I don't know why this happens to me, I like someone from church, he likes me too, but whenever I see him in church, either walking in or from my seat, I look away almost in a violent way, I make it so obvious I'm scared of him, but yet I like him so much, he likes me too, but this is a never ending circle, we look at each other and I always look away, I want to talk to him, but just the thought makes me want to run away & I don't think I could utter a word, (I am soooo scared) I wrote him a letter about a dream I had of him, I want to put it on his windshield but don't dare, please help!!!
2007-11-30 05:52:31 · 3 answers · asked by Beverly Garland 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The problem is good men have really hurt me so bad, but yes they were very good people, but they played with my feelings in such a bad way! 2 did and before, I've been with men that only wanted one thing or money, so I've been extremely hurt by men, and yes I'm not in a very good place in my life right now, lost my business and home, because of the Real Estate problem.
2007-11-30 06:04:28 · update #1
yes, you can be afraid of men (I mean.. come on, some people are afraid of trees!) but this is NOT what your problem is. If there were no attraction between you two you wouldn't be having this issue.. so your problem isn't that he is a man.. it's that you are attracted to him. You need to figure out WHY this attraction scares you.. have you had a bad experience in the past? Are you just not at a good place in your life? Are you scared it may be for real and are just making excuses? I don't know and can't answer for you. Figure that part out and you'll be able to move past this on your own.
2007-11-30 06:00:33 · answer #1 · answered by pip 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give him a simple letter letting him know that you are interested in him and would like to have lunch and get to know each other and see if he responds. you dont want to give him the letter about the dream because if he is not the way you think he is in the dream in real life you might be setting yourself up for dissappointment, after you get to know him and your feelings are still as strong towards him let him see the dream letter later in in the relationship take it slow you dont know who he is yet ou only have an idea of what you think he might be like.
thats why you take it slow.
how did you lose your house i do mortgages i could have probably helped you wish i knew you before....
2007-11-30 14:04:41 · answer #2 · answered by joey l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're buried way too deep in your emotional thinking. All I can suggest is a daiquiri or two.
2007-11-30 14:02:24 · answer #3 · answered by Duck! 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋