2007-11-30 08:08:30 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Cheating not an option!
2007-11-30 08:32:45 · update #1
DUDE!!!!!! I had the same problem. This is what I did,,,,,I was patient,,,very hard to do,,but If you love her you will be able to do this. Buy a good relationship book,,I'm not kidding, this is what saved my marriage since I'm a horny scorpio. I read the book "The divorce Remedy" and it changed the way I was viewing the whole situation. I tell you this,,hang in there. Just wait...work on yourself...focus...Before you know it your sex life will be better than before,,I assure you of this...Good luck!
2007-11-30 08:15:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No such thing. There are back pain books that have illustrations of positions to use. She is using that as an excuse.
Loving With Back Pain
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2007-11-30 08:15:04 · answer #2 · answered by jazz41 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what you shouldn't do. That's most important.
Back pain doesn't usually eliminate sex drive, it just adds real challenges.
Assuming your wife is around the same age as you I'm sure she will agree that you're way too young to just agree to stop having sex. It is unrealistic.
The two of you have to figure out what your options are. But what's important is that the two of you talk about it. If your wife is thinking that there won't be anymore sex between the two of you, you can't act like that's fine with you, because it isn't. Don't think you're going to "spare her feelings" by being agreeable, when you know that eventually it will result in your being unfaithful to her.
Talk about this. Be completely honest. If the two of you love each other you will figure out how to get around this.
2007-11-30 08:20:22 · answer #3 · answered by nevit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be the medication that she is on for her pain, and plus, she hurt her back, I would think that would be a little painful during the time you want to have se*, she probably wants to also, but the thought of it would hurt her!
Check with her doctor and find out if it is the medication that is not making her have a strong se* drive, there are many medications out there that reduce the se* drive in many people.
Maby another prescription the doctor can prescribe, but check with the doctor first, and see what he can do to help you with your question.
2007-11-30 08:15:08 · answer #4 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife has lost her sex drive, I'm sure she totally understands that doesn't mean that you did as well, right? Ask her what she'd be willing to do. What if she was willing to give you lap dances without doing anything sexual with you? Would you still be able to take care of yourself in that case? Or what if she was to lend you a hand or a mouth. Those things don't require her to be turned on, right?
2007-11-30 08:13:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should talk to her doctor and see if he/she has any suggestions. It could be her medication. I'm not sure what problem she has with her back but you should still be able to enjoy one another and satisfy each other's needs. Talk to your spouse in a loving way and see if the two of you can find out a solution. You may be able to to purchase an over the counter aid to help.
2007-11-30 08:33:11 · answer #6 · answered by CINDY J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be her medication try finding out the side effects are or try to arrouse her with manual stimulation that works like a charm. You love so just be creative Im sure something will work.
2007-11-30 08:41:35 · answer #7 · answered by memyslf&I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have back problems from time to time but I have not lost my sex drive. Your back gets hurt it takes time to heal (1-2 weeks at most for me) then I am right back in there IF she is ready.So you say you love her then get her some kind of help for her back.
2007-11-30 08:22:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sighs...it's a tough call. You need to be honest with her first and foremost. I know you are going to feel like you are selfish, and to some extent maybe you are...but if you don't tell her the feelings are going to fester and you'll find a way of dealing with them. Maybe you'll just look and porn and take care of business, maybe you'll find cybersex a sufficient substitute, or maybe you'll have a full blown affair. If she can't have sex then could she not touch you to orgasm. Try working with her (and maybe a counselor) before you look to other sources please.
2007-11-30 08:15:00 · answer #9 · answered by Dashy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love her even more and just ride the storm out ! You are married for eternity so you must accept the bad with the good !
2007-11-30 08:39:44 · answer #10 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋