some one gets cheated on,depressed,beat up.sad,wtf.and the solution is go to a counseler.they are not the cure-all.im sick of the word honestly.just suck things up and go on.and you willsave yourself some money.whats wrong with feeling more than happieness.feeling more than one emotion and being able to deal with it yourself,only makes you stronger.and if you cant deal with it then avoid all issues that could make you unhappy by moving to a remote island somewheres.
2007-11-30 06:14:53 · 19 answers · asked by mr. y 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i didnt cheat or beat anybody up i was talking about other people.
2007-11-30 06:26:01 · update #1
OK, Troll, I'll bite.
I personally recommend professional counseling because a great many of the seemingly simple questions on this form are merely symptoms of greater, deeper problems which can (and should) only be addressed by a competent professional counselor. Discussion forums such as this one can only address what is given - not what is really the problem.
And that, my dear one is why many suggest counseling.
2007-11-30 06:23:58 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The people on here that ask the questions that spark people to say "get counseling" are reaching out for help because they don't know how to deal with their problem themselves. Sometimes a stranger can give you a perspective that you didn't have before or give you tools to cope so you can move past whatever the situation is.
People who actively deal with their issues live longer than people who bury them deep and deny them.
2007-11-30 14:34:56 · answer #2 · answered by LB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? Dude you need counseling!
I think you're right. Especially here where people are looking to others who may have some insight or experience of value.
I'm not saying that all counseling is useless or anything of the kind, but I don't recall ever hearing it help anyone.
I think that we're all just programed to think that the 'experts' have the answer to all our problems and we are taught to trust their 'educated' opinion rather than our own thoughts and feelings. It's not just psychology, it's religion, medicine, science, politics, plumbing, everything. We're told we need an expert.
Self reliance and social reliance are frowned upon by those in power. Maybe we don't need them. Maybe we can take care of ourselves and help each other.
2007-11-30 14:34:32 · answer #3 · answered by Duck! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What works for one doesnt necessarily work for another. Some ppl just need something to believe in and seeing a counselor makes u feel like ur not alone in the world and your not nuts. Iv never been to a counselor but I think some ppl need it more than others some are weak and need the push and others are strong and can move forward, noone is the same.
2007-11-30 14:33:56 · answer #4 · answered by memyslf&I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When ALL ELSE fails, sure! I recommend it whole-heartedly.
Humans were created with a mind to reason, and compromise. You weren't created to HAVE TO HAVE SOMEONE ELSE help you solve ALL of life's problems.
Sometimes, yes, it is a good idea, but to constantly use "Go to counseling' as a one-size-fits-all answer is BULLSHIT.
Me and my man are together- forever.....the good, the bad and the ugly. The ONLY "Get out of Jail Free" card either of us gets is if one of us cheats...and then, and ONLY then, is the other party free to walk- no questions asked.
Life is full of compromise and humility. Too bad most people don't realize that, and if they do, they certainly do not practise it.
2007-11-30 14:35:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I resent the fact that you think all people who seek counseling are weak. That's ignorance at it's darkest! Some people have a harder time coping than others, and there are professionals that can be there to aid people in doing the work. A counselor isn't a magician and in fact, they're trained not to offer any advice at all. People see them as an objective second or third party that can help them put their thoughts into actions that will benefit them. If it's not for you, fine...but don't knock it! If you don't need counseling, great! Don't seek it. Don't be ugly and put down others that do though. Stop worrying about "other people" and whatever they need to help them get through.
2007-11-30 14:23:22 · answer #6 · answered by Marina 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The value of counseling is to learn. A competent counselor will teach you how to recognize and handle emotions. For couples, they will teach you how to communicate fairly. We go to school, we go to college to learn also. Is that useless? Of course there are some that don't give a darn about anything or anybody. I stay away from people like that.
2007-11-30 15:09:11 · answer #7 · answered by Johanna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counselling is an option not a choice. Some people are not that strong to handle certain situations without some type of help.
2007-11-30 14:30:02 · answer #8 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's because these people are asking for help. If someone is asking for advice, would it not be better for them to consult a professional? Especially if it is something as important as a marriage. If these people don't want advice, yeah they should probably just solve their problems on their own. That's what I prefer to do in most cases.
2007-11-30 14:40:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right in a way, but some people have really deep rooted problems. I say talk to your best friend and really get all your feelings out. Sometimes you you can't go hide out on an island. I am all for that though. Sounds like heaven to me!!
2007-11-30 14:23:51 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet V 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋