After paying their fair half of the bills and expense of living the life they are living. (Which in my case leave 1/3 to 1/2 my paycheck as surplus money.)
In many cases this money is pooled together and becomes "our money".
Women typically go shopping more than men, so in reality women are spending the "our money".
If women want men to do their FAIR share of the chores, what is the husband getting for his income/money, since he isn't spending it?
Am I missing something here?
What is it that husbands are paying for?
Is it for sex with the wife?
So what are husbands paying for?
2007-11-30 07:04:00 · 15 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To: Me_Myself
WHAT?
The husband is paying to not spend his money. That makes no sense.
2007-11-30 07:15:49 · update #1
to: kaykay_mp
Didn't you read the question?
According to your logic the husband should also be paid for his efforts to and thereby making your point mute, unless you think the one spouse should get paid more than the other
2007-11-30 09:40:06 · update #2
Get into this century, please. The breadwinner is not always the husband-and I am a wife that is the sole source of family income due to my husband's company layoffs. I don't "pay" for everything, just because I earn a paycheck doesn't mean that I own anything the the money I earn purchases solely by myself. My name on the paycheck does not mean the food purchased with it is mine. My name on the deed does not mean the house is mine. Women who go shopping and spend money on themselves (proportionately to purchasing other things) are just vain spoiled little girls.
What you are missing is a clear vision of what partnership means, what 'two are joined together to become one' means. And just because you THINK you aren't spending it, doesn't mean that you aren't. Do you watch TV? Do you shower with hot water? Do you drive a car? Do you eat? Most of the time the wife processes the expenses of the household, and the family takes so much of that for granted! The average household spending includes: 14% food costs, housing costs at 32%, health care costs at 5%, transportation costs at 19%, not to mention entertainment, insurances/pensions, and other catetories of expenses.
If your family was a corporation, and you as head of the household don't know how your family funding is spent, do you think the Board of Directors would remove you as the CEO? I feel sad for any wife that lives with a husband grounded in such archaic ideals.
Husbands (or wives) that are the support for their households aren't "paying" for anything. And with an attitude like that, I'm guessing the "wife" in the scenario you describe is the one "paying"!
2007-11-30 07:28:58 · answer #1 · answered by Daisy 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You have 1/3 to 1/2 your paycheck as surplus money??? Must be nice! Every cent of my husband's paycheck goes to bills and groceries, and MY check is the spending money. And it's not much, cause I'm a stay-at-home mom who only works weekends! :) In any case, the money goes into the checking account and we use it TOGETHER. Husband's aren't paying for sex, they are supporting their family like real men are supposed to do.
2007-11-30 07:17:56 · answer #2 · answered by Jacqueline D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Clueless,
Sweet Sweet Puntang.
Like my daughters, which is currently on Scott Ian from Anthrax's mouth.
Best,
M.Loaf.
PS: Use a rubber, I heard she B hoein' behind yo back
2007-11-30 07:25:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look when you took those vows you swore to take care of your wife and eventual family. No one said anything about a precentage of your paycheck. All of it belongs to your wife and family and to the household. You get anything out of it, consider yourself lucky. You want 50/50 get a business partner. If your wife contributes Good better for the marriage, but the support is square in your court buddy and that means ONE HUNDRED PERCENT AND THEN SOME.
2007-11-30 07:15:00 · answer #4 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the world. Your eyes have finally been opened. I have asked the question before, and believe that your wife is stashing away some of your money. She is more ready to dump you than you are to dump her. If you are not getting fulfillment from your marriage time to think about it. Until then I hope you like you tie for father's day.
2007-11-30 07:26:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, part of it is for sex.
And the cooking, cleaning up after him like I was his mother, putting up with his temper (by not talking back, talking back makes him even more angry), mothering his children, masseuse, advisor, chauffeur when he is not able to drive, psychologist, mediator, etc.
I deserve whatever he spends on me. (he got me a leather Coach handbag last month!)
I pay bills too, so it is more "our money" than anything.
What did you think? *sheesh!*
2007-11-30 08:15:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't play the "our money" game. I pay the bills I owe. She pays hers. We split any necessary mutual bills. If she has money leftover, she goes shopping with her money. I don't give her my money to go shopping. That is idiotic.
2007-11-30 07:26:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ha ha, well its your choice not to spend "our" money. Some men like tools and do car projects and things of that sort where that runs in to alot of money so i would guess thats what you are paying for.
2007-11-30 07:10:32 · answer #8 · answered by me_myself 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh huh--and you're wondering why you have problems.
Well do you like how your wife shops for your home (decorates it), prepare you dinner etc. Sorry time for 1950's guy coming home sitting his @rsse on the couch so the woman can serve him is long gone.
2007-11-30 07:10:18 · answer #9 · answered by Yummy♥Mummy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is this a good girl ?
2017-04-04 01:37:27 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋