Am in love with a guy..and he wants to marry me...but am really afraid to open tis matter to my parents.but my bf is hurrying for marriage.he told tat we will register our marriage ,then we can get permission from your parents .but i ll guilty to do tis.how to cheat my parents.but he is also loving me truely.....i too love him more than me...but wat to do...plz help......he is not waiting even 2 years for marriage,,,he is afraid tat my parents won accept my love and make me to marry another guy.plz help me friends.wat shall i do now.now he is doing 3rd engineering.i too do the same.help me..............his parents know my matter and they are not against our love..........
2007-11-30 00:51:20 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As long as these questions are popping up for you ... WAIT.
You'll know when it's the proper time for you and you'll have no questions or regrets.
And if your b/f is in such a hurry I have to wonder if he has a different agenda. He should respect your doupts or else he's a cad.
2007-11-30 00:54:36 · answer #1 · answered by Robert S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are being pulled in 2 separate directions. If your bf loves you, he will stop pushing you to marry him and he will let it happen when you think it is the right time. As for your parents, they will still love you because you are their child. They may be mad at first, but they will get over it.
Now, there are a couple of things I question:
1. How old are you. If you are 18 or older, than no one can stop you. If you are younger than 18, you have no business getting married.
2. Why don't your parents want you to marry him? There must be something about him that they feel will be a dishonor to you. Does he respect you? Obviously not if he is stressing you out over this marriage. He acts as if you two are not going to be around in 2 years and you have to get married today.
My overall opinion is that if he is pushing you and your parents don't want you to marry him, you should listen to your parents. They see something about this man that they do not like and cannot respect. Don't marry him now. You have plenty of time to make that decision. But once you marry him you will begin to feel stuck in a bad situation. Just give it time.
2007-11-30 01:31:25 · answer #2 · answered by Christian93 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he really loves you he will wait. i kinda went through the same thing.i guess it all depends on how old you are too.when your engaged have time and relax . ive been engaged for a year and a half and some family still wont except it . just give them time and give your self time during the engagment process.the only reason to rush is if your pregnant and you want to get married before the baby arives. even though i really want to be his wife and start a family already i know it is not really the best time and there is much to be done. if you are ment for eachother for the rest of your life's then there is not reason why yo both cant wait longer. we dont seem like your ready so just look into your heart and brain and there is the answer. feel free to email me back
2007-11-30 01:08:20 · answer #3 · answered by drea06star 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents can't force you to marry someone you don't love, I don't care what country you live in, dear.. That's just not right.
If you love him, be with him. But if you are under-aged and you are too young to be married, then you will have to wait til you are 18 years old, or get your parent's permission.
Why do you have to get married at such a young age? Why can't you just enjoy your sweet childhood and just concentrate on being a child.
Why is every always in so much of a rush to grow up? I wish I could go back to being a child again with no responsibilities, no kids, no worries.
Anyways, good luck. And BE FREE. (no matter what country you live in). BE FREE!!!
Cheers and *hugs*
2007-11-30 00:57:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just talk to your parents! How old are you? I was having a difficult time reading your question. Are you saying you are in college? If so, you should wait until graduation to get married! Good things come to those that wait! Another guy will come along. I don't know why he is rushing you! Don't make a decison out of panic! Be your own person!
2007-11-30 01:36:52 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why u think that yr parents will be against this? u tell them about yr b/f and even invitehimto meet yr parent.If they find something wrong with yr b/f, they will tell u.Even if they don't agree, u can go for aregistered marriage. U must be in a job and earning for yr self.In case u marry with yr b/f and u miss contact with yr parent, in future course, u only will haveto bear all the burdens u may have, in case u seperate from yr husband. Be prepared for every pros and cons of marriage without the nod of yr parent.
2007-11-30 02:55:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss the same, your state of mind on the issue ,with your boy friend in a calm and assured manner; his love towards you will help him understand your apprehension including your love for your parents. At the same time, wait for the right opportunity to bring the matter with your parents too,impress on them the rightness of your choice,justifying the genuineness of your love and his(bf) love to you.I feel that it is possible to carry both your parents and boyfriend by honest communication in the context of love.When such communication and discussion takes place,transparency is established among all concerned, waiting for couple of years until both of you finish the course won't be a problem.Good Luck and Best Wishes to you!
2007-11-30 01:05:22 · answer #7 · answered by Thimmappa M.S. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents should support you no matter what you do. If they love you they will want you to be happy and marry someone that you love. Don't let them marry you off to someone else that is not right. You may have to come to the point where you may have to choose or tell your parents if you respect me and want what's best for me you will let me do this for ME! Don't let them tell you well you will have to pick him or us if they do that they are just controling you and don't want what's best for you. I know this is a hard choice to make but if you two really love each other it's worth fighing for. Don't be afraid you should be happy to move out and marry and if your parents love you they will get over it and accept it and be happy for you both. Good Luck!
2007-11-30 00:59:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop thinking with your heart and think with your mind. If he truely loves you, he will be willing to wait for you and do this the proper way. Do not allow him to marry you without him properly asking for your hand in marriage from your parents. They deserve more than to be disrespected in such an important matter.
2007-11-30 00:55:51 · answer #9 · answered by swd 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Neither you boyfriend or your parents should pressure you to do things that make you confused or unhappy. You were not put on this earth to please your parents. However they've raised you they need to trust in that and let you live your own life. Even if this turns out to be a mistake your parents should be supportive in good or bad times...not exacerbate your pain. Sit everyone down and explain the good qualities about your relationship. Let your boyfriend see how important (but not necessary) your parents approval is. Good Luck
2007-11-30 01:01:02 · answer #10 · answered by Yuki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋