My husband has hinted that I am not making enough. I work from home and take care of the house also. I am feeling a little sad and upset about this. What would you think?
2007-11-30 03:39:16 · 63 answers · asked by Rein 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I average 90k a year.
2007-11-30 03:39:51 · update #1
Ask your husband what is wrong. He is obviously upset about something so you need to find out what. Maybe he is jeleous or doesn't feel he is important or maybe he is feeling demasculinized because you have assumed the bread winning role? You need to get to the bottom of his contempt. I doubt very much that he really thinks you need to make more money.
2007-11-30 03:44:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your doing the books together and there isn't much in the way of debts for the business or personal, I would then sit down with you hubby and talk to him about what his ideal amount is, and why that much is better then what your already generating. Having an honest look at the financial picture might not be the actual problem, sometimes its a symptom of something else, perhaps he is insecure and feels that he isn't a good provider and he's using that as his excuse to express his frustration?? Talking honestly about it would do you both a world of good. You might not feel as upset if you know exactly why he would make such a comment and where his frustration comes from. Just a thought.
2007-11-30 03:46:53 · answer #2 · answered by aylatroy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess that would depend on how much money you need to keep up with the lifestyle that you want to live. So many factors come into play here. If there are children in the home, you need to have time to care for those children. If not, then you have to weigh the benefits of working from home and working outside of the home. You may be able to work away from home and make more money, but you also have the expenses of traveling to and from work.
Above all, keep in mind that money is not worth fighting over. Your marriage is more important, enjoy it.
2007-11-30 03:45:35 · answer #3 · answered by Fish Lover 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. That all depends on how much you are spending.
If you bring in $14k in two months but burn through $13k, then he might have a point. Of course, the other option is to cut down on expenses.
If you're like the other 95% though, then that should be plenty of income, and I'm not sure what he's complaining about unless he's in school full-time and there are debts to be paid off.
Not to be nosy, but what do you do from home that's worth $14k in two months? I might need to give it a try...
2007-11-30 03:43:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would be like damn that is sweet lets buy a hot tub this guy is pathetic you have a legit well paying job if most ladies brought home that kind of cash in 2 months there husband would think they are prostituting or stripping. I think you need to tell your husband that if he wants more money get a new job. Really though I w3ould tell him to stop worshipping money because one day it mqay all be gone and thenhe will be crushed. Tell him it is better to worship God.
2007-11-30 03:55:17 · answer #5 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on where you live.. Palm beach? Manhatten? If you live in a smaller town sometimes 90,000 is like a million.. . If you both put all the excess away ...meaning if he is also working and you both save just your paychecks for the next 20 years you will have close to 2 million in interest and in actual savings. It all depends on where you live.and how you spend.
No use feeling sad although I can see you do. Men often think way way ahead in terms of retirement etc.. simply ask him if the two of you can collaborate on the plan. You know. it's like letting you in on the secret... make sure anything you do is well documented and in both your names requiring both signatures.
2007-11-30 03:47:46 · answer #6 · answered by BelieverinGod 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You go girl! I would be thrilled to see that much money!
Is it possible he isn't really meaning to be critical of you? I know my dh will say little comments that I take personally, when he really was just trying to be funny or sarcastic. Then I get upset because what I really wanted to hear from him was a compliment or a sign that he is amazed at my accomplishments. It has taken me a while to learn that he is unable to read my mind and that I cannot be stubborn and expect him to know what to say.
Hopefully, your husband doesn't mean to hurt your feelings, but it is possible he doesn't know he has...especially if you keep it bottled up inside.
2007-11-30 03:48:44 · answer #7 · answered by mjtudor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The amount seem quite reasonable.
May be he is depressed and has some bills to pay.
You know, human brain misleads one sometime.
Pardon him this time and if he repeats his remarks, ask quietly if he has some suggestions.
Look at them. If he has some bright ideas, there is no harm in trying them. You can decide better if he is otherwise sincere and considerate.
I would prefer to die instead of living on my wife's earnings.
So if he is so mean, better say him good bye.
Javed Kaleem
2007-11-30 03:49:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I WISH I made as much as you - especially since I've been laid off and am making nothing! Sounds like your husband doesn't want to work. Do you make more than him? If so, tell your husband that the day he makes more than you, then he can say you need to make more money. Until then, he can kiss off!
2007-11-30 04:06:32 · answer #9 · answered by tahnwen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should base your self-worth on your paycheck! I make less than that a year, granted I am a single female, however I manage just fine. Just a note...the average American household income is below 50k right now, you should consider yourself lucky. My philosophy is, if I can't do it myself, then and only then will I ask another. Has your husband considered making more money himself?
2007-11-30 04:02:40 · answer #10 · answered by Blueskies 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋