I have this friend and it seems that we only hang out when its convenient for him and its starting to really piss me off! A lot of the time we only hang out when hes benefiting in some way and I only recently caught on to this but I am kind of a push over and I hate that quality about me, I just let people walk all over me a lot of the time so they think its ok and continue to do it. I was thinking I'd ignore him a bit and wait for him to get a hold of me or if he says he wants to come over then I was thinking about giving him a taste of his own medicine, should I? Also, this may sound stupid but how can I keep myself from texting him when he hasn't texted me and I want to see whats up? Thanks
2007-11-30 11:22:32 · 6 answers · asked by K20 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes. Get fed up.
This has happened once to me, and once to my wife when she was my girlfriend.
Here's what we both did. As a test, we stopped calling or emailing them. We didn't avoid them. We just stopped initiating the contacts. If they were truly our friend, they would call us or email us or want to get together or talk or whatever at some point. The fact that neither person did so indicated these people weren't really our friends.
It may be we thought we were good friends with these people and they didn't have the same opinion of each of us. Who knows? But we stopped investing our time in those relationships that weren't returning anything back, and we were both happier for it.
2007-11-30 11:36:51 · answer #1 · answered by Uncle Pennybags 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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I really, really hate that. It's just their way of trying to make themselves feel better in their own minds. Because after all they have token gay friends...but a true friend wouldn't say something like that about someone they cared about. A true friend would accept you just as you are and not feel the need to say "I have gay friends and I really love them, BUT homosexuality is evil". It would be no different than a white racist saying that they have black friends (just so they don't look racist) and then proceeding to spew hate. It's disgusting. The way I see it, if you are going to be a hateful bigot, at least have the balls to be honest about it. I always reply to Christians (because that's what most homophobes are), "Well I hate the Christianity but I love the Christian." and I watch them turn red with rage. Very rarely do they get the point I was trying to make.
2016-04-04 22:21:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, not me! Camomile tea makes me sneeze! I much prefer Earl Grey with cream. May I offer you some, with a chocolate cookie of course. Yes, Dearest, I really do dislike it when people use the "but" when trying to qualify themselves. You know darned well they're going to try and knife you in the back with that one. It's just like when people say"I don't mean to be nasty *but*..." You get the picture. The phrase "love the sinner but hate the sin" is the same thing. You can't. The hate of the sin will over-ride the so-called love for the sinner. It's human nature no matter what someone is going to say that it's not. Let's be real about this. If the hatred is there, it's going to manifest itself. Sad but true. More tea, Dearest?
2016-03-15 08:43:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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I have this friend and it seems that we only hang out when its convenient for him and its starting to really piss me off! A lot of the time we only hang out when hes benefiting in some way and I only recently caught on to this but I am kind of a push over and I hate that quality about me, I just...
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2016-11-07 03:29:58 · answer #5 · answered by bassage 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You certainly need to boost up your self esteem. You deserve to be treated much better then that. Friends arent just there when they are benefiting. That is what people do when they are using someone. You have to really think about this situation ( doesnt sound like friendship to me ) and come to the conclusion you should be respected more. Playing games like giving him a taste of his own medicine doesnt sound like it would work to me. Be the bigger person and dont allow this to continue anymore. Sounds hard but i feel it would be better in the long run for you.
2007-11-30 17:24:04 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs.Jessica 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just find some other people to hang out with and when your friend calls tell him your busy. Then when all of your friends are busy, you can call him to hang out and he can be your convenient friend. lol it works
2007-11-30 11:29:10 · answer #7 · answered by Johnny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋