Now I'm thinking, how the heck are we going to afford a baby. Did this worry any of you at all. My fiance is already paying support for his little boy, my place of work might be going on strike, and my fiance is just getting into a new job. I just feel like I can't do this yet. How did you deal with this?
2007-11-30 09:49:05 · 13 answers · asked by hungryeyes001 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I freak out about this all the time. We live in a studio, he is finishing grad school and works, i am finishing undergrad, plan on going to grad school, our college loans are going to cost us 1k a month. But everyone swears to me that babies dont need much, and most of the things we buy them are commodoties and not necessaties. I mean i was raised in Russia, in the 80s and i know i didnt have even 1/5 of the things kids have today. Somehow our great great great grandparents had kids when diapers were not even around. People were having kids when they had not even 1/2 of the average american salary. I just came to terms that a lot of the things i want for myself and for my child are purely unecessary and that the baby does not care what outfit its in.. thats something i would care about more. Babies just need love and attention... a bottle and some milk, just about everything else you can get by without.
2007-11-30 10:03:34 · answer #1 · answered by FunkyMonkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the exact same situation as you, except I don't even work! I decided to go back to school at age 24 and then ended up pregnant! I had a good job...why why why didn't I just keep it!
I'm just dealing with it day by day. I try to remind myself that money is going to be nothing compared to holding my child for the first time. When baby shower time comes around, invite every distant relative/friend you can and don't register for expensive things. That sounds a little shallow but I figure that's what the shower is for, right? And if worse comes to worse there is always...gulp...public assistnace. Lots of people use it and I think when you have children you just do what you do. Maybe we need to come up with a get rich real quick scheme for pregnant women....
2007-11-30 09:56:08 · answer #2 · answered by Spanks 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First have faith and never lose hope.
Second I was only 16 when I got pregnant no job the dad was 17 no job. A baby is a blessing and you will find a way to support your baby. There are also plans like W.I.C dont know if where you live offer this but they give you free milk,cheese,cereal,etc while you are pregnant. Once the baby is born they continue with the food and give you baby formula and baby juice & cereal for FREE. Check your area to see if this program is there 4 you. And you dont have to buy the baby the best brand items either bottles are bottles. Baby wipes are wipes. Plus I'm sure that someone will give you a baby shower. Dont worry takecare of yourslf and your baby.
2007-11-30 09:55:47 · answer #3 · answered by ?????? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might ask a lawyer if your fiance's payments should go down when he has a second child to support. IIRC in Canada, the tables of child support vs. income are also geared to the number of children needing support. Maybe it's the same where you are?
Don't worry, things WILL work out. A lot of our current lifestyle expenses are optional... cut back a bit for a while if you have to.
2007-11-30 09:59:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was also very worried about this. I chose to breast feed, so I don't have to pay for formula, and it's the best thing. You can get WIC that will help you and even more if you breastfeed. So, all you should have to worry about for a while is diapers. Trust me god always gives you a way to survive if you beleive in it. My favorite quote is from a Rolling Stones song : "You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you get what you need" . You will be fine, just get excited about the new miricle inside you! And, Best Wishes!
2007-11-30 09:56:24 · answer #5 · answered by Christie R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's no longer pregnant yet you 2 could desire to commence using condoms. Condoms are the only concern that could take care of you from sexually transmitted ailments. you would be able to desire to be carrying the virus that reasons cervical maximum cancers and not are conscious of it because of the fact they don't have a attempt that detects it for adult men.
2016-10-18 10:23:55 · answer #6 · answered by henshaw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live frugally. Breastfeeding is free, cloth diapering requires a one-time investment. Both of them will save you thousands.
Network with other moms in your area, I recommend La Leche League, they are an amazing resource and can help with emotional support too.
2007-11-30 09:55:09 · answer #7 · answered by Terrible Threes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wasn't worried about the financial part of it, because you always make due to be able to provide for them. I would for go things for myself, but thats the sacrafice you make. Its not about the kind of car you drive anymore or designer clothes in your closet. Just make sure you have health insurance for you and your baby.
2007-11-30 09:56:29 · answer #8 · answered by momtochs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom is a single mom and has been for 15 years... i am 17. i have two sisters and a brother. my mom did it by herself, i am sure u guys can do it.. everything will be ok...
WIC is a great thing offered for ppl in need.. they help with food while you are pregnant. and and formula after tha baby is born, it is a great service...
2007-11-30 09:59:19 · answer #9 · answered by ♥KayRa♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will all work out. Don't stress about it. If everyone who had babies was financially set, then the population would drop tremendously! good luck to you.
2007-11-30 09:52:44 · answer #10 · answered by jeepiegurl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋