My boyfriend's divorce isn't quite final yet, legally speaking. Until we moved in together, he was barely able to cover all his bills, much less the money he owes his ex for child support every month. The company he works for is entering their slow season and he's struggling to pull 40 hours a week. He told his ex he would pay as much as he could for December, but that he might not be able to come up with the full amount he owes her. She said that because I live with him she can come after me for the difference. It would be one thing if we were already married, but we're not. We don't even have a joint bank account. Is she right that I can be held responsible for my boyfriend's child support payments just because we live together?
2007-11-30 09:56:55 · 24 answers · asked by QT_Pie 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No she can't. Now having said that if you do marry and you file a joint tax return they can take all of it(even your share) if he is behind. Other than that even if you are married you are not responsible for making up the difference. I suggest that your boyfriend try to get his support lowered. Good luck. My husband and I have been trying for almost 3 yrs to get his lowered. They don't seem to understand that we took a 600 dollar a month paycut when we left Alaska. Frankly I think the whole CS department needs to be revamped.
2007-11-30 10:06:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if your married i think . If he has a court order to pay her a certain amount he has to pay it no matter what, and if he dosen't have a court order he should go see a lawyer and get one cause if she gets pissy and decides to go to court about it he may end up paying her what they call arrears maening he will pay her twice basically. They cannot as far as i konw take anything you have because your not married and don't have accounts together which is wise. if he does have a court order and cannot make the amount then maybe he should go in and talk to someone about it they will do a review of his case he may have to pay a small fee but if he dosen't pay her on court order they will garnish his wages and accounts. How ever if you do ever get married then they could go afte yours and your joint tax returns so be careful.
2007-11-30 10:06:14 · answer #2 · answered by life as we know it 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think she can touch your finances. However I do remember that something similar happened to my uncle a few years back where child support was also being taken from his new wife's check as a garnishment. I was told that was because they were now married.....so needless to say they divorced on paper. I think you shoud maybe contact legal aid just to have the question answered properly and they can tell you what other options you may have. Good luck and I hope it all works out.
2007-11-30 10:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not! At the moment of separation, each person is monetarily responsible for everything they do. Even if you were married, his ex-wife can't come after you for any reason. She's just saying that to scare you.
Also, you might want to think twice before you marry this guy. He's divorced, he's making child support payments... Just sounds like a lot of red flags to me. I don't mean to be a b#tch but just look out for yourself.
2007-11-30 10:00:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, unless you are married and even then it depends on state you live in. In many states the income of the household is what is used to figure out support. On a related note when they figure out his monthly expenses they ask if he has a roommate or someone that shares living expenses. Sometimes, again depending on the state. Google Sparc for more info.
2007-11-30 10:19:15 · answer #5 · answered by Martha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO she is full of SHAT. they only consider the parents income both mom and dad. cause if it was true then her new BF or husband would also be considered butt hat is not tha case. I am considered self employed with my wife. Child support enforcement says I make $16hr and I pay $500 a month this is in washington state.Dont worry they will only take his income amount.
2007-11-30 10:03:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're sharing household expenses, then that would free up more money for his support payments. (He only has to pay a half-share of everything) Seems logical, and that's how her lawyer will argue it. Depends on the rules in the state where you live.
Talk to a lawyer...
2007-11-30 10:01:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely NOT! Tell her she is stupid. You are not responsible AT ALL. Even if you were married to him you are still not obligated to pay for his children. There is nothing she can do to you no matter what. She is probably trying to get you to run away.
2007-11-30 10:01:39 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, she is full of it. Do not comingle your incomes as it could become fuzzy as to what was who's. Write seperate checks for each person's half of the rent, utilities, and food. Then tell her to pound sand.
2007-11-30 10:57:26 · answer #9 · answered by Randy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how long you have lived together. There is such a thing as common law wife or husband. but in most states you have to live together for a couple of years.
2007-11-30 10:00:45 · answer #10 · answered by jetsdad123 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋