Should I be mad? (why would he keep them?)
Should I give them back to her? (were friends and hes angry with her)
Should I destroy them?
2007-11-30 07:22:15 · 28 answers · asked by Lisa G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have been together for over a year and they have been divorce for 6 years
2007-11-30 07:28:41 · update #1
We were searching for something when he found them under his drawer he know I seen them and then stuck them back under the drawer!!!
2007-11-30 07:31:15 · update #2
a funny thing happened while i was putting your socks in the drawer(laughing hysterically). the underside of the drawer caught on fire, he he, and i tried to put the flames out but .... the glass of water didn't help. (ha ha) so i just wanted to tell you that those nice pictures of your ex-wife burned in the fire........ but luckily the fire didn't burn anything but those pictures and everything else was saved.
just a thought....
2007-11-30 07:41:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Pictures are pictures. If they belong to him, they are none of your business as long as they are from the past, before you were involved. You should definitely NOT destroy the pictures. In fact, you shouldn't even be worrying about them. Their his memories and he has a right to preserve them. It's not like his life started when he met you. He had a life before you, and you cannot expect him to erase his past to appease you. Grow up and stop being jealous of some old pictures in a drawer.
2007-11-30 07:35:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to talk to him and find out why he is keeping them. Yes, I certainly think you have a right to be jealous and hurt, but the only way this can be resolved happily is to find out why he still has the pictures and work this out with HIM. It is possible that he did not remember that he had them, or that they are being kept for a more benign reason, but the only way you will find out is to talk to him and figure it out.
Why are you friends with his Ex if he is not? That is a recipe for disaster if there ever was one. She should have absolutely nothing to do with this, if you tell her or take these to her then you are choosing your husband's ex-wife over your husband.
2007-11-30 07:28:44 · answer #3 · answered by JA in SC 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Should I be mad? - how/why should this make you angry?
Should I give them back to her? - If that's the relationship that you have with him, I guess it can't hurt. If he steals your stuff and gives it to your ex, then yeah, go for it.
Should I destroy them? If destroys your stuff when he doesn't like it, I think that you are entitled to do the same.
Sounds like you have a terrific relationship there. (yeah, right) I wish you luck in your soon-to-be next relationship - and my condolences to both your now and next bf.
2007-11-30 07:33:04 · answer #4 · answered by G_U_C 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would be hurt if my husband had nude pictures of his ex-wife. I would ask him why he has them.
The pictures do not belong to you thus you cannot give them back to her or destroy them.
You can ask him if he will return the pics to the ex. I am sure she would feel more comfortable knowing her picture is not out there somewhere.
2007-11-30 08:11:35 · answer #5 · answered by litl m 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Look, its natural for them to have had a good sex life together, he's holding on to them because you just dont give away naked pics of your ex. You have NO business giving them back to her, stay out of it. The pics are his, not yours to give back. Eventually he will get sick of them, and they will end up on the amature page of a Larry Flint magazine, AKA Hustler !
2007-11-30 07:37:43 · answer #6 · answered by kimmy3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would ask him about it. how long have you been together? no offense, but if you are not in the position where he thinks you will be together for a long time, that could be way he's keeping them. not only that, but they are not yours to destroy. that will just cause more problems. wouldn't you feel better if he had the respect for you to destroy them himself?
2007-11-30 07:26:26 · answer #7 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Don't decide for him what to do with HIS photos.
Tell him they bug you and ask how he'd feel about nude pics of you exes?
Ask him to give them back to her which may be a solution she too appreciates.
2007-11-30 07:28:34 · answer #8 · answered by Lotus Phoenix 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't be mad. He prolly doesn't even remember they are around and at the time they had every right to have these pics. Don't give them back to her, she would be sooo embarrassed that you found/saw them. Wouldn't you? Just burn em up, you don't want anyone else to get their hands on them either, since your friends and all.
2007-11-30 07:26:54 · answer #9 · answered by corryglory 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
is he trying to make you jelous how do you feel about them.i would personally destroy them then dump him but i am jelous type and would be vindictive enough to think he was using them as playing material after i am gone if you get my drift.(saving buyinhg porn) has he got pictures of you nude cos would you want his next woman to see them too?
2007-11-30 07:26:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋