are you a people pleaser?

Question

you know, you are always worrying about what people think of you...

Answer 1

I try to be to people that matter to me....as for strangers, I'm polite but I don't go over board to make people like me...I am what I am....all I can do is treat people like they treat me, I would never go out of my way to be mean to someone, but I am the kind that holds the door for the next person !!!!!!!!! As for worrying about what other people think about me I gave up on that a long time ago....I play classical guitar, love chess, computers and reading books so most people when I was growing up thought that I was weird, everyone was more interested in gossip, and I could have cared less, I was more interested in my music, hobby's, and people that I loved !!!!!!!!
Worrying about what other people think is a waste of time to me, because people will think what they want regardless of what or who you are, it's all about what you ware, who you hangout with and if the so called cool kids like you !!!!!!!! I found out years later they finally look at your for who you are instead of how cool you were, most of it was fear....they were afraid of me....somethings being more mature is frightening to your peers....they don't know how to act around you....so they pretend not to like you instead of dealing with it....being young is so difficult, I wouldn't want to do it over again !!!!!!!

Answer 2

Two years ago I discovered the "lifestyle"--meaning BDSM. Most people are aware that SM stands for sadomasochism, but don't know that BD stands for bondage and discipline. I had long known that being tied up for sex excited me, but I didn't know there were others who felt the same way I did and had never met anybody who wanted to do this--and then I met this guy and the rest, as they say, is history. I found my way to BDSM and discovered that, contrary to my own belief, I am not a dominant person, I am submissive and, as such, am very much a people pleaser, especially as it relates to pleasing my Dominant, my Master. It's a whole new world for me and I am truly living free for the first time in my life--and I love it. I have been fulfilled even though one might not think so when I say that I am owned by another. It pleases Him and it pleases me. Enough said!

Answer 3

No, I used to be but now I only care about what my family thinks. Worrying about what strangers think is pointless and a complete waste of time and energy. I live my life the way I want and if people don't like it or me then that's just too bad.

Answer 4

NO WAY!! My Father raised me to be who I am, and to believe in what is right - - never follow trends or fads because they die, and the only people you need to worry about is your parents, spouse, kids, and your boss - BUT - never kiss up to anyone unless you truly are at fault.

After graduating high school, several years later at a reunion, I was amazed at how many people came up to me a talked of being "jealous" of me because I was strong in my beliefs, did not care what people thought, and was truly just ME. It felt good to hear that coming from the people thought to be "cool".

It is nice to stand out in a crowd instead of getting lost in one - I always had friends, always had a date, and now I know I had admirers too! It takes GUTS to be one of a kind, but I would not change ME for the world!

Answer 5

people pleaser? the more i see of people the more i admire dogs!

Answer 6

OMIGOSH!! I WAS!!!

Let me elaborate--
I USED to think people talked about me when I left a room.
Talked about me when I ENTERED a room.
Just plain DISLIKING me--for WHATEVER reason.
Ugly. Skinny (or BIG). Silly. Dumb.

THEN I was asked by a VERY SMART lady--
"Do you think YOU are THAT IMPORTANT?"

OMIGOSH!!
That OPENED my eyes---People don't care about me--and if they DO--that is THEIR problem.

I was raised in an alcholic home-(JUST my Dad). BUT it gave me and my bothers and sisters POOR SELF-ESTEEM!
We were brought up yelling at each other and my Dad cussed like there was no tomorrow. (rest his soul)--

BUT say to yourself,
" I am the apple of God's eye"
"I am worthy of God's love"
"I have value, because I am a child of God"
"God LOVES me"
"I AM precious in His sight"

Change a sad attitude to a GLAD one and YOUR attitude will change toward people!!

I PROMISE!
GOD PROMISES!

Answer 7

To an extent. I don't foot the bill when eating out just to show off. And I don't buy expensive gifts just because of who the person is. But I try not to disagree with their point of view, or dress the way they do just please them..

Answer 8

You should not be bother too much about what others think of you. You can not change yourself to please everyone. If that is the case, you will have multi-personalities. The only person that you should worry what he/she thinks of you is you.

Answer 9

No, I am not. I honestly don't care about what other people think...unless it is to my advantage OR I really care about the person.

Answer 10

I was.. but became used to it. I understand that we can not please everybody. Automatically in all cases, there'll be some people who'll get pissed even though you're not doing anything wrong or things that may concern them.