My husband is telling me when we go through a divorce I am going to have to pay him back for all of the insurance he payed on my car and for everything he had to pay for me. Is this true? He is being a jerk about child support so I don't know if he is saying this to just get me mad. I don' know. Thanks
2007-11-30 06:02:22 · 18 answers · asked by lvbrdy4vr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well yes, fair is fair, if you are going to ask him to pay you large sums of money, the courts will order you to pay him back for all of your expenses he has covered.
Anything that was in your name, car insurance, repairs, cell phone, credit card etc. All accounts that were in your name only, that he paid on, you will have to reimburse.
2007-11-30 06:14:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Wow, by the rating, you can tell that there is some bitter guys paying child support. If you have shared parenting, then he doesn't have to pay child support. I don't know what your state rules are on alimony, but here in OH it is 1 year of alimony for every 3 years married. No you don't have to pay him back for that stuff. I don't know why some guys wouldn't want the best for the children they made. Some day they will be sorry.
2007-11-30 14:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by StephiPets 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you will not have to do that. If the car had been wrecked while you were together you both would have benefited. The insurance is not forever it is for a limited time period. It is an expense you two had. I can tell you I bet you too could come up with a list twice as long as his. But it would do you no good for both of you to be petty.
He does sound like he's trying to make you angry.
They will divide your assets that you have now, including any debt you have. Sounds like you may have to get a good lawyer though.
2007-11-30 14:10:10 · answer #3 · answered by Sandra R 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not really, at least not in NYS. And yes, he is being a jerk. Apparently he is playing some psychological game with you, but any divorce lawyer klnows better.
Although I am sorry that there are children in the middle of this, good luck. I hope that you get enough $$$ to take care of all their needs. They are probably traumatized by all this, so try to keep your sanity and dignity in tact, for them if not for all concerned.
2007-11-30 14:21:44 · answer #4 · answered by Slick98 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well then you should bill him for pain and suffer due to labor, boredom due to his insensitivity, day care charges, administrative costs, house cleaning, laundry, cooking, maid service, oh yeah and having sex when you did not want to just to make him happy the list goes on and on.
He is just trying to bully you and cause you to be as unhappy as he is. Your lawyer will tell you that those expenses you mention were household expenses and you will not have to pay that back.
What an *** he seems to be. Don't worry the state will make sure he either pay child support or goes to jail whichever he chooses.
He is the one that is going to have to pay out because he has children to support.
If I were you in the divorce I would ask that he pay all my attorney fees that happens a lot.
Good luck to you and apparently good riddance to him.
2007-11-30 14:20:36 · answer #5 · answered by Grace 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Spouses have an obligation to pay each other's ordinary expenses of living. That does not get reimbursed in a divorce. There is some case law to the effect that a party is entitled to the return or reimbursement for something called "a gift made in contemplation of marriage". Currently, the only thing that qualifies as "a gift made in contemplation of marriage" is an engagement ring. But reimbursing him for your car insurance and yogurt? Please. That's like saying, he'll have to pay you back on an hourly basis for cooking, cleaning, and sex. Not a chance.
EDIT: Thumb-downs? How deluded are you, people? I am a lawyer, for G-d's sake. The way I've described it is the way it works -- it's not a matter of opinion. Thumbing me down won't change the law one single bit.
And to the supposed "law student" below -- I don't know what diploma mill you go to, but what you said is the EXACT OPPOSITE of reality. Property acquired during a marriage is subject to divvying up in a divorce regardless who is using it or in whose name it's held; and the debts are split similarly, regardless of who's incurred them. Spouses do not compensate each other for necessaries. Do yourself a favor -- stop embarrasing yourself and go read your hornbooks. And get ready for a few encore performances on the bar exam -- after all, what's fair is fair, right?
2007-11-30 14:12:31 · answer #6 · answered by Rеdisca 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
well seriously either party can ask for any wacky thing they want during a divorce but no judge is going to go for that. Any bills or debts acquired during the marriage are both parties' responsibility- also any income or assets acquired during the marriage belong to both parties.
Get a lawyer. Don't let him get away with the child support thing- the courts will set him straight but the sooner you get that part worked out the better.
2007-11-30 14:13:32 · answer #7 · answered by LB 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, it's not true, and dont' worry about any gifts he gave you, because they belong to you, including your ring.
He IS being a jerk and trying to push your buttons.. He's bitter and this is how bitter people behave.
He can be a jerk about child support all he wants, he will still have to pay it... because the courts will order it....
I had a bitter ex too, and what i did was take a deep breath, and IGNORED HIM.... instead, i smiled at him and agreed with everything he said! boy, it sure got under his skin too! teehee.....
Dont let him run your emotions.. Run your own... because he is not in charge of your emotions, you are hon!
2007-11-30 14:12:03 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not true. Funny thing, if you didn't work, he'll actually have to provide for you because the courts look at the lifestyle you lived while in the marriage and try not to hurt you in the transition of breaking it. He's being a jerk and he just wants you not to pursue child support. I say take his A$$ to the bank!
2007-11-30 14:07:21 · answer #9 · answered by dpcarras2007 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Mine is doing the same. Good luck on the child support, I got 103 a month and we have 2 kids. He doesn't work and lives in a 200,000 home that his parents bought and him and his knocked up girlfriend don't hurt for nothing and have all the luxuries. Me and my children suffer and stumble everyday but we make it and we are happier than he is. Keep smiling and keep walking, he does it because he tries to bother you. Hold your head high and just say whatever to his remarks. It'll hit him when he gets court papers in the mail.
2007-11-30 14:10:50 · answer #10 · answered by grace 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he means that while you were legally married then no. You dont have to pay him back for any of that. As for childsupport I would let my attorney handle it or go to domestic relations. They will help you get child support and take it directly out of his paycheck. check into it im sure theyre listed in the phone book
2007-11-30 14:13:34 · answer #11 · answered by ladyjaney 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋