Why It cannt be In the Bedroom?

Question

Why the disputes between the BFs & GFs or wife or Hubby be decided in the bed rooms instead at yahoo answers.
You know these are the most intimate relations and they should be resolved in the bedrooms to keep the sanctity of the relation

I have seen majority here strongly recommends just quiting the relations forthwith,a very few are of the opinion to keep and sooth the relations. Which ultimately poise to ruin a union

Answer 1

I personally dont ask any questions pertaining to my marrige thru Yahoo Answers, as I do value my sanctity of my marriage and if I were to have problems Id take it to a pro- a therapist, but you also need to understand that alot of these people on the forum dont have the luxery of medical benefits or the money to pay for a therapist, so they call on us, the public to seek out help and info, and Im all for it, so long as they { the person with the personal problem } realize that people from Yahoo Answers are not the ones who at the end of the day have the real answers, we can only give our personal life experienceses, as we have lived them, we cannot fix your bedroom problems nor control a cheating boyfriend or hubby, they make the decision in the end, they pick the people with whom they have issues with, not us, so therefore it is up to them to repair their personal problems, but we at Yahoo are merely here as a shoulder to lean on and a source of feedback. I say that this is a great place to go for feedback but not a place to patch up your relationship, for at the end of the day, it is up to the person to take a step up to the plate and deal with their own issues head on, lifes all about challenges and learning how to use your own coping skills, we at Yahoo, can help you along the way, but not fix you.

Answer 2

Firstly, problems should be kept out of the bedroom. If anyone ever heeded to a biblical scripture, it should be the one that says, Let not the sun go down on your wrath. In other words, get your problems resolved before bedtime.

The bedroom is not the place to handle disputes. And as far as people asking for help here or anywhere else, sometimes you just have to vent to another person. Issues cannot always be resolved between the people involved and it takes a third party's input.

The key to that is being careful what you listen too. A lot of bitter people will answer and give "advice" that is neither helpful or wholesome.

Answer 3

People try to resolve problems on their own, and when they can't, they shouldn't be judged for asking advice from people who might have some insight for them. Asking questions about marriage does nothing to the sanctity of the relationship, because people here have anonymity. For example, I'm sure your real name is not Cool Guy. Here, you don't know if a question is real or made up, and people get to pick and choose what they want to do or not do with the answers they get. I see Y!A as a potentially powerful tool for people who need a little advice.

Answer 4

You are correct. But many persons are unable to decide for themselves as to what is the correct action to be taken. They have to come to y/a seeking guidance .from people having a long term perspectives. Sometimes, so many technical,legal,social facets are involved,that seeking opinions from knowledgeable persons become essential.Anyway, persons who cannot decide their disputes in the bedrooms , do go to their elders,relatives,councilors etc and that is not considered wrong.Similarly coming to yahoo answers for guidance is not improper.

Answer 5

I think seeking an anonymous, non-baised opinion outside the relationship is sometimes healthy...only if the person seeking the advice is willing to accept that they may be the one ine the wrong too.

Answer 6

Some times you need to see things from a fresh and impartial prospective. Its good to get a range of answers from ppl not connected with the subject. That way you can get an informed decision. Get it?

Answer 7

ya, this is true, for many cases and problems (I agree w/ an answer below me, not in the bedroom, another room, and not in front of the kids, at times, too)! ... perhaps they just need someone to agree w/ them... to back them up... to make them take that step... perhaps they already talked w/ spouse about it many times and they don't know what else to do... some spouses are just idiots (addicted to porn, gambling, alcohol, drugs, sex) so the good spouse comes here for advice =)

Answer 8

i didn't think they were being decided here....just discussed and helped. i don't know of any couples who have both logged into answers and publicly 'settled' anything, do you?

do you have anything against therapy, too?

getting objective opinions is a very healthy thing to do. asking others for their opinion is not a stupid act....and anonymously doing it in a place like answers is a good 'safe' way to go. no one knows you here....your profile is whatever you make it. no biggie.

Answer 9

I'm sorry but the bedroom is the last place anyone should be discussing their relationship...The bedroom is a sanctuary...Sure they should talk to each other, but in another room.

Answer 10

the problems of the intimate relations should be resoleved in the close rooms,but here in this site one may get better solutions(not always) and therefore people are here...................... thank you for your good suggestion.