He completely left me alone for 20 mins. while talking to them. Don't you think that this was rude and inappropriate? I mean I could understand a "hey, how are you" But i think this was wrong for him to do. What should I do about it?
2007-11-30 05:48:50 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are far from being childish. I understand completely and agree that he was wrong. The situation would have been different if you were by his side talking for 20 min but since he left you stranded he not only neglected you as his finance' but also possibly embarrassed you as well.
Just talk to him about it and let him know that you don't have a problem with him socializing with his ex's family but you should not have to feel invisible at any time throughout your relationship.
Good Luck
2007-11-30 06:06:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it was wrong for him to ignore you, but I don't think it was wrong for him to talk to them for 20 min. I know if I saw my ex's family in the store I would stop and chit chat. In fact my ex's mom still calls me sometimes just to say hi.
You have to remember, he is with you now, not his ex, but just because of that you should not expect him to give up friendships or relationships he had with people like that. Its not fair to him. My boyfriend hates it and it has put a really big toll on our relationship.
Don't worry about it and try and support him. Ask him to include you in their conversation, even though you may not have anything to say, it always helps and takes away the suspicion of the conversation, of the hurt feelings that you feel. Your feelings are very valid for that, but at the same time it is ok for him to talk to them.
2007-11-30 14:04:59 · answer #2 · answered by KRDB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he didn't introduce you, then that was rude. But I don't think taking a few minutes to talk with old friends is wrong especially if he hadn't seen them in a while.
I think you are probably feeling a little insecure and maybe even jealous so talk with him about how it made you feel and don't make a big deal over it.
2007-11-30 13:59:46 · answer #3 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually I still talk to my ex husbands father and step-mother once in awhile. They live far away but they have invited me and my soon to be husband up for a visit. It is very odd. But I think he should introduced you, that was kind of rude, but at the same time, it is just an awkard situation.
2007-11-30 13:58:55 · answer #4 · answered by linus1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not do anything about it. Anything you do or say makes you look jealous and petty.
Did he introduce you? If not, you should have sidled up and asked to be introduced, and included yourself in the conversation (not dominating it, but participating a little).
Yes, if was rude to abandon you for 20 minutes, but he may have been thrown, or he may like them, and want to let them know that his split with their daughter hasn't changed that.
It would have been better if he'd included you, but it's too late. If he was sort of shocked, or if he's socially clueless, then he wouldn't realize that.
If you're planning to marry him, you may want to learn how to accept if he's a bit socially clueless. It doesn't have to be a deal-breaker, but something you learn how to live with.
Like introducing yourself, and letting them talk, but also not just being left on your own.
2007-11-30 20:59:49 · answer #5 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think he could have introduced you, if he didn't....
Perhaps he had a good relationship with them, and wanted to catch up... but i do think that if you were left out, it was rude.
Nothing you can do short of letting him know how you felt (IF you were left out of the conversation or was not introduced). Otherwise, people run into each other sometimes, and talk... it's not unusual.
2007-11-30 14:03:46 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont do anything about it. He should have introduced you to them though. He was kinda rude with that. He may have felt uncomfortable and just was randomly talking to them. You just stand by his side if that ever happens again.
2007-11-30 14:00:10 · answer #7 · answered by llexiann30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious?
Just because people break up it doesn't automatically mean they must hate that persons family. You're attitude is childish.
Would you feel differently if it was his football buddy from high school or college classmate?
You're big girl - you were in a store....amuse yourself. Tweny minutes is a blink in the overall scheme of life.
2007-11-30 13:57:33 · answer #8 · answered by Susie D 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
two things to do.
Calmly - and gently tell your BF how hurt you were because he just left you alone. That wasn't nice and he really shouldn't have done that.
And you - develop a skin. You can't avoid everything that is unpleasant.
Sounds like you two need premarital couples classes.
2007-11-30 13:57:20 · answer #9 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like your being insecure, he should of took you of along, but he probably thought you might be uncomfortable around them. You should communicate with him about this.
2007-11-30 14:42:06 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋