I'm scared of telling my parents that I'm pregnant?

Question

I'm 20 and an adult already, but still, i'm the youngest in my family and my parents consider me a "little girl". Well I'm almost 23 wks preg and no one knows, except for 4 of my friends. I got preg from a guy I was just "getting with", who is and wont be supportive, and that no one knows him either; plus he's 11 yrs older than me. I'm in college and work part-time, but i'm still living with my parents and actually depend on them for almost everything. i always thought about having an abortion, but i knew that would be a stupid decision after all. I mean, all i have left to do is try to find a way and the right time to tell my parents about it, but its very awkward 'cause they probably think im still a virgin (my parents are mexican and very conservative). Im scared that they will find out themselves and be more mad at me, especially because i have been hiding my pregnancy but i won't be able to do that sooner or later. I also dont want to tell em anything about the father of the baby

Answer 1

Scared or not they are your parents and you will eventually have to tell them. Unless you are fearful of physical violence then take a friend, teacher, minister or someone with you.

Answer 2

I was in a similair situation when I was 18. I made the mistake of hiding it from my parents. My parents were disappointed and hurt that I felt I couldnt tell them. Pregnancy is not easy and I missed out on months of support. It is crucial to have support during pregnancy, it is scrary trying to do it alone. The sooner you tell your parents then the longer they have to get used to the idea. They may be mad at first, but I am sure they will come around. One thing I learned from being a mom is that there is such a thing as unconditional love for your kids. I hope you find the courage to tell them soon. Dont wait for the right time because there never will be.

Good Luck

Answer 3

If you are old enough to have sex and have a baby it is time to grow up.

You need to be an adult and tell your parents the whole truth. Be prepared to be kicked out of the house. Be prepared to face their disappointment and anger. Be ready to handle your own problems. The sooner you get this hard part over with the better.

When you tell them steal their thunder. That means, tell them up front you know they'll be disappointed and upset with you. You knew better; but you made the decision and now you are going to have a baby. Then sit back and let them vent for a while without defending yourself. Let them wear themselves out. Once they get past the initial freak out stage they'll probably come around. I'm sure they will be excited and happy for you and the baby. No doubt they will shower it with love because it has had a tough start. Everybody loves a baby.

Best of luck to you. (and think before you act in the future...now you are thinking for two!)

Answer 4

A friend of mine gave her son up for adoption before it was born. She was in high school still I think. (Maybe 18). She still sees him. She's kept in touch. You can have this kind of arrangement. Since you are unsure about abortion, go for adoption. Tell your parents. They will understand. Initially, they may be upset or hurt or a lot of different emotions. But soon they will calm down and be very supportive of you. It's only natural. Since you cannot afford to support a child right now, the best decision you could make is for adoption and stay in touch. You won't regret that decision. You can go on with your life and have children when you are ready. Next time, be more careful. You really screwed up. Make sure you learn the lesson. :) I'll send good thoughts your way.

Answer 5

Tell them as soon as you can. They sooner the better, and if you wait a long time to tell them, they will be even more mad. Don't get an abortion. It is like murder. It is like vacuuming up a little precious baby that came from you, and has your same blood.
Your parents will be mad at first, but they will help you, with what to do. And they will also probably help you with your baby and taking care of it. Good luck!!!! <333

Remember... even if you cannot support this baby, if you get an abortion, you are stopping this persons life, and they are missing out on everything. Think about it.... they may be the most famous person in the world when they are older. If you get an abortion, you will never know who the person really is.

Answer 6

You have put yourself in a hard situation. Being that your parent are Mexican they are more than likely old fashioned! as is my family! I do agree you are young to have a baby. and if you are still relying on your parents for help this will be an issue. For starters they are going to want you to continue with your education especially if they have been paying for it . and they will want to know who the father is! Latin men believe that they should take care of their responsibilities. He will not bbe happy about it. And you being his little girl will be very very hard on him . Id go to your mom first... they tend to be more understanding of these things and try to keep an open mind about it . as fathers he will see only red before he even thinks about being understand of your feelings. If you are not able to support this child I would consider abortion. Lots of people will dog you on here im sure. But what is more fair? rasing a child without a father that your parents will end up having to take care of while you finish what you need to do in life? or chalking it up as a lesson learned and be able to do it the right way later with a man that you love and you know will be by your side? yu need to do whats best for everyone... Good luck

Answer 7

You have made the decision to keep the baby, so you have to tell your parents regardless. I didn't tell my parents until I was 4 mos. along, but I was 24 at the time. It was hard, but they are your parents and considering the father won't be in the picture, your parents are your support system. Honestly no time will feel like the right time to you, so make it so you have to tell them. I had left a message at my parents house, saying I would be over later, that I had something important to tell them, so I couldn't back out.

They will have questions. You decided to have sex with this man and they have the right to ask questions about him, they are your parents - they will be concerned. If your child asks you about their daddy ... what will your answer be? You r child also has the right to know about their father, whether or not he is involved.

Good Luck!

Answer 8

Tell your parents.This happened to me too. My parents were supportive which surprised me. I have three grown children the oldest is 25 and I can't imagine my life with out her.Do go after the father for support it's his baby too and he has responsibility to take care of. Don't let him out of it. It takes 2 to tango. You will be ok you just have to make some adjustments in your life. Your life is not over it may just be starting. If you have an abortion you will live with that the rest of your life,so think long and hard about it. Don't forget there are so many loving people out there to adopt also. Good luck , have faith things will go the way they are suppose to.

Answer 9

You will be surprised if they don't already know. Parents sense when there is something going on with their child. Your going to have to tell them soon. They will be mad at first then after everything sinks in they will be really supportive. (at least I hope) Adoption is an option if your considering it. I would try at least make up a plan like I'll get a job and put schooling on hold for a while. Something at that sort. Then wait and see what they say. After the baby is born they are going to be happy though. No parent on this earth wouldn't' be happy to see a brand new baby and then everything will change. Good luck!

Answer 10

Hi there - You're going to have to fess up sooner or later, so it should be sooner! I hope you're seeing a doctor, the baby is the most important person in this situation. I understand being afraid to tell your parents but they will just have to except it and move on. You may be surprised about how supportive they can be.

Just remember this is about more then just you, you have a baby growing inside of you that needs love and care. If you haven't been seeing a doctor you need to go ASAP! It's imperative!

Answer 11

You know the answer, you must tell them, they will be hurt but their love for you will overcome all of that. If you have a really good friend (that your family trusts) then bring them along for support.
You have a new life to look after, you may want to offer the baby for adoption (there are thousands of wonderful couples looking to adopt)
I know it sounds mad coming from a complete stranger but trust your heart, I think you already know that although it will be very hard and there will be tears and upset, the sun will rise on a new day and your life will go on. I wish you every best wish and health. You are not the first and you will not be the last. learn from it, take care of yourself and trust only those people who earn your trust.
Best wishes