do we bring our own pain...?

Question

or is it a collective thought?

Answer 1

It is not so much what is happening, that causes all the pain. It is what we "think" about what is happening, that causes all the pain!!!
Peace and Blessings.....

Answer 2

We may not bring our own pain, but we choose how we react to it.
If someone causes you emotional pain, you can choose how to react to it. You can get all upset, cry, scream, hit, or let it "roll off" you and go on with your life. If something positive can come out of emotional pain, it is the lessons we can learn by being honest with ourselves and trying to understand what caused the person to react the way they did to us. It may have nothing to do with you, just a person with a bad attitude. They may have something going wrong in their life and reacted badly to it.
Even traumatic experiences can happen and cause you emotional pain. But, you can choose to look at the positives that come out of the experience, learn lessons from those things and go on with life. Always remember that the past is the past that cannot be changed, but you can change.
Understand yourself, then put the hurt in the past and continue living the best you can, learning life's lessons.

Physical pain can also be dealt with, even if you are very sensitive and have a low pain threshold (like me), you can choose how to react to it.
Example: I am in constant pain because of a muscle disorder, I could lay around, do nothing and cry everyday. But, I choose to live my life doing the things I enjoy, taking some pain medication, cleaning house, baking, enjoying Nature, etc. While I can't ignore the pain, I accept my limitations and rest when I have to instead of doing nothing.

It all goes back to what I said before: your reaction to the pain.

Answer 3

quite often we do bring on our own pain by our choices, (drinking a fifth and driving down main street 80 mph and wiping out a cop car, deciding that sandy claws is going to bring me a mercedes benze, blowing the rent at the cassino, hooking up with a hooker and getting some std and infecting the spouse and she divorcing you over it and taking all your stuff in the settlement) and quite often because life is life pain simply happens to us (a child's or parent's death, illness, accidents, acts of war, etc.)
you have actually posed a very complex question in a very simple format.

Answer 4

how much of our pain is something that we never considered pain at all, till someone told us it was?