My soon to be ex husband is unemployed and while I am at work he is on my space searching for local women to chat with. is that cheating or am i tripping?
2007-11-30 07:52:27 · 35 answers · asked by Seriously 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok not my soon to be ex in the sense that we have talked divorce but in the sense that I am fed up with this drama. He makes me think I am crazy for not being accepting of this.
2007-11-30 08:53:27 · update #1
it is cheating until the divorce. why worry abut it, as there is nothing u can do, this is part of who he is, and its in his character, the one good thing is your going to be free of him soon.
2007-11-30 07:57:54 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he's your "soon to be ex" then who cares what he's doing?
You're controlling all the shots here, don't you realize that?
He's unemployed. You're supporting him. If you don't want him on your computer while you're at work, password protect it and turn it off, or take the keyboard with you when you leave so he can't use it.
Better yet, do the above AND leave him a list of chores he needs to get done around the house while you're at work.
IF he doesn't comply, throw the unemployed bum out and let him find his own place to live until the divorce is final.
2007-11-30 08:06:05 · answer #2 · answered by kyeri y 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it matter? When jobless, he should spend those 8 free hours to search for a job, yeah, that's right, from 9 to 5. He's just doing nothing all day while you work, just be glad you'll be rid of him soon.
And yes, if he is looking for women only, and refusing guys, then there is something fishy going on there.
2007-11-30 08:15:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not cheating, but it is quite disrespectful. Say if he worked all day and you spent your days shopping, but not buying anything. You're not technically shopping, but you are acting out a hobby. He is making a hobby out of talking to single women while you are not around. That's a couple steps away from cheating. He should not be walking so closely to danger.
2007-11-30 08:10:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is cheating if you are married and he is searching for other women. Since you are planning on divorcing, that does change things, however since it sounds as if you live in the same house, it is respectful to avoid pursuing other relationships until the divorce is final and you are living in separate places.
2007-11-30 07:57:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're really taking a stab in the dark, by implying that he is cheating. He may actually be looking.....for you!!!! Does your information give you the names of people, description or any of that information? Or are you just jumping to assumptions, to justify your actions of further "stepping" on your soon-to-be ex-husband. Stop trippin', lord knows, what you are doing on your computer @ work!!!!
2007-11-30 08:33:15 · answer #6 · answered by 2blessed2bdissed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So if he is unemployed, I am assuming you pay for the internet connection he's using to get on MySpace? Yes it is cheating and he is heartless a$$! I say lock him out of the computer so he can't get on it when you're not home. Or take the cords with you to work. How is he going to use the internet YOU pay for to window shop?
2007-11-30 08:12:01 · answer #7 · answered by Rei-Rei 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not cheating and you're not tripping. But he is out-of-line... certainly there are better ways he could be spending his time, and better things with which he could be occupying his mind. Maybe he will realize that someday soon once you've divorced him, and suddenly he finds himself sitting in his tighty-whitey's at 3am poking around on Myspace for the fifth consecutive hour realizing that virtual love is not nearly as warm and embracing as the physical love he once shared with you.
2007-11-30 08:00:55 · answer #8 · answered by blujello 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kick that unemployed bum out on the street. You are getting a divorce? Right?
If you are heading for divorce, and there is no chance for reconciliation, you are effectively divorced already, just waiting for the judge's OK. Why worry over it?
2007-11-30 08:01:04 · answer #9 · answered by Dan H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems that when you use ex husband and he knows this then NO not really.He might be looking for a roommate since I am sure you to are not going to be living together much longer. He is just trying to find a woman to live with and yes sex.
2007-11-30 08:11:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you kick him out yet? Or move, if he's soon to be your ex? Not fair for you to be working and he's at home on his butt...
Plus, if you're about to be exes anyway, why do you care if he's trying to cheat? Look at it this way: if he finds another woman via internet, his unfaithful, unemployed, lazy *** will become her problem, and no longer yours.
2007-11-30 08:04:30 · answer #11 · answered by Dig It 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋