My husband and I are having a debate about whether or not men can be heartbroken over a woman. He said he's never been heartbroken when he dated before we were married, and I, myself have never seen a man that I dated heartbroken. Men seem to move on so much quicker than women. What do you think?
2007-11-30 10:30:14 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Men's defense mechanism is to shut it off and move on. Where a woman will dwell on the particulars, (oh what's wrong with me) men are bummed but move on.
They certainly feel the loss, however they look to replace the roll of "woman" instead of the person.
2007-11-30 10:39:47 · answer #1 · answered by beckoningsubstitutes 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Heartbroken Boys
2016-12-18 08:07:43 · answer #2 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You bloody betcha we get Heart broken! Don't think its just you ladies that get dumped on all the time! Us fellas get kicked to the curb more times than most women realise and it does bloody well hurt. Like miss "barstool" up there (answer 2 I think) said, everybody has feelings its just that men don't express there's in public like a lot of women do, we tend to bottle our feelings up and let them out in private somewhere so that nobody else knows about it.
Yeah, sure men do move on quicker as we tend not to dwell too much on the negative side of life, plus the sooner you start 'getting some' the better you feel.
PS - I bet your husband HAS been heartbroken before its just hes too macho to say so!
2007-11-30 11:08:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men definitely do, but it depends on the woman and the circumstances surrounding the break up. I was once deeply in love with a woman but I wasn't able to control my wild side and lost her. She was ready to settle down and be an adult while I still wanted to hang with the boys. Well when I lost her ( the story is deeper than I can say on here) I went into a depression that lasted for over 3 yrs. by the time I figured out how to grow up and be a man, she had already moved on. The love I had for her was so strong that even now, being married for 17 yrs and with my wife for 23 yrs, I still think of the one that I let get away!
2015-11-11 17:24:48 · answer #4 · answered by justinbig9 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure there are men that get heartbroken over a relationship that ended...Being heartbroken isn't solely reserved for the females.....Everyone deals with a break up in their own time...and I don't know that men move on much quicker than women....
2007-11-30 10:39:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
i think men fall much harder than women but you don't see it because from the time a male is a small child, he is usually taught that it is not manly to show emotion, so i think they hold it in, which is not healthy. i have talked to guys who were heartbroken and had admitted to such. i have broken a couple of guys' hearts, not intentionally, mind you. my ex was a very proud individual and i told him that he needed to show some emotion sometime. he didn't really show much emotion, but he did confide in the children that he cried every night over us splitting up. i think some men seem to move on quicker probably because men seem to be more results oriented. women have to go through the motions and emotions to get to the other side. men seem to be so much more driven to fit into what society and other men expect them to do, which is "suck it up, Pinky!" so they internalize their pain, but i'll bet you for the men whose hearts have been broken, if pressed to tell the truth, would tell you that broken heartedness is very real. so the reason why you probably have never seen it is because it's rare that men let on that they experience it . i guess that's where the term, the strong silent type comes from. hope this gives you some insight...
2007-11-30 10:55:52 · answer #6 · answered by thecatmama 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
To even begin to believe this means that you have not experienced much of life at all. If anything, men are very sensitive when it comes to affairs of the heart despite what they may say and do. When they love, they love all the way and when the love is rejected they take it personally and suffer for years over their loss. They may move on, but once they've given their heart away they never really get it back fully. Yes, men can have their hearts broken and they react in a number of ways that can be interpreted as not caring ( drinking, yelling, scoffing, making rude comments, fighting, acting as though they don't care ) All defense mechanisms to prevent anyone from ever hurting them that way again.
2007-11-30 11:11:16 · answer #7 · answered by BeenThere 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sure they do. I've seen it. Experienced it. Everyone deals with their feeling differently. Some guys may act heartbroken, while others may just act like they don't care. I think that most men don't act heartbroken because it's not considered as being 'manly', so they put on an act.
2007-11-30 10:48:58 · answer #8 · answered by it's just me 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
men get heartbroken, believe u me. if u saw an x-ray of my heart its in 4 pieces because its been broken so many times.
men just seem 2 move on quicker than women.
2007-11-30 11:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by junkyarddogfan 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Anybody with healthy emotions can be heartbroken. Of course men get heartbroken. It's happened to me. It's not that you get over it any sooner, you find something to aid you in the process of moving on.
2007-11-30 10:53:36 · answer #10 · answered by tom_gpp 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋