I am I think about 11 weeks pregnant with Geoffs <---my bf. & I feel like Geoff isn't giving me enough attention between his (2jobs...loan officer & a little internet business)job & (I work 3 days a week for 7 hours a day I bring in at least half his income)my job. I feel like he never has time for me.. he works late hours <---Im sleepy by time he gets to see me.. I told I was going to find attention somewhere else if he doesnt start making time for me... I FEEL LIKE I AM HIS CONVIENCE! I am an attention kind of girl!! I dont need moeny..or anything else all I ask from him is attention & sex. What should I do Any suggestions on how I should deal with this??? I''ve tried telling time & time again that I feel that I m just a convience for him. I want him to make time for me not just fit me in his slots of free time.
2007-11-30 09:53:13 · 6 answers · asked by Baby Ashtyn June 2008 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
it is kind of selfish of me... but I feel like he's being selfish as well.
2007-11-30 10:03:56 · update #1
thanks for the sweet answers .. I think I am going to try to listen to calm music.. Good Idea.. & we don't really fight/argue.. I just get sad. THANK YOU SO MUCH :)
2007-11-30 10:11:45 · update #2
& as for the money his 2 nd job is costing him money..not making money.. I m not being selfish or a child. I m just moody & thats what I feel I need. ATTENTION. & knows that I would never cheat on him .. that doesn't bother him.. its just why do I feel like I have to say these things???
2007-11-30 10:15:08 · update #3
I completey understand my hubby works in sales and when I was pregnant he was never home. I had a 9 to 5 job but he was always out and it made me mad. Just like you. What I did was say (Look I'm pregnant I dont feel like you are spending time with me lets go out like the movies,eat,or just hang out I know that you are busy but I really need you around. And its are baby so lets make the best that we can) Now when you tell him this dont say it was attuide be calm and sweet. It will work
2007-11-30 10:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by ?????? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First - your hormones are raging war within you, so that is part of it. Also, take comfort and confidence in who you are, and don't rely on your bf to make you whole. He recognizes (hopefully) that the two of you have produced a baby and probably is working hard to make sure he can cover for the two of you.
Don't go on a pity party, and don't drive him away. He is dealing the best he can at the moment, give him some time to catch up to where you are.
Work on your emotions, and hormones, enjoy your pregnancy and sparkle---complaining and arguing are not good for you or your baby.
Play some soft and beautiful music, dress up and look nice. Come up with some nice things the two of you can do together, make a nice meal for you two, etc.
Create an atmosphere that he can hardly wait to come home to. Complaining will keep him away, be confident, loving, nice and best you can be and with an inviting atmosphere, and a loving pregnant lady who is confident and nice, he will come home sooner than you think!
Hope this helps!
2007-11-30 18:06:52 · answer #2 · answered by galfromcal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is just trying to work so you guys can have money. and it is very selfish of you to expect him to work two jobs and still have time for you. it is tough but you have to deal with it. and i doubt telling him you are going to get attention elsewhere is not the best idea. it will start putting ideas in his head that you are already cheating. it's not a smooth move. he's just trying hard to make sure you guys will have enough money, and be happy. and if all you want from him is attention and sex, he might think that is all you want out of him. and that's not healthy for any relationship.
2007-11-30 18:11:26 · answer #3 · answered by Krisi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's my suggestion:
Get a full time job, so that he can quit the 2nd job...then he'll have more time for you. How do you expect him to find time for you when he's working two jobs? Poor guy is probably exhausted when he comes home, and the last thing he needs is for you to give him a hard time about it.
Alternately, take a nap in the afternoon while he's working, so that you have the energy to stay up later.
He's the one acting like an adult...you're the one acting like a child. If you want things to change, you're going to have to take responsibility for changing it yourself.
2007-11-30 18:04:03 · answer #4 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend is the same way he goes to work he comes home but the thing is when he comes hme hes not like hi bab or anything like that he asks for dinner and jumps on the video games the only time we really spend together is when we have a family function or when we go to sleep and half the time hes on the other side of the bed he says that i should spend tme with him when hes playing video games but whats the fun in watching him pay more ttention to a video game my advice toy u is to say look sweety it didnt just take me to make this baby you had apart of it also and its really hurting me that i fill like you dont want to spend any time with me and pay any of your time towards me and just see what he says my bf on the other hand is a loseing battle good luck
2007-11-30 18:09:01 · answer #5 · answered by angelandtyler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being selfish, you are better than that. Get a hobby or something and he will be more interusted in you. If he works two jobs then he is a busy guy.
2007-11-30 18:01:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋