what am i going to do with my life ?

Question

i'm 27 i have 3 little girls and no future in site i feel like i was put on this earth to do something great , but i have know idea what to do i just got disqulified from becomeing a sheriff because i have visiable tattoos (which i feel is a little stupid) i bartend at a restaruant but i cant do that for ever i want to own a house be able to pay for colleges marriages , god i dont even have health insureance i can barely pay my bills as it is . i know noone other cares and this is why i;m writing this everyone has problems some a lot worse then me but man i have struggled forever seriously and i sit her right know typing this so i dont do something stupid and i wait for my ship to come in knowing it already sank . i'm lost i'm so lost . i hurt inside and i need to figure out what i'm going to do with my life . i'm sorry everyone i needed to vent and i will take any ideas god bless
sincerlery ,as good as it gets

Answer 1

Become a male stripper, they make good money.

Answer 2

First of all, you have already done something great in your life by raising your 3 girls. That is the most important job of all! As far as what to do with your life, I don't know what kind of career you would like but I can give you an example of what I'm doing (and trying to get my boyfriend to do). Finding a career without a college education is very difficult and I gave up on that. With 3 children I know it would be hard to work and go to school but the extra effort and stress will be completely worth it when you are done and able to take care of your family and not worry about money. Look for a job that offers tuition reimbursements. What I did is took a class to become a nurses assistant. It was only a 3 week class, very easy, only $1100 investment. Before I even graduated I was offered a job at a hospital. The pay wasn't that great, $9.50 an hour but the benefits completely made up for that. Health insurance for an entire family and 5 weeks of paid vacation plus pay differentials for working nights, weekends, or holidays. The hours are 3- 12 hours shifts a week. So in a matter of 3 days a week, you are working full time. The best part is, after working there for 6 months, they will pay for nursing school. You could go to school to become an LVN. It is a 1 year course and pay starts around $20-$25 an hour. Or go to school to be an RN. It is a 2 year course and pay is around $25-$30 an hour. So you get this education and career making great money for only the $1100 investment. With the 3 day work week, you are able to go to school the other days.

There are other jobs that offer tuition reimbursement. I know Verizon Wireless does. Take advantage of that! You would be getting paid and going to school for free. There isn't a better way to do it. Good luck!

Answer 3

You didnt state your education qualifications. As you are still at an "employable" age, start looking for a office job. I dont think you earn much as a bartender, since you mentioned that you could barely pay the bills. It would be kind of boring for some people, but at least it provides you and your family a stable income.

Is your wife living with you? Get her to do a part-time job to contribute and help to pay off some expenses. It is possible that any of your parents can help to look after your kids during the day? Meanwhile, start to buy insurance for ur kids. It helps alot in the future, for your daughters' education.

Be thrifty, spend on what is neccessary. I'm sure you love your wife and daughters greatly. What you also need now is that you have your family's moral support. The first few years might be hard for you, but it will really benefit both you and your family in the long run.

One thing for sure: You need to change your life in order to move on to a better future for you and your family.
Cheers..Stay positive...=)

Answer 4

It seems you already decided your fate for you say that you have no future, so why bother worrying about it? Sometimes living for others is easier than living for ourselves.

Focus on the love you have for your three girls and live for them. Take yourself out of the equation and focus on how to make them happy. If they are the reason you are alive, you will endure and come through this a better person. You will also learn a lot about yourself this way too.

Quite possibly, you might want to learn a new skill. Consider re-education. If you cannot become a sherriff, then look into private security.

You are already one step ahead, you know what your goal is, a home and your childrens' welfare. But it seems you do not have the motivation to go on....but the biggest motivator is and always will be, your children.

All you need to change your life is in front of you.

Answer 5

I ever it can help you to get through.

I'm in the very same situation as yours, mate. But I'm 47, I have no tattoo, and I live in France where the two ways only to get a job are to be be less than 30 or to have good connections. So, I'm well aware that my life is behind me now. My occupational activities consist of raising my kids, keeping on sending resumes and be registered at the state agency for employment so as to get my monthly welfare, reading, Yahoo! Answering, and listening to good music. This until my last day, and that's all.

Yes, tattoos are a silly thing and now you know why! No offense, but I would express much less consideration for tattooed Sheriff. I understand their point.

Now, your great asset and advantage is that you are 27, only!

It's pretty young you live in America where the rate of unemployement is not that high and a lot of opportunities still await you at such young age, you know. Think about it and don't waste your time at whining.

Answer 6

Normally I would tell you to list the things you love to do and then try and find work relating to those interests but you have three kids and so you need to get real fast. I don't think you would be disqualified as a corrections officer for tatoos. Same venue, better hours and benefits. What about a school bus driver? They usually pay for your CDL test. How can you say you have no future when you have children? Waiting for your ship to come in? How about swimming out to meet it? You need a job right now to get you secure so you can relax and dream of something great. Good luck.

Answer 7

Consider giving 1-800-232-6459 http://www.family.org a call Monday-Friday business hours; a free, licensed counseling.

Also, http://www.patient-info.com/tattoo.htm and other such resources may be worthwhile. If you communicate with your sheriff department, and ask if the removal process would qualify you, that would possibly be a good step. http://people.howstuffworks.com/tattoo-removal4.htm also good.

If you have pressing concerns and would like to give http://www.klove.com a call, 1-800-525-LOVE at any hour, I believe.

Do keep your three children in mind; they do well with their daddy giving them self-esteem, role modeling virtues, patience, keeping on, and so forth.

If you're a reader, try reading "The Great Divorce," C. S. Lewis--maybe even as story time at night for your children. "Climb the Highest Mountain," Mark Prophet, "Men in White Apparel," Ann Ree Colton, and "Man, Master of His Destiny," might well be worthwhile.

Do make the calls. You are not alone, and these people care.

God loves you,

j.

p.s. For entertainment, http://www.coasttocoastam.com radio (click on "Affiliates" button for local station) has some good guests on.

Answer 8

We are not lost, incompetent, or dysfunctional humans who were born into a wise and nurturing society. We are inner-directed, completely capable and healthy human beings who were born into an oppressed society. The same forces that have oppressed humanity through thousands of years of totalitarian control are still separating each of us from being in contact with our inner wisdom and power. If you deeply believe the false and disempowering information this culture has fed you, it may be hard for you to hear this, but I believe it's the only truly helpful answer I can offer.

We have the knowledge of our highest destiny inside of us and we have the power to make it come true. If you don't know this it means you have been disconnected from your inner self. Instead of running your mind 24 hrs. a day trying to figure out what to do, start meditating (centering, finding your center, finding yourself) or doing something that stops the mental chatter and lets you hear the voice in your heart. That is your only true guide.

Your power is in your attention. Whatever you give your attention to, you are inviting into your life. Keep your attention on visions of the future that make you feel good and you will bring that future into your life. When you feel bad, it means your attention is on something you don't want --- and you are in that moment inviting more of what you don't want into your life.

Answer 9

This isn't a rebuttal but ...........................................................
" I cried because I had no shoes for my feet, then I saw a man with no feet"......................................................
So many times I've used that to put things into perspectives in my own life. It often works.
Man you got gold in your hands with children and life to breath and think. And you are still young!! I'm in my early fifties with no family no children and no viable work. I got dogs for kids. ( gotta love those wee things) You have daughters. You have a life. I am coming to the end of mine.
Still all I see is the good fortune I have. Food, shelter, clothing, warmth, a sweet wife and most of all GOD. He is not the least in my life He is the first and foremost. I live according to what He wants. So I go to Him when I feel like you do now. (I'm bipolar) So I'm on my knees to God constantly for help and you know what? He helps!
So that is what I would suggest, go to God. And the rest of your life? He will take care of it. Yours and your children's.
A lot of people here have given good advice as well. That nursing trade looks good! Try it.

Answer 10

You wanna do something Great? Raise your little ones to be Great Persons. Teach them how to be great. Set an example for them by working hard and being honest, try again and you will succeed.

Dont waste your time. Go to school if you can. Your family will give you strength and happiness. God Bless You.

Answer 11

Hey as long as u are putting food on the table and providing shelter dont worry, most people go through this at some point of their life..You have 3 little girls who im sure love you..Dont give up on them..Keep trying...Remember when one door closes another one opens :-)