shift so when I come home from work at 5pm, he is up waiting for supper & either on the computer or watching tv. How come some husbands help with supper or dishes or whatever? I'll be working 2 jobs soon & will be dead tired. What does he expect then? Then I make his lunch for work. Some of my friends husbands actually cook dinner. Why is he so darn lazy? Does he think it's still the 1960's?
2007-11-30 09:46:10 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your not mad at him ,you are mad at yourself.First ,you don't speak up for your self and second you make his lunch.No one can make you do anything you don't want to do.Two people are in a marriage.Both need to share the load,whether it's working,cleaning or cooking.The most important thing you need to do is talk about it.
2007-11-30 10:04:18 · answer #1 · answered by lala 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's so darn lazy because you've spent the last 27 years putting up with him being so darn lazy! You let him lay around, you did everything for him, and probably didn't ask him to lift a finger. You probably just assumed that it was your job... and now look at the mess you're in.
An old dog can't learn new tricks. It's extremely unlikely that he's gonna help out now, after 27 years. But hey. You work two jobs. If you don't want to make him dinner, don't make him dinner. Tell him to make his own dinner. Tell him you work two jobs and you don't want to come home to a husband who is as helpless as a baby at taking care of himself.
2007-11-30 17:50:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
This may be simplistic, but maybe he thinks you like to do that. I thought that about some of the things my wife routinely did until she informed me otherwise. When I was a kid and lived at home with 2 sisters, my Mom assigned us each to take a night of of supper and dishwashing on a more-or-less rotating basis, depending on what our extracurricular activities were. Maybe you two need to do something like that, too. I know it taught me how to cook, and I'm pretty good at it. On the other hand, my youngest sister would just make weird stuff, and she still can't cook.
2007-11-30 18:03:03 · answer #3 · answered by colder_in_minnesota 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think when husbands and wives are newly married then they share all the house hold works. They like to be together for most of the times. The lovemaking part is not in the bed alone but being together in whatever field of interest they are with each other. After 27 years of marriage you have become so used to each other that both of you are interested to work in as many shifts or part time jobs. This I think has reduced the urge to remain together. If both of you really wish to improve the quality of life both of you will have to share or give more time to each. You can start first by not comparing him with the husbands of your friends. He is your husband and you are his wife that is enough. Please don not bring your friends husbands between you. He may also bring his friends wives, which may be in some field better than you. It will start the trouble. Give love and be loved. Give time and take time with each one of you.
2007-11-30 21:54:06 · answer #4 · answered by Amar 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like he is still living in the 1960's. Tell him that you are working two jobs and you are flat out not going to do this any longer, In my opinion he should be cooking dinner for you.
2007-11-30 17:49:33 · answer #5 · answered by bns2007 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is letting you do the dinner thing because you are so good at it. When you have some time off make a few meals for the week that can be frozen so that your husband can just slide them in the oven and they'll be ready by the time you get home.
Lasagnas and Casseroles freeze well.
2007-11-30 17:57:37 · answer #6 · answered by Talkstress 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's a 27 yr old habit..What do you think? If you can teach an old dog new tricks you just e-mail me when it's all said and done and give me the run down ..Easier answer..when he's really really hungry and you refuse to do it because your just as tired and a sandwich is ok with you..then his arms and legs are no longer broke and he get's up and fixes his own sandwich...and another one bites the dust....
2007-11-30 17:54:10 · answer #7 · answered by sweetness 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask him if he can help men will not do anything unless you ask them to and well if that he will not do anythign my question is do you have anytime off it is hard working two jobs when are you going to sleep you will get tired. to me it seems like all you do is work do you have a life with him other hello and goodbye. Maybe if you give him so good sex and tell him to start helping around the house he will do it or no more sex for you.
2007-11-30 17:59:57 · answer #8 · answered by Lost 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
After being married that long men get LAZY & stop TRYING!!! You need to not be so available for him and have him learn how to cook his own meal, while you are ALSO trying to provide for the household!!!
Hopefully you two have good communication skills and can work this out. You both need to GIVE & take.
Good Luck!
2007-11-30 17:52:50 · answer #9 · answered by prettynpink22222 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
cause you enable him to be lazy. stop doing things for him and if he wished to live in filth then let him live in it.working two jobs means the only thing you need is to have a clean room and bed linens, and bathroom.
Why and How do women think that they can change a man?? after 27 years he is probably the same man you married.
2007-11-30 17:51:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋