to like her. But you do have to be nice to her.
Just live your life the best you can and don't worry so much about the mistakes other people are making.
You are not the moral police.
Good luck.
2007-11-30 19:26:41 · answer #8 · answered by box of rain 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You don't have to. I would just keep it to work issues only and other than that I would not talk to her. Don't be rude or anything just keep it business like.
2007-11-30 19:27:35 · answer #9 · answered by Dance 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to like her just don't talk to her until you have too. She sounds very trashy
2007-11-30 19:27:28 · answer #10 · answered by LivingMyLife 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋