my boyfriend and i have been living together for over 7 years now. a couple of weeks ago he told me i could do better than him. does anyone have any idea what he meant by that statement.
2007-11-28 23:31:42 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He apparently believes he is flawed in some way that makes him damaged goods. He believes you could find a man not as flawed as him and probably be happier with that man.
I would ask him why he feels that way so that I could reassure him that he is indeed the one I want, and that there is no other person on earth that could be a better match for me than he is..
2007-11-28 23:45:51 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is going through a depression and he is feeling down on himself. Maybe he feels like over the years he should have done more for you as a partner., This depression could be steming from alot of things., How's his job? How's his health? All you can do is try to talk to him and find out what is going on in his life. Try to reassure him that you love him and if you and he have went thru some hard times, they can only get better, but the two of you will get thru all of it together as a team. Good luck to ya, I think you love this guy. Just reassure him, he is the man for you and I think everything will be ok.
2007-11-28 23:48:04 · answer #2 · answered by lucylocket7258 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your man is suffering from low self-esteem and insecurity. And I also think you are lacking in communication. Instead of asking him what he meant by that remark, you are asking the people here in the internet. Open communication is necessary for a successful relationship. Your partner is reaching out to you. Help him and reassure him of your love. It will be a shame to let the 7 years just go to waste.
2007-11-29 00:30:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After seven years y'all should have been married. What is the hold up since y'all are already living as husband and wife anyway?
In some states if y'all live together for more than a few years you are considered his Common Law Wife, rather y'all get married for real or not.
2007-11-28 23:52:52 · answer #4 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just a way of him saying he doesn't want to be with you anymore but does not want to hurt you and he wants you to end it. Just in case here are a few facts of life:
1. There is no Santa
2. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
3. Marriage sucks (moving in is the same as marriage)
4. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
5. Life is not fair
Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me
if you want honest answers from a man that doesn't
lie anymore.
2007-11-29 00:13:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Sorry to say this. This might hurt you, but please gather strength to face it. What he said could mean things are over between you and him as far as he is concerned. That is why he said you could do better than (with) him.
Ask him straight what he meant by that. If he says he meant what I said, dont argue or fight or do anything to make you more hurt. Just leave the things there. I dont think he deserves you in such a case.
This could be tough for you, but, please take care of yourself. Be strong and face it.
All the blessings and wishes..
2007-11-28 23:46:49 · answer #6 · answered by doer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means that he want out of the relationship and that is he way of playing a mind game on you instead of communicated his true feelings about whats going on with him. seven yrs is along time to be with someone and you are not married, maybe he has realized that you are not the one for him and he wants you to move on. tell him to stop playing mind games and to talk to you like a grown man and stop acting like a little boy. GodBless
2007-11-28 23:41:13 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We know nothing about your 7-year relationship except what you have stated. What he is saying is possibly a statement of his feeling of inadequacy, or it may be a compliment. Fear of commitment is common. Do you plan to get married? Does he?
2007-11-28 23:38:17 · answer #8 · answered by Computer Guy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He may have cheated, or maybe something is going on financially with him you don't know about. I'd get the story out of him to see if he has done something that could potentially bring you down.
2007-11-28 23:35:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is tired of the relationship and is trying to tell you to get someone else who is better than him, who will ask you to marry him and not keep you hanging for seven years.
2007-11-28 23:54:05 · answer #10 · answered by doggy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋