I found out yesterday that I am having a boy and was really excited! I called my Dad and told him the news. He asked me what my husband and I were thinking of naming him and when I told him that we were wanting. He got mad that we were not naming the baby after him. The name we chose is Johnathon Robert after my husband and his father. Should I be offended that he is angry we chose not to make our son his namesake? Could part of it have to do with the fact that our son is the first Grandson on both sides of the family? Help?
2007-11-30 08:11:04 · 43 answers · asked by Snickers 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
We chose to name the baby after his Dad and my hubby because I have a Dad and a Step Dad. I am not one to give 2 middle names to a child, so we decided that it would be easier to just stick to his side of the family. Our other children...2 girls...one is named after my 97 year old Great Grandmother and the other daughter is named for no one in the family! WE figured since one is named for my side and one after no side that logicly ...the 3rd would be after his side.
2007-11-30 08:31:08 · update #1
I can understand why he would be upset... If you are naming your baby after hubby & hubbies dad, you are leaving Your Dad out of this important event in his life too. Can't you give you son 3 names by adding Your Dad's name too??
2007-11-30 08:24:28 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Teri ♥ 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
It's obviously your decision and he should have been more mature about it... however, it's his first grandson and you're giving the child BOTH names from your husband's side.
Your dad should respect your decision, but can't you see where that hurt him a little? If it were a case of just giving the baby your husband's name and another totally unrelated middle name I doubt it would be an issue... but since you're naming him after your husband AND your husband's father your dad is probably feeling left out, especially if it's his first grandson.
Don't worry though, he'll get over it and come around.
2007-11-30 13:35:39 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is probably just frustrated that he has no other grandsons and wanted one so badly that now he feels it should be named after him. I think you did the right thing by naming him after your husband. Most people will consider that first and then if your husband doesnt want him named after him, you can consider naming him after other family members, like your father. It is esp. nice to name him your husbands name if he is a junior and the name has been in the family for generations. You made the right decision. Your Dad will get over it. If you have another son in the future, I would really consider naming after your dad though.
2007-11-30 08:30:12 · answer #3 · answered by JaimeLynn 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No you shouldn't feel offended. I can understand why your dad is feeling hurt that you would choose to name his first grandchild after your husband's father and not him. It would be a really nice idea to give your baby two middle names with your dad's name included. It's not a bad thing to have two middle names.
But ultimately it's your choice. You could name your baby after your husband, and your husbands father - but it does look a bit one-sided. You may have to get used to your father always feeling sad about it. Good luck! :-)
2007-11-30 09:26:10 · answer #4 · answered by Butterscotch 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why he may be a little hurt but at the end of the day it is your choice. The only thing I would say that was in my mind when we named our son was this - the surname is carried from the fathers family, and in the case of a son it will be passed on to his children. To me that is more significant that a middle name that hardly anyone knows or uses. We used my fathers name for my sons middle name, as my family surname was lost when we married. Our son has the paternal grandfathers surname. I saw that as being fair to both families. I am guessing your son will take the surname of your husband and his father.
2007-11-30 09:07:52 · answer #5 · answered by mum2jdh 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't really be angry, as it's your baby and ultimately your decision, but I can understand why his feelings may have been a little hurt. You are naming the baby after your husband and your father-in-law. Your dad might look upon this as a sign you think your new family with your husband is more important to you than your biological family. It really is up to you, and I'm sure he'll come round and accept your decision, but to please him you might think about naming the baby after someone on your husband's side and someone on your side - or name him something that noone in either family is named.
2007-11-30 08:25:58 · answer #6 · answered by abihigginson 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
By naming your child after his paternal grandfather and his dad you have deeply wounded your Dad, and frankly I am not surprised he is upset.
Adding him on now will probably wind him up further as you have all but told him that he is not good enough to be included in your child's name.
Personally I would have avoided relatives names like the plague they ALWAYS cause trouble.
My son is named Robert Joel Mark, his first name was picked because of the icu neonatal nurse who looked after him, his second name is because we liked it, and his third is after his dad.
I also had a dad (Tony) step dad (James) and a father in law (Jack).
2007-12-04 06:14:44 · answer #7 · answered by Dee L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not be offended. You should be flattered.
Its your choice but why just your hubby and his family. Maybe he thinks they have too much influence.
Just use three names. Jonathon Robert Karl Smith etc..
My sister has three names, it is no big deal.
Personally I think child should not be named after father. My father really regrets this as my brother is always in trouble has bad credit etc. The same name causes nightmare for my dad. And you never know..... just too much confusion.
Could call him John Robert David etc... and break it up a little.
2007-11-30 08:33:30 · answer #8 · answered by cathoratio 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should not be offended by what your father says, if you want to name the baby Johnathon Robert then name him that. If you feel really really bad (which you shouldn't) then use his name as a middle name.
2007-11-30 08:22:39 · answer #9 · answered by Mitzichic 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem with my second child but the other way round. We named our first after my dad but my husband isnt that close to his father so the second we named after his uncle who has been like a dad to him. His dad reacted exactly the same spat his dummy out and stamped his feet but he got over it and all is well now, im sure your dad will to.
good luck!
2007-11-30 10:05:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No he is your father maybe he just was angry because this is his grandson probably excited and found out that you aren't going to name him after him. but let the baby get named of you father I thin he really wants to!
2007-11-30 08:17:10 · answer #11 · answered by YummyYemenLemonCake 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋