My new mother in law doesn't really care for me, although she sometimes try to pretend she does. We only see each other maybe twice a year so I really don't know her very well. However, I still want to get her a gift for Christmas since this is my first Christmas in the family. But I am at a complete loss.
2007-11-30 06:03:40 · 19 answers · asked by Wondering Wife 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
get her a bag of coal! lol! give her something like one of those throws with a picture of you and your husband on it so that she always has to keep you around no matter how much she dislikes you. that would be funny
2007-11-30 06:24:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about an introductory firearms training program. Your mother-in-law can safely unleash her aggression on some paper targets a fair distance from your house and the son you stole from her. Or perhaps a gift certificate for a colonic irrigation. Isn't that what all mothers-in-law need even if they can't say so to their daughters-in-law? I once had an idea for a sitcom that I called L.A.C.I.S., which would have chronicled the escapades of five crime fighting colonic irrigation specialists living in LA. The critics (my kids) loved the concept. High brow but not gratuitously high brow. But, as luck would have it, the idea went nowhere. Surprise your mother-in-law. Give her both of these gifts for Christmas. Perhaps there's a firing range out where she lives that gives colonics simultaneously. Now that's a real holiday special, and if your mother-in-law finds that she's into it then I guarantee that she would feel differently about you afterwards! Good luck finding the perfect present. I think you're better off going rogue.
2016-04-06 05:40:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married 35 years and my mother-in-law never really seemed to like me much, on & off. BUT I finally found a way that made her actually see I'm not so bad.
What I did was since I got into scrapbooking I found some old pics of her and my father-in-law, some of hubby & me from a long time ago and made her some pages. Her heart melted, was very cool. Pictures seem to be a great way to get to somebodies heart. Store bought stuff just isn't the same .
If you plan on being with hubby a long time, find a way to melt her heart now, 35 years is a long long time :-)
2007-11-30 06:25:30 · answer #3 · answered by j f 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
As others suggested, have the hubby buy that gift. On the humorous side - get her a difinbachia plant, otherwise known as a mother-in-law or dumb plant. The name comes from the fact if you eat the leaves it causes a reaction that keeps you from speaking for a while. Can be dangerous so don't do this if she has a pet who might eat it.
2007-11-30 07:41:38 · answer #4 · answered by Book0602 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your husband to do the shopping for that side of the family and sign the card from the two of you. He knows his mother best. I have a mother in law that have not cared for and keep my distance as well. I go along with their strang traditions and let my husband deal with his family. It's sometimes best to keep that distance then make waves. You shop for your side. He shops for his. Over time she is going to have to warm up to you because you will be in her sons life forever. Mine was horrible during the wedding. She was opinonated and didn't offer to help in anyway. Even told me that he wouldn't know what he was saying on his wedding day and I should get married in a different religion. She was odd then and is still odd but don't let it bother you. The more you do the more it will hurt your marriage.
If he isnt' going to do that then a gift certificate for manicure/pedicure, restaurant, hair cut. Keep it impersonal. Don't bother trying to find that ohhhh sooo special item she's been wishing for. I get mine a box of chocolates but that is because they do an elephant exchange and nobody buys anyone a gift of that side. It's really just a token.
2007-11-30 06:07:18 · answer #5 · answered by Violet 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you can get a decorative box which holds photographs and replaceable one on the lid it would be lovely for her. Include in it a photo of yourself and her son, and maybe a photo of your wedding. Then each year send her another one. She can look back over the years on your happiness with your husband and hopefully this will make her realise that it is her son who is married to you and loves you so maybe she should love you too. Maybe a little piece of jewellery like a bracelet or chain could be included.
2007-11-30 06:22:26 · answer #6 · answered by rustynail 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A grandbaby! No, just kidding! You should really ask your husband some things about her to get an idea of what she likes and then go from there. Good luck and have a Merry Christmas!
2007-11-30 06:27:51 · answer #7 · answered by Brandolyn 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since she is your husbands mother and he knows his mother better then us I would think he could give you a suggestion as to what to buy her. Are you not giving her a gift from both of you?
2007-12-04 05:09:21 · answer #8 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her a nice box of chocolate from Godiva (linked below) and a gift card (for at least $20) to Bed,Bath,&Beyond or a book store. Wrap the gift too. Details count.
2007-11-30 06:09:53 · answer #9 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Make it something that is special so maybe one day you can turn her feelings around. A bad mother in law is bad for a marriage.. Even if its small let it still be special. I like the idea of chocolate and a girft card... Thats a good idea..
2007-11-30 06:12:02 · answer #10 · answered by boohoo1964 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋