Events get cancelled because she drops the ball or it conflicts with her daughters' birthday party. (What a brilliant way to make sure kids are "available" for her daughters party!) The only communication is via a last minute email-generally less than a 4 day notice, vague and confusing. She's been the leader for 4 years now, and I'm afraid she might be the only choice for us at the school. Her daughter is always the top cookie seller--by a small margin, and of course nobody knows until after the orders are turned in. I think she makes sure her daughter has the highest total, and I bet the extras she buys (to get her daughter the winning prize), are the same boxes that the whole troop sells in the community when sales are over! She doesn't invite parents to any activities, unless we just show up. She's even had one of her friends', not a troop parent, help at the activities. A few of us parents are upset-what can we do?
2007-11-30 07:17:33 · 8 answers · asked by 2sweet 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
Hello 2Sweet:
It sounds like your current leader can use some help. contact the parents of the other members and have a parent's meeting. Invite the leader to this meeting and tell her that you and the other parents are offering to help with the troop. Have one of the parents take on the cookie sale. Have one of the parents coordinate activities. Have one of the parents take charge of the regular meetings. Have one of the parents take over communication. Ask the leader what other chores she has that can be shared among the parents.
If you aren't willing to do this, put up with your current leader.
Keep on Scoutin'
2007-12-01 08:42:56 · answer #1 · answered by OrakTheBold 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was an active leader and heard this from people about other units, my answer has always been the same:
Take over, help out, move, or deal with it.
It is my experience that a lot of bad leaders feel trapped. No one pitches in. All these parents who CAN help, but treat the Scouts like a babysitting program. It is really frustrating.
Help out. Even if the leader is not ready to step down, she may welcome NON-JUDGEMENTAL help. Be the communicator person who does the calls, etc. or something. All too often, helpers only help with the fun stuff, not the hard work.
Move. Try a different troop... although the grass is almost never really greener on the other side.
Get out. If you ain't happy and can't fix it with one of the other options, just get out. It is not worth the headache.
Don't bother the office. Most Scout programs are too short staffed for them to take action against volunteers unless there is something going on like abuse.
2007-12-01 12:46:41 · answer #2 · answered by Madkins007 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so bitter?
Why are you stressed out about a prize for selling cookies?
A lot of times, scout leaders have to come out of pocket to pay for cookies ordered because some parents never turn in their money. I bet THAT is where she gets those "extra sales" you are so upset about.
Why are you so angry that when choosing between her daughter's birthday and a scout event, she chose her daughter's birthday?
Why are you so offended over her having a friend help with activities?
Why do you think that she has nothing better to do than call every parent (Mother and Father if divorced) and "invite" them to participate with their own child?
Why does your question not mention one time where you called and offered to help her in any way you could. You are just as capable of communicating as she is, aren't you?
Last but no least, I look forward to hearing your posts after 6 months as the new Troop leader, but I am sure you will have your own excuses as to why you can't volunteer, riiiiggghhttt?
Bravo to her for having endured 4 years of parents such as yourself.
2007-11-30 07:43:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go to the Girl Scout offices for your area and talk to them. Maybe one or two of you dissatisfied parents could volunteer to be co-leaders of a new group. If there are enough people upset about this, then you can make a change. Have as many parents as you can write letters in support of a new troop or change of command for the old one.
You might also see if there is another troop of older or younger girls to affiliate yourselves with. For a long time, my brownie troop worked with a Juniors troop because we were both smaller troops. It gave us more numbers to do fundraisers and such together (with each troop getting their share of the proceeds). You may also be able to change over to a troop in a neighboring community (you might have to make a short drive, but it might be worth it). The Girl Scout Council for your area should be able to help you in determining the best solution. http://www.girlscouts.org/councilfinder/
^here's the website to find the council near you.
2007-11-30 07:42:31 · answer #4 · answered by princess_dnb 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are really two things you can do...
#1 - become a girl scout leader yourself. If you know this woman is the only choice, and feel it isn't a good one. Step up and volunteer yourself. It is easy to judge choices and decisions when you aren't the one that has to make them. I can tell you that it is actually a ton of fun!
#2 - If you really don't want to become a leader, then you could speak to your GS council about the issues...they aren't harmful for the girls - they may be annoying - but then again, monday morning quarterbacking is much easier than playing in the game!
Good Luck!
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2016-04-30 15:52:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move to another troop, or start your own group.
You aren't limited to the troop sponsered by the school, you are free to join any troop that has space.
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