2007-11-30 03:12:36 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
*****About a month ago i looked in the TIF Files and saw this website and many different profiles of other women on there, also saw where he messaged them. I wasnt on the dating website for myself, I was just checking up on him. We also have had an issue of porn in the past. Should I divorce if he isnt willing to get counseling?
2007-11-30 06:06:11 · update #1
Respond to it and 'play' along for a bit.....This gives you the ammunition you'll need if he pulls the old 'It was just for a joke' or 'That old thing!' story. :)
2007-11-30 03:16:19 · answer #1 · answered by Blue-eyed Stranger 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would print it out and ask him what's going on. Personally, I would also try to get into his account to see who he's been contacting. My husband was on many, many sites and I got in there and saw what he was chatting about and making dates to have sex with other women. You'd better just confront him fast! I didn't have the patience to play along and then he'll just wonder what you were doing on the site, like some of the other posters.
And, to the other posters, I only saw my husband's profile b/c the web site popped up once while I was typing in another web site in the address bar. Hubby forgot to erase the history and cookies once.
2007-11-30 05:42:23 · answer #2 · answered by leeleecp 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would print out that profile and put it in a place where he will find it. When he brings it up like uh that was a long time ago or some other stupid excuse like oh it was a joke my friend at work put that profile on there. You shouldn't let him lie and you should make it known that you know what his intentions were. I would have him leave or leave myself so you can scare him and think if this marriage is worth saving after this betrayal.
2007-11-30 03:17:02 · answer #3 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most of those sites show you when they last logged on. Check and see if you can find a date. I would join the site under a fake name and message him. Play along and then bust him.
I have been through this before with my ex and trust me...he will make up EVERY excuse in the book.
Obviously this man is not worth your time. There are good guys out there - please dont waste your time on a man who is showing signs of cheating.
The computer is the EASIEST way for a man to cheat!!!!
2007-11-30 04:59:17 · answer #4 · answered by MorganQueen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is old and he never took it off the net. If not I would either confront him with it or do what someone else said here.
make up a fake name but use your general description. If he was attracted to you then maybe someone sounding similar will spark his interest or do a complete opposite like if you a brunette say your a tall, leggy blond, with a high sex drive that may pull him in for the kill.
God Bless and Best Wishes I hope for the sake of your marriage this is an old listing.
2007-11-30 03:24:31 · answer #5 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Send a letter or email to the website stating you are his wife and his profile needs to be canceled. Once they notify him (being married is against terms of the website), he will wonder how they found out. Then see if he tells you the truth about it. If not, its not a joke. Or you can just secretely get him off of there.
2007-11-30 03:26:49 · answer #6 · answered by solelone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't take this the wrong way, but why were YOU on the dating site to see it? It sounds like their is more going on than just you seeing his profile. It will be hard to give you an honest answer without more information regarding the situation.
2007-11-30 03:17:51 · answer #7 · answered by Pen420 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well, that is a rough thing to find. but what you should do is yourself or a friend make up a fake one and answer his add and just see how far he is willing to go. he might not be doing anything wrong but chatting, but that is a sure way to find out. but he should not have his stuff on there being married. i am a strong believer in trying to work things out , so i can not tell you to leave him but to see how far he is wanting to go with this.
2007-11-30 03:28:11 · answer #8 · answered by butter b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make your own profile on the website, and contact him (make up a fake name or something) and see if he goes after you. If so, busted!
2007-11-30 03:16:02 · answer #9 · answered by Katy B 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I'd at least respond to it and see if he takes the bait. If you don't, he can easily say "I was never going to do anything with it", "I was just there to look at the pics", etc. You'll never know for sure unless you test him, unfortunately.
2007-11-30 04:02:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋