is it right to love some one but look at other girls?

Question

we have been dating three months but i still look at other girls but by mistake

Answer 1

Yeah! As much as Girls say they love other men while they're dating, you should feel just fine looking at another women.

Answer 2

It depends, looking is natural, so averting your eyes seems ridiculous. Scoping other girls out at length is a habit you will need to break when you get married and right now is considered rude to your girlfriend and to the "lookee" since you are not available right now. Also, how far a jump is it from looking, to being caught looking and approached, to accepting a phone number? Because that can be a short trip for some "players" who can't stop cheating. On the other hand, if you always whip around to watch a girl walk by, you will end up married someday, possibly, but your friends will still always call you "Woody"! Which might seem funny now, but gets sad when you are over 55, right?
I hope your girlfriend is not riding you about this - she could get jealous - but you also need to not be craning that neck around or spinning around as she walks with you to catch the rear-view. But as I tell my husband when some hussy has practically dropped her ta-tas in his lap and he is surprised and embarrased for seeing it, "Hey, free show" - you have to laugh, because he might not be "looking", but he is not blind, either. ;) We have a "look but don't touch policy" too - and if everyone in the room turns to watch, there is no point in expecting he would not turn too, is there? It is a matter of scale and follow action, basically. I don't lean all over in my chair to take a better look at the super cute waiter, either, though I am free to watch him walk past - free show.

Answer 3

You're not dead. You're going to continue to look at other girls. Just don't make it obvious or ignore the girl you're with. If you let it become obvious that you're appreciating other women, your girl friend is going to feel unappreciated, more than likely jealous, and feel as if she is constantly needing to COMPETE for your attention with other women. Unless your woman is a very confident individual who feels totally at ease with her own sexuality and physical body and totally understands that primitive man was built to continue to populate the earth with as many women as he could to ensure the species and will cut you some slack for not fighting off the primal urge, you need to avoid staring at other women for longer than a second or a quick glance.

Besides I'm sure she's still looking at other guys, but knows not to rub your nose in it. Women, also fight the primitive urge to find the most viral mate to promote the vigor of the species. Don't let her fool you by saying she doesn't look.

It doesn't hurt to compliment her on the reasons why you've chosen to date her and were attracted to her in the first place. Mondo brownie points.

Answer 4

Lol. By mistake.
Don't worry about it. It's normal. It's human nature. Hopefully your girl has enough confidence to realize this. As long as you are respectful to her, and don't make it too obvious, like gawking or swivel-heading when a hot girl walks by, then I see no harm in it. My man likes to look at other girls, discreetly, and I enjoy it. Why? Because it is cute how he trys to do it without me noticing, and plus, I know I'm amazing. We love each other, but if he cheated or wanted another girl, I'd laugh....knowing he'd regret it.
Are you ok with her checking out other guys? :)

Answer 5

I , personally, don't think so.....but that's just me. Everyone is different, and everyone has different ideas of what is "ok" or not, so it really depends on your own opinions, her own opinions, and you guys together.

If you are asking this question though, and admit that you do it but by mistake, it leads me to think you are feeling guilty about it -- and usually guilt only comes when you are doing something you know on some level you shouldn't -- so wether its that you dont feel its right, but something about her cant keep your 100% attention, or you know shes not ok with it -- either way, if your feeling guilty about it, then obviously it something you shouldnt be doing, on logic's sense.

Answer 6

Is it right to buy a new car and look at other cars? Is it right to love your first child and then love a second one? Dude, being in love with a woman does not mean you somehow stop being a human animal. Of course you can and will look. But you will learn to be respectful with your looking, by not being obvious, especially in front of her.

Answer 7

Men are genetically and evolutionarily programmed to look at other women. We still have not civilized the human animal. The human animal needs to survive, and propogate the species. The human animal does not care about commitment or morals or values or rules. The human animal needs to keep reproducing by any means necessary. As long as you commit yourself to your relationship, and avoid and resist temptations, you will be fine.

Answer 8

It's absolutely normal. You are human after all. Just don't let those looks linger or smile/wink at the other girl. That's just asking for trouble. Do what you would want your girlfriend to do if she were in the same situation.

Answer 9

Its perfectly normal you havent been with her long enough and even then youre always going to be watching other girls is just the way we humans are ahe will do same thing look at hot guys but at the end who she really love is you and same thing with you.


Good Luck

Answer 10

It is COMPLETELY wrong. But, then again you're a man, thats what you guys do. Not being rude or anything but men are COMPLETE pigs. Even if they've been married for 14 years they still are disgusting. If you truly love her don't look at other womens chests or asses. Then you can be a true gentleman.