Cheating again??

Question

sorry, I posted this in another section but I really need an answer because I'm supposed to see my boyfriend tonight and I want to know if I should confront him...

I never wanted to be a jealous girlfriend, but every person I’ve told this too seems to think he’s being unfaithful. In order to know why I’m suspicious, you should know he cheated on me this past summer and called me by another girl’s name while we were having sex. So, bearing that in mind…
There’s this girl who’s “friends” with my boyfriend. It started out that she would just call him and talk to him about her relationship problems but it’s been slowly escalating. She works at a food store and is always giving him free food so he’ll come visit (he has new BAGS of it every time I go to his house). Slowly, I started to notice that she’s usually twirling her hair, talking in a really girly voice and openly flirting with him even when I’m in the store with him (against my will, of course). Neither of them seem to notice or care that I’m in the same room. She calls him by his nickname and they’re always talking to each other when we’re out in a group.
Since she doesn’t make enough money (she rents out an apartment by herself…) he will randomly let her work with him while he valets, sometimes neglecting previous plans we’ve made. She doesn’t own her own car so he drives her to and from work (way out of the way) and since he valets he often doesn’t get home until past 3:00 in the morning. This guy I’m friends with who works at the place he valets at referred to her as “that girl he keeps f***ing around with”. And just yesterday he didn’t call me all day or answer my text message during his lunch hour. When I called him last night he was at a concert with her and “a few of their friends”.
There’s been other inklings too (I‘ve been reading up on this). He doesn’t answer his phone calls when I’m with him, he always takes a shower when he comes home, and he isn’t up for sex like a 20-something male should be. Am I just being a crazy girlfriend… or is he cheating?

Answer 1

he is definitely cheating on u, as evidenced by his behavior and disrespect of u. she is pursuing hi with a vengeance, and stroking his ego, and giving him what he seeks if u know what i mean. all the signs are there, and he is choosing her over u, that would be enough for me to leave. u need to see reality here, and embrace it no matter how painful it is and let her have him, as it looks as if he has made his choice. he is even doing it right in front of u, so it doesn't even look as if he is attempting to hide it. face the facts now or suffer emotionally and feel hurt and resentment, this man doesn't deserve a nice girl like yourself. u need to be smart, and let this looser go.

Answer 2

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. It's never a good thing when you're suspicious of someone you trust and love.

Whether he's having sex with her or not, he's cheating on you. He's having a relationship with her that excludes you and makes you uncomfortable. I think you need to re-evaluate what you have with him and decide if you really need that in your life.

He basically has two girlfriends: you and this skank. Think about it. He visits her at work. He flirts with her. He watches over her and provides for her by letting her work with him. He was on a date with her last night (they were at a concert together, regardless of who else they were with, that's a date).

In addition, I think he's having sex with her. The showers when he comes home were the clincher for me.

Dump him quick before he hurts you even more, or gives you some disease. Anyone who would sleep with another woman's boyfriend is a skank. So who else is she sleeping with and what nastiness does she carry?

You're worth a lot more than some guy who treats you like this. Get out while you still have your dignity intact.

Answer 3

Wow. You're going to be allowed to be treated this way? I understand, it's hard when your in the situation itself, but you need to have some self respect! Confront him, tell him how you feel and see what he says. Also, ask yourself, are you still in love with this man? You could be slowly pulling away and coming to your senses. My motto is "Once a cheater always a cheater" and you deserve way better than that! Just try not to get manipulated by him and stand up for yourself. I was with a man who had so called "girlfriends" and I was always had then impression he was fooling around. I think woman has very good instincts and can tell when something is wrong. Why should you be sitting at home waiting for his call and he's out with this so called "girlfriend?" Something smells fishy to me.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Go with what your gut says you should do. its really hard to confront someone when your afraid of the answer but i think with the mistakes he has made in the past u r already being very patient with him. close ur eyes forget the past forget what any person has told u. now think of him and what he has been doing, then ask urself do u think he is cheating if yes then confront him if no then let it go. no matter what people say ur always going to do what u want or think is right anyway so just listen to u.

Answer 6

Girl sorry to tell you this but...hes cheating.I am going through that same thing.I know its hard but i think you should dump him.Unlike me if my husband IS cheating on me i have to go to court and decide whos gonna keep the kids and whos gonna get to visit them and it'll just be rough.I hate when men cheat on us women.All the women who HAVE or who ARE being cheated on deserve a better man who treats them right.All women deserve a great man.It just sucks when your partner is cheating.Good luck and i hope you dump him and find out if he is or not.Maybe you should follow him for a day "Without getting Caught"and see what he does or says to that girl.

Answer 7

Sweetie, it sure sounds as if he is cheating, but only he and she know the truth. You may want to get some hard evidence, but be prepared for the worse. I hope I am wrong about this, but you do need to confront him with how you feel; even if to just 'clear the air'.

Answer 8

I think you should calmly ask him if he is.
But if you have to ask....(this many times for that matter), you already know the answer. You dont need confirmation from us. You seem sweet, so just end it wit him (on good terms if possible) and find someone who will treat you better.
And dont take him back when you find that person and he gets jealous and apologetic. He's had enough chances

Answer 9

Someone already said it: he's already began a relationship with this other girl, but he's just 'forgotten' to break it off with you.

I think you should just move on. There isn't even any need for words or confrontations at this point. Go live your life, and find someone who deserves you.

Answer 10

Sorry sweetie I think he is cheating and why would you put up with some of the stuff that you are telling us about I never would! Get a new man honey you deserve it