Perfect or not, how could it ever be healthy to not be happy with your appearance?

Question

Sure, we all have things we could work on, probably. But sometimes people seem to act shocked that I am comfortable with how I look even though I am not a size 6. What's so bad about being comfortable with myself?

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I agree that there are health issues with obesity. That's not the point. I wouldn't consider myself morbidly obese, although I have been in the past. I just wasn't built to be petite, and I never will be. I'm just trying to embrace that, you know?

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Answer 1

I LOVE how you look!!! you are one of the most beautiful people I've ever met!

Answer 2

I agree, I am not entirely happy with my weight, I am a little overweight- not obese, but can usually hide it by how I dress. However it is not really my weight that I am unhappy with as much as it is my overall health. I know that I could probably stand to get in shape and get out and exercise more than I do.

That being said, I am not gonna kill myself to be a size three. I am not going to be nazi about what I eat. If I want a soda here and there, I will have one- and it doesn't have to be diet. I won't feel guilty about eating cheesecake. I am not going to enroll myself at some overpriced gym to go to work out in a boot camp with a trainer who is a seargant. I will go walking everyday- or ride my bike or do a simple video. Something that just gets that physical exercise in. That way I can enjoy my life. Killing myself to make sure I only eat low fat foods and spend 5 hours a day at the gym, is not really my idea of enjoying my life- that is not worth it to me. What is the point of being a size 3 if you aren't enjoying life. I would rather have a less flattering body and enjoy life, than have a size two and be constantly worried that what I am eating will go straight to my hips.

Answer 3

I was a late bloomer. I did not look normal until I was about 25. By then, I was bitter and twisted and told most of the girls to go away. Then, as their flags began unfurling, I warmed up to them. Soon after, when they discovered I could dance, I got laid all the time. In my 30's, I screwed lots of people, even a couple famous ones (no, I'm not telling, for their sake).

So...yes, throw the mirror into the bin. You are what you are and that's what you have to work with. I'll be 51 in two week. I look older than that because I did too much mind bending as a child. I am, however, still chased after by wild women. How flattering! However, Sheryl is my soul mate and I could not live without her.

Answer 4

It's almost trite to say at this point, but it's nonetheless true that the reason so many people are unhappy with their appearance is that the fashion and "beauty" industry has a huge profit stake in making people feel inadequate and inferior, and therefore in need of two dozen products that can magically turn them into socially acceptable "beautiful people."

Not to let people totally off the hook...lol. Sure, Don's morbidly obese friend might have benefited from a little constructive self-criticism. And there's nothing wrong with taking pride in your appearance and wanting to look good. Hell, I work out every day; but it's not an obsession, it's just something I do not only to look good, but to be healthy. (Wanna see my abs?)

BTW, you look pretty fine to me Linz. And you know I have no ulterior motive in saying so...lol.

And PS to Jack - I started off by acknowledging that what I was going to say was trite - but that doesn't mean it's not true. In fact, people have made that observation over and over again precisely because it IS true. Still, I think I balanced it out and qualified it quite well in my further remarks. But don't tell me to "come up with a new outlook." The time to do that is when that outlook no longer applies, not just whenever you decide you're tired of hearing about it. Peace!

Answer 5

It's sad to see girls at school worried all about their appearances. It's just made worse by the clothes that they wear.

Have you ever been into one of these huge chain stores that are so trendy? A chihuahua couldn't fit into one of their "XXXL" size things. So the girls say, "Eww, I'm not large! I want to be extra small!" Then they starve themselves so they can fit into something you couldn't squeeze a pea in.

I think that it's a much healthier, more fun life if you aren't super skinny and have super trendy hair and clothing and go to super hot bars and just have a SUPER life. My hair is plain. My clothes are cheap and comfortable. I have a noticeable waist and I'm not terribly obese or anything.

People see me for who I am, not as a popular, narcisstic trendsetter, and I like that. My friends and I are close and have been through thick and thin. Many of the girls I know at school would have fled after I got my wisdoms out because I looked like a were-chipmunk... and that's NOT trendy.

(Not to mention... it's much cheaper, less painful, and takes much less time to be happy being you!)

Answer 6

Being comfortable with ones self shows a fine emotional intellect. There is too much emphasis on outward appearance these days when considering the world we are now living in we should be concentrating much harder on improving ourselves internally and how we appear in that respect.

Those that are morbidly obese however that say they are "comfortable" with themselves is not a good thing either though - that is not being emotionally stable and is very dangerous. Everyone should strive to be at a good weight for themselves to remain "healthy" - but never to fit in with society's standards or that size 3 dress when we are born to have a size 14 bod. (but nobody was born to be 300 lbs)
Just common sense and good healthy attitude towards life and our health. Good for you for being comfortable - few are size 6 and many that are don't eat right to fit in that size 6 and they too are jeopardizing their health.

Answer 7

And you SHOULD feel comfortable with how you look? Have you seen yourself in the mirror? How about your avatars? Do you need me to personally tell you, because I will! And I'm sure you know you have quite a few guy "fans" on here as well. Dare I say YOU are the reason why I hold VTs in such high esteem!!

But I digress...

Anyways, I feel if people just worried about themselves and do what they had to do in their own individual lives, these crap makeover shows and such would be non-existent, because everyone's content with themselves.

Heck, I'll always think I'm handsome, even if others may not think so...

Answer 8

There is nothing detrimental about being comfortable with yourself. I was the fat kid growing up and I was all of five foot three and abt 135 lbs at the time but because I looked more adult instead of a stick figure I had a hard time coping with it as a teen. Now 25 yrs later I figure if you don't like it, too bad.

Answer 9

I think you should always be happy with your appearance and with who you are. You can want to change things, but you should ultimately like yourself.

This used to be a real issue for me (born with cerebral palsy--mild case, when I was young I had braces on the legs and walked more on the balls of my feet). It now looks like a very, very close to normal--but growing up it was hard not to be focused on this one thing. How life would have been so much better if this "thing" wouldn't have been there. I think that kind of thinking is a real trap. I remember the day I shook myself awake and threw off that attitude--it was liberating. Accepting who you are in all ways is very healthy.

Answer 10

Yeah, it is far healthier to at least be comfortable with how you look. Why not be? Very few people have model looks and no one is perfect. This is what we have to work with, and we might as well make the best of it instead of worrying about conforming to someone else's ideal of physical beauty.
And that kind of confidence is itself something that makes a person more attractive.

Answer 11

It's cool to be motivated to change, but obsessing about stuff to the point of hurting yourself (i.e., freako diets, drugs, etc.), are obviously not in anyone's best interests.

1. Eat right (lots of veggies/fruits, cut WAY back on the fast-foods [McTaco Jr.])

2. Exercise regularly (no MORE than 45 minutes per day, four days per week).

Bottom line: what would you tell your best friend to do if she were in the same situation?

Have A Nice Weekend, okay?

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