ok well my dad left his old phone sitting on his desk. i ve been curious to see why every time i come in he's texting away and he closes it really fast. well today i looked on his tex messages. first i saw texts to my uncle and his employees. but then i saw a tex that read "love you jill and love you babe and ill see you tomorrow." i now find out my dad might be cheating on my mom. im lost right now. i dont know what i should do. please help me with advice on what to do. because i dont want my family to be torn apart. and i just dont want to see my parents split. PLEASE HELP!!!!
2007-11-30 11:15:10 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk to you dad. give him the opportunity to explain the text message.
2007-11-30 11:21:18 · answer #1 · answered by Who Knew? 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Try to remember that you invaded your fathers privacy for what ever the reason you had. You probably would not like it if the same was done to you. With that being said you have a major problem. You only have part of the information from your Dad's phone. You need more info before you can make the kind of judgment that you are making now. As I see it you have a few options. 1. You can forget about it and hope for the best. 2, You can tell your Mother and maybe create a huge miss understanding. 3. You can confront your Father about your speculations. My self I prefer to have all the information before I make a judgment call. If you feel so strongly about the situation then it would be best that you try to confront and discuss what you think and feel with your Father first. Let him explain what is happening if anything is going on. It would force him to address the issue not only with you but with your Mother also. It would be better for all info;involved if admittance for any wrong doing on behalf of your Father came from him and not from you. Your Mother will appreciate it but also resent it hearing it from you and not her Husband. Try to remember that all relationships are a work in progress and they will need to work this out for them selves.
2007-11-30 19:43:35 · answer #2 · answered by Bradley R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're obviously in a situation that is undoubtedly a tough one. You almost have to at least speak to your father about what you've found, but then you will also have to face the facts that you were snooping in his phone. Telling your mom, and having her jump to conclusions would cause more pain than necessary. Let him know what you found, and hopefully the two of them will work it out. Sorry about what you saw (if it was in deed a sign of his infidelity).
2007-11-30 19:23:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well first of all you should not have look at your father's cell phone, it wasn't your business! Secondly, if your parents are happy, and he's taking care of business did you ever think that your mom knows and she's just dealing with it? Tell you dad that you snooped and that you're sorry, but also that you don't want his to ruin your family.
2007-11-30 19:23:50 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Next time do not snoop.
But now you have a big problem. My best advise is do not jump to any conclusions. This is a matter for your mother and father to deal with and has nothing to do with you. Stay out of their business.
Good luck.
2007-11-30 19:18:38 · answer #5 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Just be straight up with him and ask him .. He owes that to you if he is .. Be honest and tell him you looked at his phone dont be affraid ...
2007-11-30 19:36:02 · answer #6 · answered by JINE GIRL 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he could just be telling a really good but not sex, friend this. i tell my best friend that all the time and we dont sleep together. approach him and tell him that you need to speak to him in private then bring it up. do not accuse until you have his side of the story.
2007-11-30 19:22:14 · answer #7 · answered by mrs_pipesmoker 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
write an anonymous letter to your dad, pretending sm who knows your family very well. tell him anonymously you know his secrets and its not good cheating on his wife and children. threaten him that if does not end that story in one week, you are going to reveal all his secrets.
you will see, he is gna crack up
2007-11-30 19:28:12 · answer #8 · answered by kamleshgokool 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't tell your mom or anybody who might tell her. She would not suffer for what she does not know.
But please talk to your father, try to find the right time and place to talk to him.
God Bless
2007-11-30 19:20:53 · answer #9 · answered by Mother of three 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋