2007-11-30 09:31:08 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it usually means if they no longer love u that there is someone else who they do love. love seldom dies unless there is someone else in the picture. if they are telling u this it is only a matter of time before they do leave. as they have already told u they don't love u and when u hear the dreaded words, divorce is coming in your future, unfortunately.
2007-11-30 09:35:46 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I say no. Because if you've been married a long time, you have your ups, downs and sometimes, just sometimes, you "fall" out of love. Sometimes it's referring to the "first feelings of love" deal. After a while, you can lose that - even if things are "OK" (no cheating, no major issues).
The main picture is to say "How can we get back to that point and what do we need to do"? And more importantly, this question: "When you "fall in love" again, do you want it to be with me"?
I have often been overwhelmed in life and had issues. And I've honestly felt this way at times. But I don't do anything stupid that would jeopardize our relationship (mean words, cheating, etc.). I just work on things that will bring me back to where I need to be emotionally.
2007-11-30 10:21:15 · answer #2 · answered by iam1funnychick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That just means that the "fire" has gone out of the relationship, but the love is still there. As long as there is a solid foundation of love and both partners are willing to work at it, it is possible to reignite the flame. You need to try something new, lose the old routine, go away on a romantic trip together, etc. Don't give up, at least go down fighting!
2007-11-30 09:52:58 · answer #3 · answered by CJ SWEETNESS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it means that the romantic feelings are lost for the moment. It means that they care about you and are dedicated to you, but they don't feel the butterflies with you anymore. This does not mean they are ready for divorce. The fact that they told you this may mean that they are ready for some type of change (perhaps in you - not to say that you're the one that needs to change, but they probably think so.) As long as they are still willing to work at the relationship, I wouldn't worry about divorce right now.
2007-11-30 10:23:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is does if both partners are not willing to rekindle the romance. I love '7 Principles for Making Marriage Work' by John Gottman. This book will help revive a failing marriage.
2007-11-30 09:35:41 · answer #5 · answered by Jen M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutly not. It means that there is some problem(s) or issue(s) that you need to take very seriously. You and your partner need to make sure that the lines of communication are completely open and commit to each other that you will work together to resolve them, no matter what it takes. You made this committment to each other at some point in your relationship and it brought you into the sanctity of marriage. Now you need to renew this commitment to resolve the issue(s) and bring that spark, or fireworks, or romance back to the two of you. So sit down with your partner and discuss where the commitment level is and work from there. If you need to seek outside help, counseling, religious advice, ect. then get it.
2007-11-30 09:51:50 · answer #6 · answered by Harley 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
absolutely NOT! Despite what others may say. Marriage has its ups and downs. Meaning one season its lustful and hot and the next it's just like...."i think i just married my best friend, sister or brother...." Is it over? No, but that's up to the couple's willingness and desire to weather it out. If you understand fully that what marriage is and IS NOT...than you will get past this and see the light at the end of the storm; however, if you're still immature about the concept and meaning of marriage --then let's just say that your marriage will likely not make it through hell's fires.
2007-11-30 09:48:55 · answer #7 · answered by 4everFaithful 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could mean it but maybe the better question to ask is what made he/she fall out of love with you and how if possible can it be saved befreo just walking away. Somewhere in their heart is still that love that made you marry, best bet talk it out go to therapy. Good Luck
2007-11-30 09:40:59 · answer #8 · answered by life as we know it 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not necessarily,,, your marriage just might need a boost,,, maybe you all need to go back to when you where happy, and try to rekindle some of the lost romance... has your spouse asked for a divorce,, if not try new things to spice up your marriage,,, tell your spouse that you love them and want to save your marriage,, and that you want to honor your commitment,, marriage is a lot of work,,, its a job,, that's worth doing,, if your spouse fills the same,,, then just start over,, start off by going out on dates, and ending up at a motel or something,,, the change of environment sometimes helps things out a lot,,,
best wishes to you and your family..
2007-11-30 09:39:45 · answer #9 · answered by pumkin 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO! It means that the "sparks" are gone, but that they do still love and care about you, AS A PERSON.....kinda like they love their mother, siblings, good friends, etc. There is a HUGE difference between love and lust. You know how, in the beginning of a relationship, you CAN'T WAIT to be near the other person, kiss them, etc.? Well, that's lust....BUT a lustless relationship just means that they don't feel the desire to do those things anymore.
2007-11-30 09:40:30 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋