Having constant rift with my husband, as he feels I do not support him when he wants to do things for his mom. Due to this we constantly have fights, I have 2 kids 10 and 7 who are unhappy about the fights. He has never been there for me mentally, physically for the last 15 years that we have been married. Every time I ask him for love he says he is tired and other times he wants it right then, I have even caught him a few times on some odd websites may be due the websites he is on he gets excited and comes only at that time. Have tried to foregt that but just unable to do that I feel really hurt when I think of all this. He is actually the earner in the family, I have just started and am not confident finacially. A few days ago it was our anniversay and he didnot spend one bit , but was busy taking care of his mom that hurt me a lot. I am confused if I should leave him or continue living for my kids sake. Any advice on what it might be mentally, financially for me and the kids
2007-11-30 05:16:06 · 7 answers · asked by Ruchita B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Move out for a trial separation. See how it goes. Maybe he will get it together or maybe you will be so much happier without him.
Children do not want to stay in an environment in which their parents are unhappy.
2007-11-30 05:20:09 · answer #1 · answered by sahel578 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start taking little bits of money for the next 6 months, open up a separate account that he doesn't know about. Put pieces of your paycheck in, since your not talking I'm sure he doesn't pay attention to your pay and since your not making much he won't notice a few dollars missing plus you can always lie. Get yourself financially stable, when you leave you don't want to depend on him for anything at all.. He's not been there for 15 years going to counseling or anything else isn't going to work, it's time to move on. You need to make sure you can do it and that your okay financially, that your readily on your feet when you walk out that door. Your kids won't understand, but they will see it's different and will see that it was for the best. I wish you good luck! I'd suggest the six months though...
2007-11-30 13:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by Can't stand this 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, look deep into your heart and ask yourself what do you want from this man (your husband)? do you want to keep staying with him for the rest of your life because you are married to him??? but doesn't treat you the way you have to be treated? The question is what ever he does you are going to say i am staying because i have two kids with him? No, just move on and go counseling, for a while, if that doesn't help then tell him you want more than what he is giving you and if he doesn't want to change then you have every right to more on and go find someone who will know your anniversary and would spend more time with you and the kids.
2007-11-30 13:24:25 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie A. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get out on your own and get a divorce from this man if he cares for his mother more than you. the kids will be happier once the fighting ends and there will be less chance that they will think fighting is normal in a relationship of their own some day.Put aside as much money as you can each week and when you have enough move out and file for the divorce. You can go to legal aid now and get advice on how to go about getting the divorce and support money from him and since they will only represent one side in a divorce you will get them before he does. Good Luck to you!!
2007-11-30 13:53:43 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since the fights are over his MOM...oh brother...and you have two children to raise and are very unhappy.....He has never been there for you mentally or physically...I would move out when i had the money to do so...and take the children with me...He also ignored you anniversary...it sounds like he doesn't care...People get divorced for different reasons...go and be happy...But get a divorce and get child support and spousal support....you may be alright after that...but may have to go to work..sorry....
2007-11-30 13:27:18 · answer #5 · answered by sweet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu both need to try some counceling BEFORE moving out. I have heard of other couples enduring much more than you do. Moving out or "trial seperation" usually causes more problems than it solves,,,
2007-11-30 13:25:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do u still love him???
If yes talk with him and give it another try, if u don't love him..........just move out.
Its the best thing to do......even for the kids, its not fair on them to see u always fighting
2007-11-30 14:05:41 · answer #7 · answered by shinersd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋