she just got pregnant and shes about 1-3 wks pregnant...she doesnt want abortion or adoption b/c shes afraid shell be attached if having the baby soo i need some info on how we can go about a safe way without surgery or w/e to not have this child were both in school have no money and have no place to live its a very difficult situation and would like other opinions...AND PLZ NO RATICAL CHRISTIANS TELLING ME TO HAVE THIS if its murder then god would have never placed trust in two irresponsible teenagers that were having safe sex. THeres no way we can give the child a good life soo plz i need advice badly
2007-11-30 08:19:35 · 33 answers · asked by IM FCKED 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
There is nothing YOU can do to cause an abortion without risking (very seriously risking) the life of the mother. In fact, in many 'self-abortion' attempts the child is born anyway, often deformed or with birth defects.
You need PROFESSIONAL advice from a counselor. Start by talking to your school counsellors, or looking in the phone book.
Do not rely on the BS that your friends tell you ('drink this, fall down the stairs, etc'). You could end up killing your gf.
2007-11-30 08:25:40 · answer #1 · answered by apleyden 5 · 7⤊ 0⤋
If you want a SAFE way than abortion is not it its very dangerous for the mother to! Try maybe adoption into the family so that she can be around the child and when she is old enough to care for it than she can or you could do your job and step up and be the man and get a job after school you would be surprised the number of fathers in school working and going to school supporting a child. You knew that sex can lead to pregnacy so if you were not responsible enough to handle a child than you should not have had sex to begin with accedents happen. This is a big oops YOU need to help support.
After reading the other posts if you want to kill it than think about how you are going to feel in 20 years when you are married and have children and you think...Damn I killed my first kid! all because I am an irrisponsible teen haveing sex before being able to support a child or marriage.
2007-11-30 08:27:08 · answer #2 · answered by moon_star_black 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
How do you know she is even pregnant??? Pregnancy tests usually don't show a positive until 4 weeks or more. You have 3 options IF she is even actually pregnant. One, have the baby & GROW UP. If you mature enough to have to have you are mature enough to handle the consequences. Two, put the baby up for adoption, after all there are lots of people out there that would love to adopt that can't have children. Finally, get an abortion. Those are your ONLY options. You CAN NOT make her miscarry that happens on its own. If you try to can cause her to have lots of proplems and even die of compilcations. That is just plain stupid
2007-11-30 08:36:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you don't believe in abortion and she doesn't want to give up for adoption, but your asking how to NOT have this child?? Doesn't make much sense. She's pregnant so she's GOING to have the child unless she opts for abortion. The only other choice you have is to learn to make due with the fact that your going to have a baby. You have 9 months to come to terms with it and get your lives together as far as jobs, housing, support or whatever. You know what your options are and only the two of you can decide what to do with the life growing inside of your GF.
2007-11-30 08:26:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
How on earth does she know she's 1-3 weeks pregnant? No pregnancy test could detect that, and, like you said, you have no money. So that leaves a doctor administered blood test out of the question. Are you SURE she's pregnant?
If she is, be responsible! Nobody should be having sex until they are fully responsible for anything that could happen(i.e. pregnancy or STDs). The best option now would be for her to carry this baby to full term and then offer it up for adoption. It's her body and ultimately it's her decision as well, so you really don't have any say in the matter.
As far as God placing trust in you? HA! We as people have free will to do what we want. Unfortunately that covers people that are immature and irresponsible but still insist on having sex. So do not blame God for your "mishap". You and your girlfriend are the only ones at fault here.
2007-11-30 08:29:11 · answer #5 · answered by N and A's Momma 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Its not safe if the condom broke!
As soon as the condom broke you should have gotten her to a plan parenthood to get the Plan B pill.. Sorry, but your only options now are abortion, adoption or keep it and deal with it. Grow up and be responsible for your actions. Without surgery, Adoption is your only option really. So saying all options are out of the question is really impossible, you're going to have to pick ONE of them.
2007-11-30 08:29:23 · answer #6 · answered by stcpcpm1mom 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well.. how does she know she's preggo? 1-3 weeks? Sometimes you dont know till your 5-6 weeks or later!
Adoption would be great... there is a thing called open adoptions... so the birth parents know the adoptive parents, and can have a relationship with the child to some sort.
Before you have sex again, think of what could happen next time... and be ready for parenthood,.
2007-11-30 08:24:04 · answer #7 · answered by ツ Connors Mommy ツ 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
you cann't kill that baby. Since your so young adoption is really your only choice. you can requst an open adoption, that way you can still see the baby but another family who is ready can take care of it and give it a good home. My friends had open adoptions, they still see both their kids and the kids have 2 wonderful familys. Its your mistake and now you have to deal with it. Give that baby a chance. Let another family feel the joy you dont want
2007-11-30 08:33:09 · answer #8 · answered by Barbi & Logan 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call Planned Parenthood: 1-800-230-PLAN
Unlike many of the people who've answered here, they won't lay a trip on you. They won't tell you what THEY think you should do. They'll help you and your girlfriend decide what's the right solution for YOU. And by the way, you're obviously not irresponsible teenagers. You were responsible enough to use a condom. You'll be responsible enough to make the right decision.
2007-11-30 08:34:52 · answer #9 · answered by classmate 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Your two options are
A: Have the baby and keep it.
B: Have the baby and give it up for adoption.
If you try to do anything on your own to try and get rid of the baby, she could do serious harm to herself. Coat hangers don't work, an unaccredited abortionist could kill her.
Take responsibility for this child that you created, whether by accident or not. If you feel that you were old enough to have sex, then you are old enough to deal with the repercussions that come along with it.
2007-11-30 08:27:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋