Well, recently my guy friend has turned all of my jokes into serious consideration including buying stockings (since they're conveniently in HotTopic where most of my clothes are) and bra (since I never own anythin Victoria Secretly's pink). I am not sure if that's normal or if not, how do I tell him to stop buying me those stuffs without hurting him
2007-11-28 19:14:21 · 11 answers · asked by Turtle N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sounds like your guy friend is interested in a more intimate relationship =) I guess the moral here is: never joke with the fox about visiting the hen house!
2007-11-28 19:22:20 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-26 04:57:50 · answer #2 · answered by mayne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-25 04:37:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank him for being so nice. Then tell him that you feel very awkward about accepting those kinds of gifts from a friend. Tell him that you will not accept any more gifts of that nature. Tell him that friends should not exchange gifts of such a personal nature.
It appears to me that he is trying to get into your pants by mking your "jokes into serious considerations". He is definitely interested in you, I am absolutely sure about that!!!
You are leading him on by accepting those gifts too. You need to stop it immediately, unless you are interested.
2007-11-28 19:21:21 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you have a hang up on ice feminine things, Yes it is normal, I have drawers full of stockings and lingerie gifts given to me by guys. What's your problem, Maybe the guy is trying to give you a hint that women ought to dress like women not men.
2007-11-30 10:28:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Simply explain to him that it makes you uncomfortable, but that you thought it was so sweet of him to consider getting those for you.
Personally if my guy friends did that, I wouldn't mind it at all. They're more like brothers to me anyway, and ended up buying most of my clothing through the years. But I know everyone's different about their limitations and comfort levels.
2007-11-28 19:18:01 · answer #6 · answered by icedfantasies 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Those are perfectly acceptable gifts if you share that level of intimacy with him. If not tell him you are uncomfortable with them, because you don't share that level of intimacy.
Don't worry about his feelings first, take care of yours. He may be hinting that's he interested in more intimacy, but this isn't the best way to do that. Talk openly and honestly and with kindness.
2007-11-28 19:20:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he wants to be more than your friend. If you don`t want this, then you`ll have to say something, even if it means hurting him.
Say something like: I really appreciate the things you get me, but ... you must stop, I want your friendship not your gifts, and not both.
If he`s a genuine friend then he`ll do as you ask.
2007-11-28 19:21:37 · answer #8 · answered by Tatty 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you pretty much need to come out and tell him - as gently as you can - that you would rather pick out your own bras and stockings. He should understand as long as you're nice about it.
2007-11-30 06:50:11 · answer #9 · answered by DB32 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that you don't feel comfortable when he buys you those things. Let him know you appreciate his thoughtfulness, and it's nothing against him, but you'd rather he not buy you any more.
2007-11-28 19:20:21 · answer #10 · answered by michelleinwa 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋