What's wrong with wanting to have a "submissive" wife?

Question

Many women nowadays feel that Men who want to have a "submissive" wife is "insecure" and can't handle "strong" women blah..blah.. Nothing could be further from the truth.

Ladies(and Gents) please tell me, what's wrong with wanting to have a "submissive" wife? If I get married one day I want to have a "submissive" wife because I want my woman feminine, loving and attractive.

Answer 1

I don't think that there's anything wrong with wanting a submissive wife. I love being a submissive wife to my husband, but he is a very good, loving, hard-working man who takes good care of me. I am happy to be obedient and submissive to someone as wonderful as he is and we are very happy together. If you a good man, then hopefully you will be able to attract a good woman. Good luck!

Answer 2

Nothing is wrong with wanting to do the things a Stepford Wife would do. A submissive wife isn't a robot who does EVERYTHING her husband say, she is a woman with a mind of her own that WANTS to do everything her husband wants. Her husband can't make her be submissive, it is a change of heart and a humble willingness to do anything for him because he is the one man you chose out of all the men in the world! He is the one man that you want to live with until death do you part, don't you think that you'd want to make sure that he is at peace in his home? EDIT @ Kessie: Why are you ok with her being a Stepford Wife and not me? Predjudice? Is is becasue I am a Christian?

Answer 3

there's a difference between wanting a wife that is respectful of your headship and one that just submits totally to your dominance. a woman must keep her own identity, opinions, self-respect, and freedom in a marriage, otherwise you just want someone you can control. one of the biggest problems with women who are absolutely submissive is when they marry men who are physically, emotionally, and mentally abusive. assuming you are not one of those men...there is nothing wrong with wanting a feminine, loving and attractive wife. i feel like i am all of those things for my husband. however, if you believe that you should be able to dictate to your wife what to wear, what to do, how she should do things, and you think that a wife must stay at home at all times and do exactly as you say - then yes, there is something wrong.
the term submissive is used in the bible, but it does not have a bad connotation. if a man loves his wife and respects her, she will not be rebellious and spiteful of him. she should also love and respect him. i believe that my husband is the head of our household, but i work full time and i am a strong, independent woman. i would never outright defy him, but he better be willing to respect and listen to me! (by the way, i'm 23).

Answer 4

Nothing, I consider myself one and I am a lot happier and well taken care of better than most of the wives I know. My husband is also a lot happier and all his friends want to know what he did to get so lucky. I am in no way insecure and am still a strong woman. Although the trick to being a "submissive" wife is having a wonderful man to lead the way.

Answer 5

The ability to be feminine, loving and attractive is separate from being submissive.

How do you define submissive? Do you expect your wife to act like a piece of property? Or are you going to be the type of husband who will love and cherish her, who will meet all of her needs, both emotionally and physically, who will consult her when decisions have to be made, who will use her counsel when something is going wrong in your life, and will you fight to the death to protect her life and the lives of your children?

I would gladly be a 'submissive' wife to any man who displays all of those qualities that I mentioned. That doesn't mean that I can't have my own thoughts and opinions. That's the problem I find with men who want submissive wives; many times in this day and age they assume she is to be property rather than a partner in life.

Edit: My point about the incorrect ideas of what it means to be a 'submissive' wife has been made by Owen. His idea of a submissive woman is exactly what I'm talking about. Submissive women are not quiet, weak, or whatever. They are women who submit to the position of their husband as head of the household. This idea comes from the Bible, as well. From my perspective, and how I read it, being submissive means not outright defying your husband in the presence of others, nor questioning his authority. It does mean expressing your opinions, and giving counsel to the one who ultimately will carry them out. The Bible commands husbands to love their wives as Christ loves His church. And Christ gave His life for His church.

Answer 6

I the bible it states a man and a woman should be submissive to each other. Not one more than the other.

Answer 7

Men who want submissive women (to cherish) have to be stronger. they have more to answer for as they take on the responsibility of head of household. i am a strong willed, educated woman who makes plenty of money. i am in a position of power at work, but in my household my husband is boss. i have my say and he considers it but in the end the choice is his and i am to obey. we are both very happy. this is the way God created man and wife to be. i recommend everyone try it you'd be surprised how the right way works so well.

Answer 8

And because there are women out there willing to be your submissive wife- there's nothing wrong with it! :)

Answer 9

You are confusing feminine with submissive. Submissive means you boss her around and treat her like a slave, and you don't care how she feels.

You can find an independent smart woman who is also feminine.

Answer 10

Usually a man that wants to be in control, feels that need because he is usually short or small in stature. Are you short? Usually, a man also wants a submissive wife if his penis is smaller than average. A man with enough in his pants, wouldn't feel the need to dominate someone. Or perhaps you have a job where you are not in control at all? My suggestion is that BEFORE you go looking for wife.....start working out, possible buy some elevator shoes, look into some of the new penis enhancement medication, and look into going back to school to further educate yourself so that maybe you could get a higher position on the totem pole.