What are some good and quick ways of spoilig a friendship :) ?

Question

I am NOT trying to spoil anything. What I'm asking is what would YOU do, if you wanted to lose a friend. Or what a friend had to do if he/she wanted to lose you.

Thank you for your answers! :)

Have a wonderful weekend! :)

(((( You all )))) :)

Answer 1

I forgive for a lot of things, but not as much with people I already didn't like as much. So all those people would have to do is get on my nerves by lying too much, being too much work to save and all that. But if it's someone I like a lot or love, then they will have to try their darndest. Sometimes it takes me months to "get the picture...." They can cheat, be criminals, lie, be crazy, steal from me, borrow without paying back, ask too much,be gross, break my heart, be lazy and get me to do their work all the time, etc etc etc, and I still wouldn't get it, if I liked them too much....

But I'm so tired from trying to have good friends I can care for, that anymore, they'd (any new ones) prolly have to just hurt my feelings a time or two and I'd give up.

Answer 2

It really becomes a question of character. Me? I'd simply tell that other person--privately--that I no longer wish to continue our friendship, and tell them why. I prefer honest confrontation over childish head games.

You know the games I speak of, since we have both witnessed such treatment to others.

But to those who have no idea what I'm talking about, here goes:

1) Make public any and all information you have on your target. The good stuff is all the information you gained in good faith during the time when the target thought of you as a friend.
2) When making personal information common knowledge, feel free to putty in any gray areas you may have with whatever floats your boat. Make stuff up! Exaggerate what's real, and create new stuff along the way.
3) When your target counter-attacks, maintain that your story is true, and accuse the other person of being the liar.
4) Make fun of the target. Most audiences will stick with whoever is the most entertaining. They'll join in--even if they don't really know the target themselves.
5) Public, public, public! Do NOT--under any circumstances--keep any exchange between you and your target out of the public eye. If they Email you with a hurt demand for an explanation for your behavior, post that Email on a blog somewhere handy. As always, feel free to "edit" that Email and create your own details in order to make your target look even more vulnerable and pathetic. Your audience will continue to grow as a direct result.
6) Make sure your blog is availible for everyone possible to see. It's no fun, after all, to demean another person if you can't advertise.
7) Allow your own ego to swell to tremendous proportions. Brag yourself up every chance you get. Hey, it's your limelight, right? Let 'er shine!
8) While you're laughing, remember to laugh at yourself. That's because the real joke's on you. People of any real worth are going to see right through it. The only person you revealed as pathetic is yourself.

That's the best way I can think of to spoil an Online friendship, anyhow! That's just downright snarky.

Thank you, dear friend, for allowing me to get that off my chest!

(((Moon))) (((Thrice)))

Answer 3

Moon,
good question (yet once again from you). If I wanted to lose a friend - I would just tell them I didn't like them and don't want any further contact.

If someone were trying to get rid of me as a friend? Without coming right out and telling me (which is what I would prefer- but with some people they just can't seem to speak the truth in a dignified manner) I suppose acting self centered and spoiled would be my clue to leave the relationship.

Just one person's perspective.

Gerry :)

Answer 4

There are no good ways for that, only idiocy. Why not tell the truth and communicate the fact you have others that need your attention, but do not be an absolutist when there is no need to be absolutely judgmental.

'The "Gestalt prayer" is a 56-word statement by psychotherapist Fritz Perls that is taken as a classic expression of Gestalt therapy as way of life model of which Dr. Perls was a founder.

The key idea of the statement is the focus on living in response to one's own needs, without projecting onto or taking introjects from others. It also expresses the idea that it is by fulfilling their own needs that people can help others do the same and create space for genuine contact; that is, when they "find each other, it's beautiful".'

I do my thing and you do your thing.
I am not in this world to live up to your expectations,
And you are not in this world to live up to mine.
You are you, and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, it's beautiful.
If not, it can't be helped.
(Fritz Perls, 1969)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gestalt_prayer

Answer 5

Depends on the friendship. If someone wants to lose me, it depends on how close we are. There are some people in the world that I will love to death until I die; that will NEVER change. But still there are others that by simply not emailing me for a while, we lose our friendship.

But when it comes to me wanting to lose a friend, I'd become close to them.

No matter what I do, or how hard I try, I always fxck things up. By allowing myself to get close to someone; to trust them, care for them, and let them trust and care for me, I almost guarantee I'd ruin it all.

In my case, it's allowing the friendship to culminate, that ruins it the most easily.


If that fails, I'd take them out, get them drunk, then videotape myself shaving their head, and writing obscenities on their face in permanent marker. Then I'd put the video on YouTube.

"Git Er Done :]"

Answer 6

Ask to borrow money. Call them at 11 PM on week nights and stop over on Saturday morning unannounced at 9:30 AM. Gossip about them and other people. Spend hours and hours on the telephone talking about yourself and don't even bother to ask your friend how things are going. Tell them their husband or wife is someone you never liked to begin with and list their faults. Give them lots of advice on exactly how you think they should run their life.

Answer 7

If someone cheated on me I would consider the friendship over*
If I wanted to lose a friend I would steal from them* I would not expect a friend to tolerate that*

Answer 8

Why would I ever want to lose a friend? I might want a little space from a friend. I might be upset with a friend and need a little time to heal. I might even feel betrayed by a friend and need to gain some perspective, but I don't want to lose a friend! Wanting to lose a friend implies that I have too many. That must mean that I don't choose my friends with care. I wouldn't ever want to think that about myself. If I have too many friends, I need to redefine that word friends.

Answer 9

Hey Miss Moon (Peaches) . . . . . biggest problem I have with anyone is if I find out they have gossiped about me and I find out from someone else. I expect my friends (inner circle friends) to be on the same page as I am in character. I deplore condemnation for others that are different as I find them extremely interesting. I also can't stand someone who shred people apart behind their backs. I expect my friends to treat people with love and respect and be grounded. Don't ask a lot, just simple respect for my fellow man.

Answer 10

Gossip separates close friends. I have seen relationships damaged by this even in my own family when things were said to me I just prayed about it and did not utter a word to anyone else this way the gossip would not spread.