I Need Help With Sex?

Question

ok well i was a virgin like 2 years ago and when i first had it it hurt..ya i already knew that but when he left me a year passed and i got with another its been 4 months and we already had sex liek dosenz of times and no i aint a whore but it still hurts and i cant get an orgasim at all ..is there something wrong with me..bcz i have had sex lots of times and it hurts liek hell still and like after 30 mins i still dont orgasim...and i dont know what to when my bf when he comes to soon....he dont know what to do to stop him from comeing to soon..plz help me

Answer 1

you're not going to orgasm until you can relax during sex & that won't happen if you're in pain. Since you're sexually active you should be seeing a gyno, explain the situation to them. Honestly it sounds like you & your partners may be too inexperienced (young) to know how to do it so the other enjoys it too.

Answer 2

First off sounds like your way too young to be having sex in the first place, just guessing by the way you have worded your question. But it is almost impossible for a woman to have an orgasim through intercourse alone. Most women need clitoral stimulation as well. If he's orgasiming too soon, that's his problem. He needs to learn how to control it. My hubbie can go for hours because he knows what he's doing. And if he's not an anaconda you might have a some sort of problem if it still hurts during sex. It shouldn't hurt. But foreplay does help with that. God I hope your old enough for me to be saying this to you. If your not STOP HAVING SEX!!!

Answer 3

First off I don't think anything is wrong with you. You are probably facing the same problem as many women. The man you are with is not taking the time or effort to get you aroused enough to enjoy the act; thus, you are dry and it hurts. You might want to get some lube like K-Y Jelly and see if that helps. As to his being quick on his release, that is a problem only he can solve. Probably since he is not getting you aroused he is only interested in his own pleasure and thinks a quick orgasm is the answer. Then then lack of orgasm on your part is something many, many women find difficult if not impossible to reach without some kind of additional stimulation. When your boyfriend is not stimulating you, and you hurt there is no way you should expect to have an orgasm. If you masturbate pay special attention to where and how you receive the most pleasure, then repeat this same procedure while you are having sex with your boyfriend. This is probably something you will have to do if you are hurting or not. Always remember it takes much more stimulation to get a woman properly aroused then it does for a man to be aroused. If your boy friend is not will to do what it takes then you should decide if he is good enough for you or not. This is something to also look at in all you future relationships. Many men are only interested in their own satisfaction and do not care about their partner.

Answer 4

You may not be relaxed enough, so you need some lubrication.
Buy some KY Jelly at any drug store. Put it on him and inside of you. It should NOT be hurting. If the KY doesnt' help, SEE YOUR DOCTOR. It can be your regular doctor, but a
gynecologist would really be better.

About not having an orgasm. Do the two of you know about your clitoris?? It's higher then your vagina and needs manual or oral stimulation. If the two of you know each other well enough to be making love, you should be able to talk about all of this.

About him cumming too quickly, a condom should help some. Also, have him masturbate before you two have sex. And tell him to think about baseball or something.lol (Really.)

Is he HUGE? If that's it, that might be why it's hurting. I must stress to you that it should not be hurting. I really think you should try the stuff I said. If it doesn't help the pain, you must see a gynecologist. They've seen and heard EVERYTHING.
So don't be embarrassed to ask and tell everything to your gyno. That's their job! You can even ask about him/her to check your clitoris to make sure it's in "working order." He/She will explain everything to you. Remember, you have your whole life ahead of you. It should feel GOOD.

Please do all I said. I know it's a lot, but you need to fix these problems. Especially about it hurting. Good luck, Sweetie. :)

Answer 5

For you:
Most women do not have an orgasm through sexual intercourse. It happens usually with direct manual or oral stimulation to the clitoris. You can also try to find your G-spot.

If you aren't properly lubericated or you aren't totally aroused, it will be painful.

Relaxing (music, candlelight), foreplay, being fully aroused or better yet, you having an orgasm FIRST or using a lubricant like KY-Jelly or Astro-Glide can help.


For him:
In general, practice and relaxation will help you deal with the problem. Some men try to distract themselves by thinking non-sexual thoughts (such as naming baseball players and records) to avoid becoming excited too fast.

Some helpful techniques include the following:

The "stop and start" method:

This technique involves sexual stimulation until the man recognizes that he is about to ejaculate. The stimulation is then removed for about thirty seconds and then may be resumed. The sequence is repeated until ejaculation is desired, the final time allowing the stimulation to continue until ejaculation occurs.

The "squeeze" method:

This technique involves sexual stimulation until the man recognizes that he is about to ejaculate. At that point, the man or his partner gently squeezes the end of the penis (where the glans meets the shaft) for several seconds, withholding further sexual stimulation for about 30 seconds, and then resuming stimulation. The sequence may be repeated by the person or couple until ejaculation is desired, the final time allowing the stimulation to continue until ejaculation occurs.

Answer 6

Try lubrication. If you're not getting off because it hurts so much then you're not properly (naturaly) lubricated. Have him do some extra activities on you to get your "juices flowing." Longer forplay before sex will help with your natural lubrication. Also try some KY jelly. They also have some novelty lube which causes warm or tingling sensations, sents, and flavors, for both pleasure. For your guy, they sell products that prolong erections such as, "Man-Delay". This de-sensitises the penis for longer sustained erections. As far as you not having an orgasm, don't worry too much about that. You will soon find a guy that will blow your mind. My concern is your pain during and after sexual intercourse. I would consult a doctor about that if lubrication and/or extra forplay doesn't help.

Good (f)luck.
; )

Answer 7

Well there is actually a couple reasons. It may just hurt because your too tight, his penis is too big or you may just not be wet enough. When you're having sex make sure you use lube. Also, I don't know if you're using condoms or not but it may hurt because you may be allergic to them. Some girls actually the majority of women don't orgasm from having sex. They usually orgasm from the clitoral stimulation. About him that is usually something that he has to work on himself. There are different toys and things that you can buy online or at like hustler that can try to help with him cumming too soon. Hope that helped, Have fun but be safe.

Answer 8

Okay well first of all. Most women don't reach their first orgasam until their mid-life or older! (a real orgasam) so you may be one of those many who don't. Second of all if it still hurts a lot than you should go to your gyno. To stop a guy from comming too soon you might wanna try slowing down or tell him to focus on something else!! Good luck!

Answer 9

no, HE is doing it wrong. guys can get off very easily, but us girls, there is SO much to pay attention to. first of all, you might be going at the action too fast, and foreplay is left out. Women need to be MENTALLY stimulated rather than physically. so if youre skipping this step, youre probably not entirely aroused. secondly, you and your partner should try different postitions to find the one you feel most comfortable with. and thirdly, LUBE IS YOUR FRIEND!




and ALWAYS use protection. and be smart!

Answer 10

You may be too young. Most women don't have and orgasm until around 18-20 years old. If it bothers you though, you may want to ask your gynecologist. It couldn't hurt.