When we speak about abusive husbands,W?we never speak about the wife who keeps provoking him by insulting him?

Answer 1

de@r gEntLe m@n,

Because we people come to know about only 1 side. We people are made to hear only 1 version and that version is about husbands being abusive. But we don't come to know about the 2nd version, that is wives provoking their husbands and insulting them.

The people of the society always consider Man to be the evil and women to be the innocent one. But that's not the truth always.

Sometimes women are evil and men are innocent. So we people shouldn't just go on taking women side. But we should always listen both the versions and give judgements according to the entire case.....that's it...tc...sweet dreamz...bye...

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Answer 2

You are falling into the male abuser’s trap that the woman is somehow at fault and that is almost a crime and what makes spousal abuse an acceptable crime.

Jessie James, the modern day cycle building mechanic is the direct descendent of the famous outlaw Jessie James who was a cold blooded murder and well known criminal. He and his own mother will tell you that he was a wild youth with some discipline problems yet he wised up and set his life straight building a successful business.

If anyone would be a spouse abuser you would think it would be someone like him. However, when he got into a fight with his first wife SHE was the one who abused him; hitting him with a frying pan. An unreasoning man would have hit her back and it would have escalated into a full blown war, maybe even a murder. However, Jessie James was smart and he called the police on her and filed charges on her. When he divorced her HE was awarded custody of the children. He proved that he was more in control of himself and the more responsible parent. He proved that he was not an abuser. He is now happily married to his second wife the actress Sandra Bullock.

Abuse is not one way and women are not always the victims, that is just the stereotype.

There is a famous case of spousal abuse where the man was abusing his wife because she was more successful that he was. He turned the children against her and he had HER thinking that it was all HER fault. The abuser made one stupid mistake though he had his son film the abuse with a video camera. And the woman had a friend at work who made a note of every time she came into the office with signs of having been beaten. It took both that log and the video tape to convict her husband of spouse abuse. This man had everyone fooled, including the abused wife herself, into thinking that he was the nice guy and she was the one at fault. It took an abundance of proof for her to win, clear unmistakable proof that showed she was not at fault. I watched part of the tape and I saw how he was using psychological tactics to blame her for his own problems.

Abuse is a serious crime and a difficult one to prove. One of the most difficult things about it is the old attitude that somehow the person being abused deserved it. Jessie James may have been wrong in his argument with his wife, and he was probably shouting about it, but he was trying to be reasonable; she was not. What matters in that case is not who was wrong or right in the argument, but who took it too far.

The most common abusers are people who have their own problems and their own weaknesses, but refuse to acknowledge or accept that instead they misplace those problems on their spouse and then abuse them for it. This abuse can be physical or psychological. I am not saying that all abused spouses are free of guilty, but many of them, most of them, are and most of them are victims and attitudes like yours are what makes this crime acceptable.

Once upon a time in American society a man was allowed to beat his wife and kids because he was supposed to know better, but now days we understand that things are more complicated and often the man is not right and that violence is NOT the acceptable solution and that blaming the victim is NEVER the right thing to do. I only hope your question came from lack of experience and ignorance. Your society (Indian) may not have advanced to the point of the society in the US where we think that abuse is unacceptable. You can be from an advanced technological society that still has some growing up to do. It takes time for a society to advance and mature and in this area I think American society is more advanced than yours. Hopefully my answer will help you make that advancement.

Answer 3

when you have been in relationship for a long time , there is a certain amount of contempt that builds over the years ,also because of the closeness shared a intimate knowledge of how the ones partner would react in a certain situation.some women provoke without ever realizing that they are doing it some do it intentionally , but it all amounts to how the woman views herself in regard to you and how she feels that she has a right to insult or provoke

Answer 4

That's because there is never an excuse to abuse. They all say the wife provokes them.

Joy to yous!

Answer 5

I know a woman who is blind in one eye because her husband punched her for spilling a drink. She didn't provoke him or insult him.
I also know men who insult their wives. Who don't retaliate through violence.
There's no such thing in this world as one bad gender, one misunderstood gender, or one who is more mean and spiteful. You get good people and bad people, their sex isn't the deciding factor. But men are generally stronger than women, and more women get beaten then men. Although that certainly happens, too.

Answer 6

Even if provoked, there is no excuse for abuse. You always have the ability to walk away. Under the law in some states, you may use reasonable force to stop someone from damaging your self or property, but just because a woman is following you about so called "asking for it", that is inexcusable to hurt her.

Answer 7

Fight fire with fire. Provoke them in turn. They won't like that at all. They'll finally end up with their opinion about the man's cocksmanship. They know that's where it will hurt. But don't abuse-provoke.

Answer 8

I never physically abused my wife, never laid hands on her. She was unhappy and she blamed it all on me. Broke dishes , T.V.s ,cursed me out. I went through this for 2yrs. She sneak out of town spend all her money on men. Comes back home and its my fault she is broke and all hell breaks lose.She would take kitchen knives and stab counter tops and walls out of anger. This was an every weekend occurrance. Most men don't say what they go through at home with wives , we sort of hide it and just move on and hope that god intervenes oneday. AS I type this I have tears in my eyes , because you would never believe what I have been through.

Answer 9

That's because it doesn't help her case. If you haven't noticed yet, it's part of the feminisation of the world.
A guy has an issue and he's an @sshole. A girl has an issue and the government will start research into why women are ending up in this position.

Answer 10

If you think an insult is an excuse fopr abuse then you need serious help!