I want to break up with my other half but all my friends say you should go no a break first then see how you feel. I thought it was the right thing at first but now am thinking i know i want to break up with them though. What do you think?
2007-11-30 01:49:39 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've always thought a break was basically on the way to splitting up. It's what happened between me and my now ex husband. He moved out to give me some space, and we started divorce proceedings within 2weeks. If you know it's over, then it's over.
good luck xxx
2007-11-30 01:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by Timelordess 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If its over its over- all this having breaks never works. I tried that with my ex and each time we got back together it was ok for a bit and then all the old stuff came back to the top of the pile and we would end up at the same place we were when we split but with more added. Make a clean break if a break is what you want. Move forward, not backward and never ever back and forth!!!
2007-11-30 16:59:02 · answer #2 · answered by Ellie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Lil. First of all, leave out the advice from friends and do what you heart, mind and body is telling you. If you feel you want to break up. then do it, but do it for the right reasons. The reason why I say leave your friends out of it is simple, Your friends are not going though what you are, therefore they are only go by what others are saying. Taking a break is only suspending the inevitable and prolonging the suffering. If you want to leave, you know where the door is, judge for yourself which direction you take. Good luck....David
2007-11-30 15:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by David Wilson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing here is honesty. Have a real discussion with them and tell them the real reason you want to break up. Do not start something else with somebody else until you two are split. This will only add fuel to the fire and make the other half feel terrible.
2007-11-30 09:54:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you in the relationship or is your friends in the relationship with him. If you want to break up with him then do it. I personally don't believe in the whole "we are on a break" theory. What the hell is that? You are either with that person or not. If you find yourselves back together then fine but I think you should cut all ties while you figure out what you want. It's not fair to the other person who is hanging on and hoping to get back together.
2007-11-30 10:36:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my experience, your gut instinct is always right, so go with it...if you want to break up, then feel ok about doing it. If there is a chance you will get back together in the future then there is room for forgiveness anyway.
2007-11-30 09:53:48 · answer #6 · answered by Raeven M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on a break?
If your other buys that crap it is okay I guess.
For me, You do not get to take a break. We are together or we are apart. You do not get to walk out and change your mind and come back. You stay and work it out or get out.
There is not much middle ground there.
Is your other half supposed to stay home and wait while you "take a break" to figure out what you want?
I don't think that is fair.
2007-11-30 10:00:20 · answer #7 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would go for the break as they do say absence makes the heart grow fonder, but if after a while, you still feel the same then end it! There is no point staying in a relationship if you are unhappy!
2007-11-30 09:54:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Going on a "break" is the same thing as ending it. Once you are on "break" you are free to see others and resume a single life-style.
2007-11-30 09:53:08 · answer #9 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i say just end it. there is no point to "a break" because you're still breaking up. if you dont want to be with him, then why just let it drag out. if you want to get back together in the future thats one thing, but just staying together "to see how it works out" is just being selfish.
2007-11-30 09:53:46 · answer #10 · answered by mickey g 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋