I'm a good looking guy, so I attract people and make friends very easily. The problem is, I usually end up distancing myself from people or vice versa.
What is wrong with me? I keep trying to make new friends, yet I can't open up to anyone and I can't get to know anyone pass the acquaintance level.
Do I need to seek therapy or read some self-help books?
Here are some details about me, please read it, and tell me if I do in fact have a personality problem or not.
1) I'm very sensitive to negative criticisms.
2) I don't like being told what to do, by anyone.
3) Tell me to do something in a rude way and I'll resent you.
4) When acquaintances ignore me when walking pass me or don't greet me when they see me, I'll end up not liking them.
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things like those.
2007-11-30 07:22:20 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Nothing you've mentioned sounds overly pathological to me. It also sounds, however, like you're not happy with how things are going for you socially right now. Therapy could really help you get a handle on that. Group therapy, in particular, might be very helpful.
You would probably be an ideal candidate for psychotherapy. You seem very aware of the issues you have, motivated and willing to do what it takes to change them, and not overly burdened with severe psychopathology.
Best of luck to you,
~M~
2007-11-30 07:26:44 · answer #1 · answered by michele 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has it ever occurred to you that you could be
self centered ,self opinionated, stubborn , ignorant .piece of work ,
Some times it is better to let things brush off you rather then take things so serious .
it is wrong to take every thing at face value ,have you ever
questioned your self, you need to fit in with others,
and that means giving people the benefit of the doubt felling of uncertainty, not every one is the same some will act different than others , you will have to learn to take people as you find them , then you will see a lot more friends around you ,
2007-11-30 07:51:25 · answer #2 · answered by JJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a feeling that this is a barrier you have built to keep people away. It might have not been conscious but it is there.
What I see, and I might be wrong, is that you really want honest and sincere love.
However, at the first sign of doubt, and before anyone (else) hurts you, you separate from them using resentment.
Sometime in your life, you learned this way to protect your heart from any more pain.
I would suggest talking to a counselor about this and finding the root of this. It might be resolved very easy and you won't have to force yourself or anyone to have a long lasting friendship with you.
2007-11-30 07:35:25 · answer #3 · answered by Nancy D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont sound tolerant or fun to be around. Being oversensitive you are probably looking for insults in every comment. Lighten up and quit taking everything so personally and seriously. I guess now you resent me because I gave your a negative criticism and told you what to do in possibly a rude way. Sorry you cant blame your problems off on a personality problem, just a lack of personality.
2007-11-30 07:32:32 · answer #4 · answered by Diane M 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you have a personality problem. I think that you distance yourself from people in fear of getting hurt. Maybe in the past you've been hurt a lot ...? Once you get past the fact that not everyone you meet will hurt you, I think you'll be able to open up to more people. There's nothing wrong with you. You're just cautious. In this world we all have to be a little cautious. Also maybe they aren't distancing themselves from you maybe it's vice versa. You distancing yourself from them ....
2007-11-30 07:31:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Europe is a lot extra left wing than the U. S. and right here in Britain i'm no longer being threatened with homicide or oppression... a minimum of right here with have a actual looking media, no longer purely like the propaganda you all get fed on a daily basis. The Nazis have been precise wing (slightly education there for you!). yet extremes of the two area are undesirable. Why do precise wing governments continuously oppress their voters? Like Iraq, Afghanistan and Saudi Arabia?
2016-10-18 10:08:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man you have a ego as big as Donald Trump You have a attitude problem I would not stick around you for more than i5 minutes You think you are perfect and because I am not perfect well ;;;we have nothing in common And right now you are all mad at me Well Good and Stay alone
2007-11-30 07:48:42 · answer #7 · answered by lala 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have outlined your shortcomings. Now, you can begin to address the problems in order to become the person you want to become. Labeling yourself with a personality disorder is not helpful on the path to arriving at real solutions.
2007-11-30 07:39:30 · answer #8 · answered by OTTO 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont blame you for distancing yourself, most of them WILL hurt you. Ive been around the block i know this, well, at least in my case its true.
wow you ask people to treat you like a normal HUMAN BEING should be treated, i congratulate you, its not you who has the problem IT IS THEM!
2007-11-30 08:33:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi
2007-11-30 07:29:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋