Does anybody here fully trust their partner?

Question

For me that would never be a possibility to have 100% trust.

I know that I will never have that with anyone. I will always doubt and I loathe this about me.

What does it feel like to have 100% trust and how did you achieve this state where you fully KNOW they will not cheat on you or hurt you?

Answer 1

There will be tons of people who say they do...but when trouble arises the truth is that 100% ddisappears cause it's a natural instinct to protect yourself (and your children if any).
Not all parents have that instinct to protect because their r parents who will throw their children away like trash and spouses too.

I hope you find religious faith. Cause it can help you develop trusting your partner. To trust is not to be a fool, so you don't have blinders. Trust is about respecting your partner and they respecting you. It's developing a vision of what you both want from life and together fulfilling it. Enduring the bumps and succeeding in growing and loving one another. It's always having your separate lives and interest and yet feel more fulfilled when together. It's sacrificing at times and yet neither partner is giving up too much. It's seeing your life grow together.

As one couple married 65 yrs told me... it's still getting excited when her husband holds her hand and they walk together. Can you imagine walking with your partner for over 65 yrs together??? When I'm angry, upset with my own partner... I remind myself of what she said. It grounds me to look at the situation and release the hurt to carry on conversation and share my frustration in a more conducive manner.

U too can develop that. Stop saying never, your too young to be so negative and distrustful.

Answer 2

We will be celebrating our 25 th anniversary in a couple of weeks. Let me say this on trust..........I have never ever had any reason to doubt my partners loyalty, so therefore I totally trust him.
Unless you partner has given you reason to doubt then don't. You need to realize that if a person is not getting what they are looking for emotionally or physically for that matter will and do go looking for it in other places.
So just make sure you are looking after your partner so to speak and if you are meeting all his or her needs then you should not have any worries about the person cheating on you.
It sounds like you are making this judgment from a hurt place in your heart. Not everyone is hurtful, and you can heal from past hurts.........don't be afraid to trust..........besides what's the worst that can happen.........You will fall in love and live happily ever after?
Good luck and don't be afraid to open up your heart, and so what if you get hurt..........move on to the next..........life is just to short to sit waiting because your afraid to be hurt.
And on feeling this 100% state I"m not sure you actually feel a particular way just that you absolutely never worry when he/she is not around you, and I might add they should have the same feeling about you as well.

Answer 3

It is a lot easier to trust your partner when you don't fear the consequences.

If you are scared of being alone and never finding someone else, then you are more likely to worry about it and less likely to trust.

I always feel that if he did run off with someone else, at some point someone else will come along. Therefore i do not worry about it and because i feel relaxed, i do not need to check up on him.

In that way i trust him 100%. I don't think he will be unfaithful and even if he did, lives moves on.

Answer 4

Yes, like the top gun scenario, right up to the point (27 years in)
where she admitted an affair and that I wasn't the father of the child she was carrying (susequent miscarried). We reconciled and 18 month later she collapsed and died of a brain hemhorrage(5 years ago)---unresolved issue and her death and the shock of almost loosing her to another has left me with a recurring nightmare...that I am desperate to find her in my dream(always a holiday scene) but I never do and awake in bits as if it's real. Trust is earned from each other but don't trust others with your loved ones as this is the mistake I made.

Answer 5

My husband and I have been happily married 10 years, and I am being completely honest, I love that man more and more every single day. He is a mechanic and has lots of female friends which doesn't bother me at all, I can't really explain why it doesn't bother me, I guess I just trust him that much. We spend all our time together, which never gets boring, I just can't imagine myself with anyone else! we were both in loveless marriages before, my ex cheated all the time! and his ex he was with for 17 years until she decided to cheat on him, so I suppose that has something to do with it, but I really can't explain why I trust him so much and vice verse, I like to think we were meant for one another, I would never in my my wildest dreams ever want to purposely hurt him, he means the world to me, and just by the way he loves me I know he would never hurt me either.

Answer 6

No. I don't trust anyone 100% because you never really know a person no matter how long you've known them. However, I don't let that mistrust take over my life. I don't care about where he goes or sees or what he does. If he hurts me, I'll deal with it then. Don't stress over it. Enjoy the good times and then deal with the bad if/when it happens.

Answer 7

For me, trust is a decision. I 100% trust my husband. It doesn't mean I don't get disappointed sometimes, but I have faith in him. I know he has been attracted to other women at times, but I have absolute confidence that he would never act on that (I get attracted to other men too, so I know it's normal). He's just not the type to allow that kind of drama into his life.

Answer 8

I trust my partner 100%. I know he loves me, I know he wouldn't stray. He has been hurt by a cheating partner in the past and knows what it is like and he says he would never wish that feeling on anyone. I believe him! I know him better than anyone and know he wouldn't hurt me!

Answer 9

I have only recently got together with a new bloke, and never before have i trusted anyone 100%.

But with him i do. He treats me like a princess and like i can do no wrong.

And i must say, to trust someone 100% makes it so easy. No paranoia, no accusing. It's blissfull, relaxing and stress free.

Answer 10

I've learnt never to trust even your best mates and especially men 100%,it just leads to hurt! Even if you've been bosom buddies for 20 years,it happened to me and I trusted her 200%