I did something very wrong ,terrible,and bad without thinking.I just got married this year(september 15)to a good guy with a lot of potential up and comming career ect...many people(like my entire family) would say he is perfect.We were set up by one of my aunts at church we dated for 6 months got engaged and married by month 8.It all happened really fast and my brain is still kind off in shock.To get to the point of all this i have an ex.bf from high school who as my first bf..kiss as well as other things.We dated good girl prepie vs. blue coller bad boy and broke up 2 times went through all kinds of drama pregnancy/miscarriage related. I only ever told one other person(BFF) what really happened so my family has no clue.Anyhow we tried to be friends but his new gf hated me and 6 months later he came back while still with her for a fling.I resisted at first but i had feelings for him and was lonley in college with few friends so i gave in.It was only meant ...continue..
2007-11-30 03:10:53 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To be a one time thing but it lasted 1.5 even into the first month of dating my hubby before i ended it.I thought i could use my hubby to forget my ex.bf but i slipped up one last time with my ex. before 2 weeks before my wedding and now fear i might be pregnant.I feel awful and sick?Help?
2007-11-30 03:14:32 · update #1
I am 21 years old and my hubby is 26 yrs old.I fear if he finds out he'll not be able to handle it.
2007-11-30 03:16:15 · update #2
The doctor can't tell your husband. However your husband deserves to know the truth. It may come out eventually anyway and your husband may be told he is not a match.
Not only that but you do not mention actually loving your husband, just that all your family think he is perfect and he's a "relatively good guy", so I have to wonder how deep your love is for him. If you were able to fall back into the arms of your ex boyf then maybe you have stronger feelings for him. And your ex boyf deserves to know if you are carrying his child.
The truth will always come out in the end and it is better to be honest now, than later.
It may be difficult but that is the consequence of what you did.
Jasmine
2007-12-02 04:19:31 · answer #1 · answered by Jazzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a mistake but that doesn't mean you are a bad person. First things first...find out from a Doctor if you are pregnant. If you are, you are going to need some help...the Doctor can be the first person you talk to about this while you are being tested. She or he can give you advice that will get you started. Be honest with yourself; do you want this marriage? If you are pregnant...you must be honest with your husband about what happened. He has a right to know. He may choose to leave you. If you are not pregnant...there's room for choices. You can keep this to yourself or you can take your chances with honesty. I have learned that honesty works best in life. You may not like the consequences... but living a lie can be hell. Fear of being found out ruins every chance for happiness. It's up to you. You are in my prayers and I wish the best possible outcome for you all. Hugs, Gina C.
2007-11-30 03:30:38 · answer #2 · answered by Gina C 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wait until you find out who the father is. If it is the BF and you think you want him back and you two could raise a baby together and get along, then choose him. If it is the huband's baby, stay if your happy. Just listen to your heart... you don't have to stay with husband if it is his baby. I have been in a similar situation, and married only for the baby's sake and now I feel trapped. Best Wishes and Good Luck!
2007-11-30 03:50:08 · answer #3 · answered by Blue Jade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U hv done what U thought U wanted at that time. U wl achieve nothing by worrying abt consequences if ur hubby comes 2 know abt it. i am sure, U must b having many other secrets. Do U fear tt U r pregnant or actually U r pregnant!! Just learn 2 forget it n dont talk any more 2 anyone. we all make terrible mistakes in life but the beauty is that tha life continues. so smile n go aby life as normal...
2007-11-30 03:22:09 · answer #4 · answered by naresh s 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm confused too babe do you love the guy you married or your ex? You obviously didn't finish what you started with this other guy and now it's come to bite you in the backside. On the other hand unless you were seriously intoxicated or drugged you did take vows and this is no laughing matter, you got to decide what your going to do. If you decide whats done is done and you love your husband then put this other guy out of your head and get on with your life before you get found out and end up with nothing.
2007-11-30 03:21:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
STOP! Too much drama! You sure know how to screw up your life. In my many years of experience I have found that these sorts of things always happen to the same people. Affairs, unwanted pregnancies yada, yada. This stuff does not happen by accident.
You, young lady are a DRAMA QUEEN. You do not want help. You do not want advice. You want DRAMA! You want attention. I advise you to GROW UP.
That is the best advice I can come up with. I have no sympathy for you whatsoever.
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2007-11-30 03:18:58 · answer #6 · answered by Jacob W 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
girl dont ever tell your husband about this. why the hell did you marry him if you still have feelings for another guy? anyway, you cant erased what has happened better make the most of what you have. if i were you, i will focus on my husband. the guy you married. maybe in time you will learn to care and fall in love with him. you have all the time through out your married life to get to know each other. remember, courtship doesnt end with the onslaught of marriage. give it a chance.
2007-11-30 03:21:37 · answer #7 · answered by katherina 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yea that is bad!
You should have never gotten married in the first place.
Now you stringing a guy who really cares for you and you are going to really hurt him.
My advice is to tell him the truth.
If you want to be with him and only him than you need to tell him that you made a huge mistake and really want to work things out and you need to cut all ties from ex.
No wonder why your ex's girlfriend didn't like you she knew that you still like each other. Take a hint from her and release your current hubby and go back to your ex that's obviously what you want anyways or you wouldn't have put your self in this situation in the first place.
2007-11-30 03:19:48 · answer #8 · answered by CrazyH 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Well, at least you don't have to worry about being the good girl preppy anymore. Now you can just be the preppy.
First you need to figure out if yo uare pregnant or not, because your plans need to be different based on that. If you are, you better figure out about finding out who is the father. Next you need to figure out if you want to be married or not. If so, you have a lot of work to do.
2007-11-30 03:21:06 · answer #9 · answered by SS109 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
am sure your ex bf is just interested in only one thing, your body as a matter of fact you should talk to a therapist and if you are pregnant you can get a text to see if it's for hubby or ex, it's only then that you can follow your heart.
2007-11-30 03:40:51 · answer #10 · answered by black&proud 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋