he's 7 wants to explode the school -im mean to make him go what to do?

Question

This morning after making his breakfast ad preparing his lunch i came into the living room were he was wathcing tv.He finished his breakfast.At that point i told him it was time to get dressedand it engage the wrath from hell 'he started stomping around and screaming its your fault i have to go to school-you just want me out of the house so you canhave the house to have party's while im at school.You are making my life miserable------------help

Answer 1

If you were really making your son's life miserable, how is it that he is well fed with breakfast in the morning? How is it that someone is looking out and cares so much to prepare his lunch? How is it that he is allowed to watch tv in the morning before going to school? How is it that he has an education where in other countries, they are either starving or unable to go to school. I think your son needs to understand and be taught that all that you have mentioned above and what I asked above are privileges, not rights that he has. For some reason he feels that he is entitled to have everything his way and in his control. You are a good mom, you are not making his life miserable... and don't ever let him make you feel that way. You are the grown-up here, you are the parent here. As much as you may think that he is out of your control, you are still in control. Maybe it's high time that one morning, you didn't make his breakfast, you didn't prepare his lunch. Let him prepare it himself... and see that it takes time -- that it takes you time to do the things you do... that you care enough to do those things for him. Also, those tantra-tantrums may not be directed at you... maybe he makes it seem like you are the problem, but maybe there's a deeper underlying problem that you don't know about. A bully at school? Kids teasing him? But because he can't express it to you, he's using you as a scapegoat to conveniently blame things on. But your are not the problem.... something else is, which is bothering him.

Answer 2

First, he needs to know that you are the adult and he is the child. As the adult, you do not have to give explanations or explain why you are making certain decisions. Do not let him engage you in a verbal battle. When you make a decision or tell him to do something, expect him to do it. You need to be consistent, firm and loving. If children feel loved and safe and respected, you will be dealing with these situations on a different level.
There is no reason to raise your voice. This usually occurs when you are at your wits end and before you know it, you are yelling. No one wins, no one gains anything, the relationship deteriorates.
He also watches television a lot more than he should. Set a time limit. Say, maybe 1 hour a day. Let him have some say about which hour. Also, give him a choice of what you feel is appropriate, say, 3 different shows. Let him choose from those options. Be firm. If he begins to argue and fight, turn off the TV and do not let him talk you into letting him watch it anyway. You will simply be reinforcing the bad behaviors, and he will learn that if he behaves that way, you will give in.
Love him, but be very firm.
Hope this helps.

Answer 3

There is something going on at school that is bothering him--especially if this is a fairly new attitude. It is time to turn detective and find out what the source of that is. if that isn't the case, you may want to bore him to tears with what it is you actually do while he is at school rather than let him think you are out having a great time without him. And remember to reinforce the idea that all kids have to go to school.

Answer 4

Sounds to me like you have let him be the parent and you the child. You have to establish control and let him know who makes the decisions in the house. You need to start applying some discipline and if it were me the first discipline he would become familiar with would be administered to his backside. My daughter does not feel like that is correct though. She takes a toy or something that her child likes and gives it away to a less fortunate child. Regardless on how you choose to apply discipline always do it with love and be fair about it.

Answer 5

Is this his normal behavior? If not, find out what's going on. And help him to resolve it. If so, Stand FIRM, maybe with a paddle and remind the him that he's the child, and has yet to learn what's really best for him. You are the adult, even if it's hard, Don't be BULLIED!

Answer 6

Your son is lashing out and probably asking for help./ Something is bothering him that pro ably has nothing to do with you.

Go to his school and speak to the school counselor. he may need professional counseling.