If a person with disability dates a person that is active do you think that they will work out?
2007-11-30 05:41:22 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ People with Disabilities
Yes.
I have seen many marriages and r'ships be outstanding even though one is disabled.
Why should a disability stop someone from having a r'ship with somone who isn't disabled?
It shouldn't.
2007-11-30 05:44:16 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I'm tempted to say: "Why not?" and let it go at that, but I feel that would be flippant. It all depends on the people involved, like any relationship. My significant other is fully functional on all levels, while I am disabled. We don't even think about my disability, possibly because I've been disabled for so long... I was totally honest with him, because on my good days, you can't tell I'm disabled, so I made sure he read the whole list of horrible things I put up with on a day-to-day basis. You know what? He didn't care! So, you see. it can work out. On the other hand, there are a lot of times it doesn't work out, but it's the same with any two people, no matter what their physical status.
2007-11-30 23:48:42 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It can work just fine if both people work at their relationship. The disabled partner could not expect the active partner to give up activities they like, but they could become their best supporter. I know a guy who lost one leg almost to the hip and the other just above the knee. Because of the type of damage done to him he at this time can not wear prosthetics. His partner is a avid dancer. They go out to the clubs and the one dances and the other finds someone to have a nice conversation about gay rights or some other important topic of the week. They both know and trust each other well enough that there is no jealousy and they both know they are going home with each other so it's okay to dance and okay to talk to other people. It matters not what each person is capable of, what matters is they are truthful and trusting within their relationship. Oh, and by the way they met after the ones car accident. Merry Christmas
2007-12-01 19:36:54 · answer #3 · answered by WACVET75 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the two people. I have dated able bodied men, who thought they could "handle it", the fact that I CANT participate in the things they enjoy doing and in most cases they found someone who could. I have never dated a disabled person, not by choice but its just happened that way.
I have had one relationship that lasted quite awhile but there were times he became frustrated when we had made plans and I woke up in so much pain I had to cancel - and there are times when we have gone walking and he has gotten frustrated because he is just getting started and I am already done in.
I would honestly say that in most cases it doesnt work that well. Jealousy can become an issue with the disabled person, it has with me, when I am left sitting home while he was out with a mixed group playing volleyball, going to the pub afterwards etc.
2007-12-01 14:51:36 · answer #4 · answered by isotope2007 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a disability and I'm married to a man who does not. Also I work for a non-profit disability organization and there are many "mixed" marriages. There is not reason why it can't work out if both individuals have understanding of the situation and love each other.
Even though I have limitations, my life is not limited. I have a very healthy and active life! People with disabilities are people first.
Check out this website: www.disabilityisnatural.com
2007-12-01 20:10:16 · answer #5 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was thinking the samething.
If I going to be on disability, how does a girl will think of me when I am with her even her parent?
That the question I don't have an answer for myself.
I really like girl and want to go out but felt maybe they might think I am "lazy" when my disability prevent me from working or holding the job.
I would like comment as well on this matter.
2007-11-30 13:52:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY NOT I have seen it happen many times.A person may have a disability but they are still human with all the needs and feelings of a person who in not disabled.
They would need to keep in mind that there will have to be differences in their life and sometimes difficulties that are unique to that persons disability may arise.
But isn't that true of any relationship tho!!!
2007-12-03 20:24:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am disabled, but I was happily married to a very active man that made me feel like I was royalty, he passed away but now I do know true love and being disabled is possible.
2007-12-02 14:13:48 · answer #8 · answered by mary s 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not a question you need to worry about! It's the ppl in the relationship to worry about. If you're disabled, don't think so hard of yourself. If you're not, get some confidence and stop worrying what others think! The one you date is the only person you need to care what they think.
2007-12-01 23:19:21 · answer #9 · answered by Just lil' ol' me. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldn't it. People with disabilities have feelings too. I'm not saying that is is a good idea in all cases. The "normal" person would have to love that person and know all the work that can be envolved. Love is Love
2007-12-01 11:10:47 · answer #10 · answered by Michael K 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Your question is insulting. It implies that PWD are not active. Do you think we sit around the house all day watching TV and eating potato chips? Just try keeping up with me.
My husband is not disabled and is constantly nagging me to slow down because he can't keep up. We have been married for 30 years, have two children and 1 and a third grandchildren.
2007-11-30 23:39:47 · answer #11 · answered by SusieQ 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋